have an aunt who likes to be the favorite of everybody & likes to be the center of attention. Although she is much younger than my mom she bosses my mom around & is rude to my mom. My mom is affraid of her & can't stand up for herself. I was a fool on discussing my problems I had with my sis to my aunt. She promised she won't tell anyone but told everything to her daughers. They told my sis everything about what I told my aunt along with a bunch of lies. When my brother inlaw went back home to my country to visit he found out that my aunt had called someone back home to my country & said that my mom & I are traveling country after country looking for a man to marry but her kids all have white boyfriends & have college degree. I went to europe with mom to visit a sick relative last year not to find a man. I met a wonderful white man at church & now engaged. My aunt is upset I don't discuss anything with her anymore or my wedding plans. Now she is rude to my mom & angry with me.
2006-11-21 03:56:05 · 6 answers · asked by Lucy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move on without your aunt. Keep planning your wedding with your mother. Don't worry about negative feelings. And don't apologize, and your mom shouldn't be afraid of her. But keep your head up!
2006-11-21 04:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by ღStarzzღ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lead your life and leave her to lead hers. Just explain the situation to your fiance and then don't do anything. Don't share any information with her if you don't want it broadcast to the world. The more attention you give her for such behavior the worse it will be. Also, she may have some degree of mental illness that is contributing to the behavior. You can choose your friends, your partner, where you work, etc., but you can't choose your family - you have what you have and they are who they are. There isn't much you can do about your family.
2006-11-21 12:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first thing you do is forgive her, you don't need to call her and tell her you forgive her, that would cause problems, but forgive her, so you can move on, second thing you need to do, is cut her off, don't tell her anymore problems, limit the time you spend with her, if she is like any of my relatives your life is better when there not in it. if you do speak with her, you only talk about weather, sports, fashion, nothing too juicy know what I mean, also with holidays coming up, you will have a better time, if you didn't see her, let her be with her family, but you have family also, and you don't have to be with her.
2006-11-21 12:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is love her the best you can and keep your business to yourself. Ask her questions about her kids and what she is doing to keep the focus off you. I have an Aunt like that too. Best wishes!
2006-11-21 11:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have started well.Stop confiding in her.You should just learn to live with her.Her problem with your mum is their problem.You mum may just not want to bring herself down to engage her in a fight.By the time you reduce the time you spend with her the less she knows and the less she talks.
2006-11-21 12:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by joenneka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the woman or put her in her place once and for all !
2006-11-21 11:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋