Marriage & Divorce - 21 November 2006

To try to sum things up, I've been married for 5 years. We've been through a lot. My husband has been physically, verbally, and emotional abusive. I believe he has cheated but I'm not sure. I admitted to cheating with a woman a few years ago - and he still throws it up at me. I am now pregnant and in my third trimester. He's never around!!! We live in a remote area and he's all I have. He has been intentionally going on trips and leaving me at home alone. I've been going to most appts and even to prenatal classes by myself (with 10+ couples and me being the only one alone). He's been yelling and screaming at me and calling me all kinds of names. He hasn't helped me with anything around the house or period. I am seriously considering leaving. I feel like if he doesn't want to be around and help support me through this pregnancy then why bother? What do you think?

2006-11-21 04:29:49 · 31 answers · asked by Lia 1

2006-11-21 04:24:58 · 13 answers · asked by ©smegma 1

my parents doesnt even let me explain about him... their perception on internet love is horrible!! HeLp!!

2006-11-21 04:24:06 · 9 answers · asked by shariffah r 1

They had such a good relationship and lost their first born son .
It was such a terrible situation.
They were together for eight years and wev'e been together for three.
Now that we have a son, why do I dream about their relationship together.

2006-11-21 04:22:30 · 16 answers · asked by Jstylez2006 1

And following separation the ex-wife obtains a bf in just three months and then soon afterwards invites him to essentially live in the marital home. What is going on in her head?

2006-11-21 04:22:13 · 12 answers · asked by neutral 2

he was faithfull for 14yrs and now this has turned our 3 sons and my life into a disaster, It's so hard as she is a friend of a friend and i hear everything that is going on. He wont talk to me. he just keeps telling me he hates me,,,for some reason i dont believe him. i am so confused i dont know how i am going to get through this.

2006-11-21 04:18:10 · 16 answers · asked by lilaclace11 1

who i was hanging out with for a good few months..He paid for everything..even a recent trip i went on with my girlfriend....
In turn i met someone on my trip who was single and i fell for him ,,we are now together..the married guy found out and at first wanted to leave his wife i said noway...so then he called and said he wanted every cent he spent on me back..and it was also with a threat...
what steps can i take and what do i need to do.....

2006-11-21 04:16:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it okay for a married man to be friends with a girl 12 yrs younger than he is and not tell his wife when he sees her? Especially after he's been caught lying about his whereabouts and hasn't made ANY effort to apologize for lying or attempt make it up to his wife? And why do men become so cruel and use the excuse that his wife's become a b*&@h which is why he's friends with this girl and he wants a separation to 're-evaluate' things but then without ANY explanation switches back to everyday living like nothing's ever happened, being the loving, attentive husband expecting the hurt and pain to disappear without dealing with any issues?

2006-11-21 04:15:20 · 16 answers · asked by Kathy S 1

i am 32 weeks pregnant ....i have been married for 3 years. I became pregnant when
my husband and I were split up ....my child is for another man. I have so many regrets but i can not change them. My husband and I got back together before I found out I was pregnant. When he found out he told me he forgave me...this has been so hard on me. I feel so guilty.Some people know the truth. And a lot of rumors have gone around. The man I became pregnant for is fine about my husband raising the baby and when asked he denys the child. Should I every tell my child the truth? My husband loves this child already so much.

2006-11-21 04:07:58 · 28 answers · asked by ME 1

We have 3 small kids. He treated me bad for 11 yrs but I let him I guess. I have recently started standing up to him and feeling strong enough to leave him. I don't know if I will be in love with him again like before. He was very controlling and jealous. Do you think I can get the love back or is it a lost cause..

2006-11-21 04:06:10 · 8 answers · asked by 2strongfor2long 3

I ask this question bcz I have offer from different age group? All r elligible.But if I consider qualification,society or standered I need to go for higher age group. Do u think this will be reasonable?

2006-11-21 04:05:59 · 22 answers · asked by ogmansur 2

I was wondering what would happen if my mom stayed single?
What if I wasn't existing at all? would she be happier being single because I broke something and slamed the door in front of her face. Is it bad luck to break something in front of my parents?

2006-11-21 04:05:34 · 14 answers · asked by April Ann Codon Cruz 2

Typical story, Ex thought the grass was greener on the other side, now 3 years later I've moved on and she tells me she's full of regret and hates the fact that she did not want to work on it back when. I feel bad, sorry for her. I went through an emotional Hell when she was so sure their was someone else she claimed was better suited for her. I pleaded to give it time, but she asked for a divorce 2 months after being separated, I waited 7 months before filing, even left the door open. I realized after 2 years, that I was allowing her to run my life, I made a decision to take control and moved on with someone else.

2006-11-21 04:02:57 · 14 answers · asked by RDJ2006 1

I've been engaged for one year and one month. I must have asked him six times "when's the date"? It came out during the weekend that he already chose a date. He chose it after the fourth time I asked him, but I was never told. When I asked the fifth and sixth times, I was asked "why are you in such a rush?"

You might ask me why did I ask so many times? First, if I had gotten an answer the first time, I wouldn't have had to ask five more times, and secondly, I do believe I was to be one of the people to get married so that pretty much gave me the right to know. Once I heard him say he already picked the date, I lost it, people!!! I gave the ring back...was I right?

His side of the story is he wanted to surprise me and it's not like he did it nicely. He made me feel horrible; like I was begging and like I wasn't good enough for him. If he even said "give me until the end of the year to decide, I would have gave him that. I wasn't ready to get married this year anyway.

2006-11-21 04:00:04 · 24 answers · asked by jeanettebrivera 1

I read and answer questions under marriage & divorce, even have posted a few myself asking 4 help in my marriage, and the majority of answers r get a divorce. Divorce is not the answer, if u get divorced, the chances r that u will just get together with the exact same person in a different package & end up in the same place that u r in now (that was told 2 me by a marriage counselor). Y do people not try 2 make their marriage work anymore? In the old days, uwere shunned 4 getting a divorce, now, ppl go 2 the altar thinking "if it doesn't work, if I don't get my way, if I am not happy, I can always get a divorce!" What happened 2 the morals in this country? I think Yahoo-ers need 2 give real advice if they want 2 answer a question, not just say "get a divorce" 2 get their 2 pts. If that is the best advice u have, go 2 a different category 2 answer questions. Give advice on how to really make it work, what worked 4 u and what they can try 2 make it work 4 them. Help ppl on here.

2006-11-21 03:58:24 · 15 answers · asked by ltlchk_2 2

have an aunt who likes to be the favorite of everybody & likes to be the center of attention. Although she is much younger than my mom she bosses my mom around & is rude to my mom. My mom is affraid of her & can't stand up for herself. I was a fool on discussing my problems I had with my sis to my aunt. She promised she won't tell anyone but told everything to her daughers. They told my sis everything about what I told my aunt along with a bunch of lies. When my brother inlaw went back home to my country to visit he found out that my aunt had called someone back home to my country & said that my mom & I are traveling country after country looking for a man to marry but her kids all have white boyfriends & have college degree. I went to europe with mom to visit a sick relative last year not to find a man. I met a wonderful white man at church & now engaged. My aunt is upset I don't discuss anything with her anymore or my wedding plans. Now she is rude to my mom & angry with me.

2006-11-21 03:56:05 · 6 answers · asked by Lucy L 1

would it be rude to ask her if I can do it in there ?

2006-11-21 03:51:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-21 03:50:49 · 15 answers · asked by rachel76 1

how are teens getting into marriage so easily and so quickly?

2006-11-21 03:47:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi i just turned 20 and have been married a year just about to my hubby who is 24 years old going on 25. We dated 5 months before getting engaged the 6 th month and married the next week in vegas. I am still in college and he wants to start a family wants our first child now!He has been hasseling me non stop about having kids.He also wants me to stay home with them and be a stay at home mom.There seems to be no comprimise with him . Recently i bumped into and old friend and we had lunch and i realized that i dont feel like myself when i am with my hubby. I thought the second thoughts i had before the wedding were cold feet now i am not so sure.?

2006-11-21 03:41:55 · 42 answers · asked by Carla M 1

Male friend of over a decade ago , lets call him Dan, calls unsuspectedly and tells me he used to have a bad crush on me. It was obvious from the phone call he never got over it. I always knew but never led him on. We were more like best friends. Today he has never married and has no kids. I'm married with children. My marriage is a disaster but he doesn't know that, I don't think?! We are miles away from each other. For now I hope to work on my marriage and really don't know what the future holds. I do know that Dan is a wonderful guy, well a man now, with strong values and really deserves someone without a past and someone that can correspond him like he deserves. I know I'm not the one for him and even if I thought I was... I'm taken, so to speak. I'm glad to hear from my "friend" I have actually missed that friendship. I am flattered but uncomfortable to hear about his crush because I can't correspond. What would you do about this without losing a wonderful friend?

2006-11-21 03:40:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

have my mba and will earn somewhere around 110k this year, maybe a bit more. i sort of feel that my job is a cakewalk now and no longer a challenge. i have sort of lost my career motivation. to an extent, i care and to a larger extent i no longer do. my wife on occasion will ask me when i am going to start looking for another job and i just tell her in another month . sort of feel like i just want to enjoy life rather than stress myself out by taking some 200k a year job managing 100 or more people. i really dont care whether we stay in our 3 bedroom 1 1/2 bath home in northern new jersey or upgrade to something bigger. i also think it wouldnt be the end of the world if my kids had to take out college loans. i sort of feel like i have achieved enough. maybe i would feel different if i wasnt making enough to make ends meet. my wife makes about 45k a year so its not like i feel any embarrassment about what i am earning. ladies, would you be disappointed if your husband had this attitude?

2006-11-21 03:39:53 · 14 answers · asked by jeremy k 1

OK, my husband works for a big company that does signs, all kinds, and my brother in-law comment me that he needs to replace the signs on his restaurant. My husband was right next to me when I was speaking with my brother-in-law. So then I told my brother-in-law that maybe my husband can help him out, better yet could maybe get him a quote from where he works. My brother-in-law said that he was thinking on asking my husband for the same things. Then later that night, we brought it up and my husband then said that I say too much. That now I got him tied up with the issue of the signs with my brother in law. I told him, "All your going to do is just a quote"!! What's the big deal! My husband said that I should of asked him first....that I made a decision that he should of made. I told him that he's just over reacting to something small. I told my husband," your not going to do any labor, work in any way, you only going to get him a quote!! I didn't think he would mind.What do you think

2006-11-21 03:36:31 · 27 answers · asked by Maria A 3

A married woman with marital problems finds someone on the net to listen to her problems and now they are talking on the phone, but refuses to meet the man. Is she cheating? Why do you think she will not meet him, even though they are close on the net and phone?

2006-11-21 03:36:14 · 20 answers · asked by HM 3

I am an only child to my parents. Right from my young age i have never done any house hold work.(I taught i can learn at the age of 23). I m 22 now. I dont know even abc in Cooking. . My dad become ill now. So Suddenly my marriage is fixed on 1 st decembr(with the person i loved). The family which i am going to enter is a sweet family but strict too. I know that my father in law and mother in law is very strict (my would be told). He is the only child to his parents like me. So we have to take care of their parents (but i dont know how). I am really scared. Can you say me how should i behave in their house to get their blessings.(my mother in law dint accept me as her daughter in law with full mind, due to my would be force she accepted me as her daughter in law) please help me

2006-11-21 03:33:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

We were well umm you figure it out and I missed and blew her eye out. Any ideas' as to how to explain this to friends and family ?

2006-11-21 03:32:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am only human, and I know I rushed into things. Please don't judge. I did what I did, sometimes there is no explanation for things. But here is my story. I was single and living on my own for many years, always looking for the big love, dreaming about getting married...etc. I never was unhappy though. I thought that by having a man in my life I could be even happier. So after many disaster dates, I met B. at the end of May 2006. I fell in love right away, because he is an extreme gentleman and treats me like gold. We ended up getting married in Las Vegas on July 4th. Everything was very overwhelming and at that point, my feelings started changing and I started feeling caged in. Now we are planning for a formal wedding next year. I am not excited about it at all. I tried to talk to him about my feelings of feeling overwhelmed and that we got married to fast...but he gets very upset and can't understand. He is very sensitive and I realize more and more that perhaps we are not a good

2006-11-21 03:29:03 · 16 answers · asked by tscheggl 1

2006-11-21 03:27:44 · 68 answers · asked by Wisdom 4

I can tell my dad still loves my mom

2006-11-21 03:27:27 · 13 answers · asked by arkaelamcghee 2

I suspect it tempting to want to go to counseling just because it would be nice to have referee for the relationship and someone to determine who is officially right or wrong. I think that is what the majority of people who enter couseling are hoping for.

That does not mean I don't understand there are plenty of couples out there whose communication issues have been helped through counseling. But if a smart man and a smart woman already have good communication...wouldn't they be better off solving things themselves instead?

2006-11-21 03:23:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous