Marriage & Divorce - 21 November 2006

I was asked to go to work, to help pay bills and etc. Plus still be responsible to do all housework, the kids and homework, cooking, shopping and etc. Before marriage, I work, and had a roommate and did not have sex with my roommate. How can I separate this feeling that now I am a provider, protector and meet all of my own needs, when it is the man responsiblity to be the provider and protector? He also stated that I would pay my food at restuarants and etc. but I already do that with my girlfriends to hang out but not expected nor want sex with them, but yet he wants sex! Where is the romance? Where is the gentleman? Why do I have be the gentleman too? I feel like a freak, being feminine, being obedience now I have to be a man too makes feel feel awkward! Does anyone feel this way. Yes I am old fashioned, so I thought my husband to, but I guess not. The prices of childcare and etc., clothing, lunches and extra costs for me to work, will not be extra income as he thinks!

2006-11-21 08:52:50 · 7 answers · asked by ourjacobdavid 4

heres the situation. i've been dating a guy for 5 years and we've talked about marriage. he's suppose to be paying child support but hasn't been doing so. i know this is bad and i didn't find out about this till about 2 years ago. i've obviosly decided to stay with him. but he owes about 25k right now. i've been thinking what this could do to us. if we were to get married he says we can file separate taxes and not share bank accounts and get a prenup. i dont really know too much about the prenup. will this protect me and my assets? i don't like the idea of a prenup. it's a just in case thing. but in this case he makes it seem like it's necessary due to the child support thing. any info will help

2006-11-21 08:46:59 · 24 answers · asked by sexy-cecy 3

2006-11-21 08:45:39 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-21 08:44:38 · 10 answers · asked by julie s 2

my husbands exwife trys to control him by using their 7yr old son as bait to get what she wants.She is jealous that we are married and i have a good relationship with their son.she has made it very clear she wants me to stay out off her sons life.Here are a few examples if my husband can not watch him she is to be called to come and get him i am not allowed to watch him.i am not allowed to have any contact with his school and the list goes on.i have never tryed to "play mom" with her son or said anything bad about her in front of him.my husband allows all this to go on as he says he can't control what she does but he will not even confront her about any of this stuff as he knows she will attack him.So we just allow her to say and do what ever she wants.I think he should stand up to her but he will not in fear it will hurt his son.should i just let this go and just not be involved in his sons life as this seems to really bother his ex wife.

2006-11-21 08:44:34 · 17 answers · asked by janegreener08 1

My husband constantly use verbal abuse me towards.me He constantly call me dumb and stupid @** I ask him over and over again to please stop because it hurts. I had the heartfelt talk with him several time. He'll stop doing it for like a week then he starts doing it again. When we have disagreements and argument the name calling gets worst it goes from me being called stupid to dumb, ugly b!***. We get along really well until he get in these name calling moods. I just don't understand why he talks to me like that. I do everything for him. He told me the other day he only talk to me like that and no one else.

2006-11-21 08:33:54 · 34 answers · asked by Coco S 1

can you forgive them today ?and try to live in peace with them? for it is so much better to love then to hate do not let the sun go down on your anger for it is only you that it hurts

2006-11-21 08:29:12 · 11 answers · asked by jamnjims 5

Quick and simple question:-
How many people would be interested in serious relationship with 35 year old bipolar mother of three, divorced?

2006-11-21 08:28:34 · 14 answers · asked by poolk j 1

Why sleep in the garage when I was able to snuggle up with the dog to stay warm after my wife kicked me out of the house for seeing how far I could shoot milk out of my nose?

2006-11-21 08:18:07 · 15 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

how I can feel better soon?
What can I do to get over this "disappointed in my spouse" feeling.
I would like to salp him silly for lying about certain things!!!!

2006-11-21 08:17:32 · 6 answers · asked by Tanyah 3

My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years and I have caught him 5 times talking to other women on the internet. One of the times he was sending a picture of his private part to them and trying to set up a date so she could give him a *$@!-Job. Another time he was trying to set up dates with girls around the area. He keeps promising me that he will never do it again. The last two times that I caught him was when I was 7 months pregnant with our 2nd son, and then again 1 month after he was born; he is now 2 months old. He swears he loves me, and I know that he does, but then why does he keep doing it? I am not even going to bother to try to see if he is doing it agian cause I am tired of it. Plus, he rarely wants to have sex with me. I have to beg him for a straight week before he actually does. I am not fat or "ugly" or anything, I have no stretch marks on my stomache and am a good wife to him. Someone please tell me what you think. I have chosen to stay and deal with it, but maybe I shouldn't...but I love him so much.

2006-11-21 08:13:11 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-21 08:12:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, here's the thing. My marriage is a disaster. My mind tells me I should have left my husband a long time ago but I'd forgive and forget and try to carry on with the pieces. My faith tells me to stay put. My heart is caught in the middle not knowing what to do. There are children involved. We are going through counseling and I think there's "some" hope. After everything that's happened I ended up hurt by his actions and in turn am hurting him with my indecision. Yet, he remains. So, there's hope. I can forgive and even forget but I know he's just not that into me and quite frankly I'm not that into him. We'd like to make it work especially for the children. So, how do we get the spark back into our marriage from here? I don't trust him yet. I know that's a big problem. We've had sex again and this was difficult for me but enjoyable anyway. However, I don't want to engage in sex for now because I don't want to confuse sexual feelings with loving feelings. Now what?

2006-11-21 08:05:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Some of us do not type or spell everything correctly. Ok so what. Why do people take the time simply to post that you misspelled something? Like an A-ha I got you. Ok, does that make them feel better about themselves? Half the time if you go look at some of thier post there are misspelled words everywhere. They just found the word they can spell in you post.Adds nothing to the forum. Does anyone else grow tired of this?

2006-11-21 08:04:17 · 14 answers · asked by Brian 5

2006-11-21 07:59:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

am with someone been with them for 4years now how do i say i dont love them and ive sad every day am with them please help

2006-11-21 07:58:23 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out that my husband has been chatting on line with another woman, in another state for 3-4 months. Their "chatting" consists of explicit sex talk. I feel like this is cheating, he doesn't. Who is right?

2006-11-21 07:58:18 · 27 answers · asked by audinoz69 1

I recently found out that my husband signed up with a dirty website. I don't like that at all and I would like to know if it is considered cheating. I am disturbed over this especially with him lying about it.

2006-11-21 07:57:52 · 23 answers · asked by synlopez 1

Strange question I know, I am a dad to 17 year old, brought him up on my own and he has left home to follow his chosen career, i came in from work tonight and had the strange feeling that the house had now died. Has anyone else ever felt this.

2006-11-21 07:56:43 · 15 answers · asked by rastus 1

I have been married to my wife for 5 years. We have been togeather for 9, started dating when were were seniors in college. I only had sex with one other gril before her. Once we graduated we both moved in with eachother as we got our first jobs, started with little money but we had fun. Partied like rock stars! we had kick as' sex, she even had her friend join in for a threesome time to time. All of that continued right up till we got married even 1 year into it. Now both of us have good paying jobs, all of the things we ever wanted, now a 1 year old child. We hardly have any action in the bedroom ect. I know my wife complains that she is not as hot as she used to be, she did gain some weight after we got married ect. but i still tell her i love her it dosnt matter. but still nothing in the bedroom really. anyone else been though this?

2006-11-21 07:49:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-21 07:49:15 · 12 answers · asked by Simone R 1

Last week my husband and I got into a huge fight and he threatened to leave me. We have a daughter, she's 2. I told him that the hurt i would feel wouldn't begin to compare to the hurt of our child if he left. We somewhat worked our problems out but i don't think he will stay...eventually i think he will leave us. what do you think? Will it fail?

2006-11-21 07:48:31 · 21 answers · asked by mcshankel04 2

2006-11-21 07:44:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm married, i have 2 children, a house and a job and i'm very happy. But what is there to look forward to now? (not in a fickle way).

2006-11-21 07:36:13 · 44 answers · asked by sammyantha 4

My husband and I have been together since teenagers. I love him so much and don't want a divorce. However, he has entered a Ph.D. program and now thinks he doesn't need me and his two children. Get this, his degree is in helping children with Autism but our son is autistic and already handling this separation badly (having fits, hitting, screaming, etc). I know my husband is being a real jerk and loser, but he was once a nice church going man. We gave up everything for him to come here and do this. How do you stop hurting and more importantly, how do you stop loving someone with which you've spent 15 years?

2006-11-21 07:31:03 · 14 answers · asked by StormyC 5

i have a question i was with my bf for 3 yrs things was going ok until i got pregnant and it was a high risk pregnancy and was put on bed rest i went from 145 to almost 200 pounds. i was almost 8 months pregnant we got in a fight he left 2 days later i heard he was living with this chic. suposivley they met the night he left we stayed broke up and just a couple of weeks before i had the baby he said he loves me misses me wants me back. then after the baby on valentines day to make things worse he had her at our house and locked the door so me and my daughter couldnt come in. then he was with her again 2 days b4 my bday. ok now he wants me back after being broke up for a few months. the chic he was with is skinny but not pretty he tells me im prettier than her and im so much more than she is then why would he leave and do the things he did? my wieght right? and how do i know if he is really over her? and do you believe he just met her the same night we broke? and is he forgivable

2006-11-21 07:27:35 · 24 answers · asked by cute redhead 6

Do men really change after marriage?

2006-11-21 07:25:09 · 31 answers · asked by jazette 2

2006-11-21 07:03:17 · 25 answers · asked by Thebronx 5

This started for me after my cousin who is 1 year older than me moved into an apartment we have behind our house. He and his wife got a divorce and he needed a place to stay. He has two kids that live with his ex. He has a job but is around all the time and has become almost like part of the family. Anyway we all get along very well and I started to think about my wife having sex with him. It turns me on. Not sure why. We are in our mid 30s. I told her of my fantasy while having sex and she said that it kind of turned her on too. We have talked about it several times. Each time I brought it up. She said that if I really wanted to she would put on a robe with nothing else on but I would have to walk her out to his apartment. The only stipulation she put on this was that she would not ask him to ware a condom. So we have developed this detailed fantasy and I believe she would if I tell her I am ready. I really do but I am also a little worried about how it would end. Opinion anyone?

2006-11-21 07:02:48 · 27 answers · asked by Brian 5

i need answers please

2006-11-21 07:02:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous