2006-11-21 04:24:58 · 13 answers · asked by ©smegma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Right in the middle of it right now after 18 years, three kids (all girls). It is the worse think I have ever had to endure emotionally. I keep asking myself through it all; am I doing the right thing, and the answer is yes. My wife told me to step up and be a man, so I did. I could type forever, would probably cry after a few more sentences. It really boils down to:
1) You have a right to be happy on this limited time on this earth.
2) How can you be the Best parent for your children.
I want to show them someday what being in a normal, healthy, happy relationship is all about. That way, the might actually have a chance of finding one on their own someday. I want to love and be loved the way that feels real to me. I want to enjoy life with my kids and friends and not feel that I am never good enough for her. I hope she kind find happiness on this earth because it was not with me.
Good luck my friend,
Toxic
2006-11-21 04:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Toxic Tommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got divorced at 22 after 3 years of marriage.We didn't own a house,car together, or have kids so it was hard but not as hard as it would have been for someone that had all of that stuff. Even though it was a relief to be divorced, I still miss him at times and it hurts to think that all the memories we have are over.
2006-11-21 12:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very emotional usually. Depending on how long you were married and if there are children involved, it can be very traumatizing. It changes your life. For me it was 18 years and three children. Even though I feel now that it was one of the best decisions that I ever made, it was a very painful year. It's hard to get over spending that much time with someone and now they are no longer a part of your life. I am so much happier now with someone new, though, who makes me proud and delights me with his presence in my life. I have a whole different life now than when I was married. I eat differently. I have new hobbies and friends (you do find out who your friends are). I have different life goals and I am more introspective. Divorce is also expensive and time consuming.
2006-11-21 12:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people liken divorce to the death of a loved one. No matter how you may have felt about that person, it still hurts to lose them. Divorce is similar. No matter what feelings you have for your spouse, you still mourn the death of the relationship itself. You go through all the phases of grief that accompany death...only sometimes the pain is worse for divorce. You know that when someone dies they are gone, but when the person you have loved deeply leaves you (especially for someone else) you know that they are still out there...living, laughing, having a life without you in it. It hurts.......
2006-11-21 12:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by SUSAN N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through a divorce roughly three years ago. Considering the horror stories I've heard, I got off easy. I let my ex pretty much keep everything with the intention that my daughters were still living in the house with her so it was more for them (in my mind).
The hardest part for me was no longer living with my kids. My ex and I are friendly enough now that I get them pretty much on request, but its still difficult knowing we're living in separate houses.
2006-11-21 12:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by Gwydyon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much the same as having all of your dreams yanked out from under your feet like a big rug. Then, while you are still laying on the ground, being kicked several times in the kidneys. You often feel helpless, betrayed, hurt, like the wind has been knocked out of you, and worse. You feel like a piece of you has died and that you've lost the person you thought you were closest to in the world.
Before my ex left me citing that he wanted to pursue a different type of happiness (sexually), I had always thought we were happy. Apparently, I was the only one that was content and still in love. He is in love with someone new every few months now thanks to online dating.
2006-11-21 12:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very difficult!! especially if there are children involved. if it's going to happen make the transition as fast and as smooth as possible. before you divorce you should make sure you really want that. it does change alot of people. some for the good some for the bad.
2006-11-21 12:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Peyton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their are children, it is the agony of defeats.There are no winners, everyone loses.The cost of lawyers is hurtful. divorce is not painless, but through time it eases.To lose a partner this way is to be defeated, but it is a common practice nowadays when we admit defeat, is to shed your former mate
2006-11-21 12:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got with him when i was14 ..now 23 and two kids later..It's really hard..I wish i didn't have to go through this but it's for the best..We just don't get along anymore..we grew abart
2006-11-21 12:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks. It's like going through death - you grieve the loss of the person - but you move on.
2006-11-21 12:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by Zelda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋