i have a question i was with my bf for 3 yrs things was going ok until i got pregnant and it was a high risk pregnancy and was put on bed rest i went from 145 to almost 200 pounds. i was almost 8 months pregnant we got in a fight he left 2 days later i heard he was living with this chic. suposivley they met the night he left we stayed broke up and just a couple of weeks before i had the baby he said he loves me misses me wants me back. then after the baby on valentines day to make things worse he had her at our house and locked the door so me and my daughter couldnt come in. then he was with her again 2 days b4 my bday. ok now he wants me back after being broke up for a few months. the chic he was with is skinny but not pretty he tells me im prettier than her and im so much more than she is then why would he leave and do the things he did? my wieght right? and how do i know if he is really over her? and do you believe he just met her the same night we broke? and is he forgivable
2006-11-21 07:27:35 · 24 answers · asked by cute redhead 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He did what he did because he's an azz and he keeps going back and forth because you are letting him do this to you. I suggest you get rid of him for good.
2006-11-21 07:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way in hell, he met her the same night he left. She was a spade in his back pocket. He keeps coming back because you allow him to. He had that same girl (any girl) in your house and behind locked doors. Stand up for yourself woman!!! Kick his @ss to the curb. The only time he is coming back to you is when he is treating the other chic the same way he is treating you! can't you see the pattern..he's bouncing between the both of you !!!!Seems pretty chickensh1t to me!!!
Your weight has nothing to do with it...just because a person SAYS he loves you does not mean that he does...you can tell when a person loves you by the way they treat you ....and from what you have described he doesn't love you the way you should be loved. He loves the convenience you create for him..."oooh I pissed off my new girlfriend...I guess I'll have to go stay with my old girlfriend" He is a real pile of sh1t!!!! You can do way better.
Besides when and if you lose the weight...he'll still be a j@ack@ss.
Be done with him..do yourself and your kids a favor...let him go. Besides if you continue with this relationship you are teaching your little girl that it is okay to be treated this way in a relationship...is that what you really want for her??? Remember how you live your life is the only truth she will ever know!!
2006-11-21 15:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not forgivable, not acceptable, not humane. He is teating you like a toy something to play with today and put down and then come back to whenever he feels like. And I am sorry to say you let him treat you this way. Yes u may have weight but appearance is not everything. You gained the weight because of the baby you can lose it and more if only you want to. You can look pretty and nice andI think you had better look for another man shw him you can get another better man. Be proud of youself flaunt ur inner beauties and get a real man this time. Dont let him in your house not even to see his child if he want to see her meet at a park or something. How on earth can he lock u and your child out of your own house? CHange the locks or do something whatever u do dont let him back in and go do something good for yourself or your child. Get some selfesteem and self confidence and you will go a long way.
2006-11-21 15:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weight has nothing to do with it. You may be prettier than her, but his only purpose in telling you that is to get you back. Why focus on the physical traits, anyway? If he would lock his own daughter and girlfriend out of the house they share together, he is not only a bad boyfriend, but a bad father as well. And it's hard to believe that he would move in with someone only two days after knowing them, so it is likely he knew the other woman beforehand. Even if he is over her, there will probably be someone else before long. As for forgiveness, it makes sense to me not to forgive someone who's just going to hurt me again. However, it's your decision. I believe that you and your daughter deserve better than that, though. Whatever you decide, good luck in finding a resolution.
2006-11-21 15:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here's a real honest answer, but first let me ask you a question. Are you okay with your weight? Are you satisfied with your weight? Or do you feel emotionally distraut over it? If you are okay then good. To answer your question, Drop this dirty bastard. Find someone else, but instead of looking for Mr. Fine, get Mr. Fine for you. He may be a few pounds heavier, but you two would have more in common. That's the reason I asked those first two or three questions. If you have someone who understands the little things, like your weight then you won't have the issue of someone sleeping with a smaller woman, eventhough you are more attrractive than the other. Don't sell yourself short by losing weight to be his ideal woman, be yourself and you will be happier. You wont have to worry if he is with the other homewrecker this day or that. Good Luck!
2006-11-21 15:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay Think about it. He's a cheater. He has continuously chose another woman over you and your daughter. Read that sentence again!!! Do you really want your daughter growing up thinking men can treat them this way and walk in and out of her life and she should just accept it??? You have to set an example for her NOW... Show her that men are suppose to love, respect and cherish women and treat them like ladies or precious gems to be handled gently not thrown to the side when they think something better comes along. Believe me there are men out there who will treat you and your daughter right and thats what you deserve!!! Good luck
2006-11-21 15:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey wake up and see him for what he is. You are a convient person for him to come back to. He probably knew the girl way before he said because he moved in with her too quickly. Now that you have a child, you don't have time to play games. Your child is very important and should come first. Your boyfriend will tell you anything nice to get back into your heart and your life. This will only continue until you put your foot down and tell him to get lost.
2006-11-21 15:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firt off,no he didn't just meet her.He was screwing around before he left.Second,she probably dumped him because he sounds like a loser.He just needs someone for sex right now and you were the logical choice.
DO NOT forgive him.Work on losing the weight you gained and find yourself a real man.
2006-11-21 15:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by oneidmnstr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt bother finish the whole story of yours. Heres what I can say. Leave the d*$khead and focus on your daughter. Don't drag your daughter with something not worth it. There are plenty of guys there who will be more worthy to be dad to your child than the biological assh*le!!
2006-11-21 15:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he did to you was unforgivable. He deserted you when you needed him the most, and he deserted his own child. I personally wouldn't be able to forgive him. Not to mention the fact that he's a cheater and I would always be wondering if he's out there doing it again.
Just take care of yourself and your child. And file for custody and child support.
2006-11-21 15:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
If you want to set your self up for more heartache then stay. people don't change and he is a spineless, cruel man.
If you are unhappy with yoru weightm tghen do something about it, you are not in bed rest now...
Good luck
2006-11-21 15:38:02 · answer #11 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋