Marriage & Divorce - 21 November 2006

My wife and I have been married for almost 2 years now. We have a newborn baby girl born july 4th. I buy my wife everything she asks for and then some. I have a few ideas of what to get for her for Christmas but lets face it, guys are not that great when it comes to buying things for their spouse. I get her flowers at least twice a month but that won't get me out of the doghouse if a screw this up. Any ideas would be great. Thanks!

2006-11-21 15:00:57 · 18 answers · asked by WHAT? 2

My husband of 14 years has been away from home all but 5 months of the past 2 years "military" this last time was for 5 months. When he came home 4 weeks ago i could tell he was depressed. Then he found out he had to leave for iraq he was only home 3 weeks. 2 days after finding out he asked for a divorce that was a shock. He said he loved me and always would he just wasn't happy. When asked if he met someone he said no there was no one else. He just didn't want to be married anymore just unhappy. I convinced him to hold off his decision or discussion sence he was leaving. 2 days after he left i found evidence he cheated. Has never admitted to cheating just that he met someone. Is still having contact with her from iraq and has run up a huge phone bill i now have to pay. I love him so much and know that some of well most of our problems are me and really started when he deployed 2 years ago. I just need and want him back. We have 2 wonderful boys. Give me some advice

2006-11-21 14:52:11 · 12 answers · asked by chell 1

i have been married almost 5 years, living together for seven years, and together for 10 years total. no children, but a 80 lb golden retriever whom we acquired together when the dog was a puppy. my husband has an engineering undergrad degree and a MBA from a prestigious university. he earns 6 figures plus annually. i have been in grad school throughout most of our marriage and only working part time. he has paid the majority of expenses over the years. we have no debt and about $200K in assets (mutual funds, IRA, stocks, etc). we own no real estate. we live in nj, a community property state. if we divorce, will i be entitled to half of our assets. we have no prenup. i am a designer and make considerably less than he does. please advise. thanks.

2006-11-21 14:50:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would the Methodist church or the Universal church perform a wedding without a state marriage license if the couple does not wish to obtain one?

2006-11-21 14:43:52 · 10 answers · asked by Mom of Marley 5

that happened to me with my ex wife, she also had a child before we got married, so that makes 3 children, by 3 men, not her husband. i found out after we seperated and she started cheating. i took a paternity test and found out she had been cheating the whole time. my oldest daughter is four and youngest is 2. but because we are divorced i have no legal rights to the children i were with from birth, whom i thaught were mine. she wont let me see them. one moment i was married with children and now im single with none. it hurts but i know i'm very lucky because alot of men wish they didnt have children by there ex wives.

2006-11-21 14:41:20 · 9 answers · asked by Mr Goodbar 2

Im just bored and im curious.. my mom actually got married when she was 18 but they divorced a wihle later.. thanks and have a good night

2006-11-21 14:39:53 · 26 answers · asked by ? 4

KISSING and maybe a little hand action is all that i want going on, but how can i SPICE IT UP?! HELP, thanks!

2006-11-21 14:35:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am divorced and live about 3000 miles away from my ex and child. I have a choice as to how to spend Thanksgiving.

I can spend with the Newly Singles Group (for people who have been married before but are now single) or spend it with some family friends.

The Newly Singles Group will be formal and not traditionally a Thansksgiving dinner. I only know a few of the people in the group and find it hard making small talk.

The family dinner will include my parents and other family friends that I grew up with. The problem is that I feel left out there because everyone is married and happily settled.

I am the only person whose life is a total mess. My job is not workking out, child is living away from and not doing too well and have had to move back in with my parents. I really don't have much good to talk about.

Its a hard decision. I don't know if I should attend both or just the luncheon with the newly singles.

2006-11-21 14:35:30 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

what does it feel like living without one of your parents?

2006-11-21 14:22:56 · 15 answers · asked by SweetieBear20 2

In other words why would someone say they have no respect for someone.

2006-11-21 14:16:36 · 14 answers · asked by ? 6

Ok there is this guy named jared .ya i know he sounds kinda wierd and all but he is sucha hunck! i just cant help but i want to mackout with him what shoul i do? or should we go all the way?? confused?

2006-11-21 14:15:01 · 13 answers · asked by wimbwin 2

would you perfer a guy who was well endowed or not so well endowed, or would it matter? remember everything else is equal.

2006-11-21 14:14:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

A custody order exist from the state of North Carolina. It's been in effect since 1999. I recently moved to Georgia and my ex says I can't see my child until I have it switched. She will be 11 yrs old at the end of Dec. How old would she have to be, before she could choose which parent she wanted to live with? How do I go about this whole thing? My ex has not abided by the already existting court order as it is and hasn't for years.

2006-11-21 14:05:50 · 15 answers · asked by nicoleanderson111 1

2006-11-21 14:04:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay. I've been married for a year, but my husband doesn't love me "as much" (his words) anymore. He's in the military, and we live apart so we can save some money. We don't talk much or see each other.

I love him, and miss him and I'm extremely lonely.

So I've been going out with friends everyday, and they introduced me to this guy. I'm not sure if it's because I'm that lonely/needy, but I ended up sleeping with him. I've grown really attached to him in a VERY short amount of time, but he's not that into me. His words: "I have feelings, but they're not strong like yours." AKA, he just wants sex.

I know I'm just trying to replace what I have/had with my husband, but I can't seem to stop thinking about this guy.

What should I do? What do you guys think about this? I just want honest opinions.

2006-11-21 14:03:57 · 26 answers · asked by Katy K 1

My husband and I have been married since July. A couple of months ago, my husband & I got into a serious physical fight. I thought my jaw was broke. Long story, short he ended up going to jail overnight. I don't believe in jail or police and didn't want it like that. He called my parents whom I had told the quick story to. They were nice, but wouldn't get him. His sister and mom wouldnt either. He won't speak to my parents now. He speaks daily to his sister. My birthday is Thanksgiving. He won't go because of this grudge against my parents. I feel bad. I want my husband to celebrate both holidays with me and my family. He doesn't care about family, but I do. Am I wrong to feel like I do?

2006-11-21 14:01:33 · 35 answers · asked by Amelia 2

I have been married to my Husband for 16 years and have actually been together with him for 20 and have recently found out that he is wanting to pursue a serious relationship with another woman. Now we have gone back and forth regarding this horrible situation and what is comes to at the end of the day is the fact that he is so drawn to the other woman, that rather than try and work on our love relationship and bring us together, he wants to pursue the other woman. We have two beautiful children, but he knows that he cannot stay unless he wants to work on us as a couple. Today we went for counseling and afterwards, he visited the other woman. He has given me HOPE several times, but has shot it down with continuing to want to see this other woman and be with her. And he tells me if he did stay with me, that he would always wonder and think about the other woman. I'm at the point where I'm tired of fighting for us. It hurts too much to have him here anymore. He should go, right?

2006-11-21 13:44:52 · 43 answers · asked by TheWife 1

i was on a ralation ship with a girl and we loved each other a lot,,,
we left each other for about 4 months,,,cuz we had problems

after 4 month i told her that im sorry and i need another chance
and that i still love her,,,and i asked her if she still loves me

she said that she changed just like i did,,,and she doesnt hate me,,
and she knows how much i suffer,,and she will help but as a sister ,,and she told me to forget her,,,and to stop talking with her cuz she will have a lot of problems,,,and she asked me to forgive her too,,,

guys do u think that there is any hope for me and her?
do u think that she still love me or no?
and do u think that love (realtion ship0 can be converted to a friendship only?

and thanks

2006-11-21 13:39:32 · 15 answers · asked by jony103 1

I later find out he has four!!!

2006-11-21 13:26:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-21 13:16:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

What happens to the diamond, when a married couple divorce?

2006-11-21 13:10:27 · 23 answers · asked by Helping Hand IT 2

2006-11-21 13:10:25 · 14 answers · asked by boricua05rs 1

Im going through seperation with husband. He has a bedsit, I love him still and we have 3 young kids. I made him go believing I was helping him on road to recovery from alcoholism. There is a girl around him a lot, her Mum stays in same house. He told me she only goes there once a week. She has his number. She has spoken to me on phone and says she has b'friend and there just friends. Since discovered he hasnt been at work when he says he has, she's been there when he's there & her mum at work. he's been v.distant with me&kids. He says Im paranoid. I had a row with her in the end calling her a home wrecker and she said she knows him better than me!! She went away for weekend and he was suddenly interested in us again? They both insist its innocent but I dont believe them. He recently said 'sex to adults is like the park to kids?' I think there having sex and hiding it from myself and her boyfriend. Ive filed for divorce now but he makes me doubt myself, saying he wants 2 come home???

2006-11-21 13:00:09 · 16 answers · asked by marie 1

I am in a very diffucult situation righ tnow and would like to find some support and advice on what to do and how to handel things. Well first off I am a 21 year old married mother of two girls who are currently int he custody of the state. They have been out of my home for about 6 months now. They were taken away due to our financial problems. My husband and I have been also having alot of marital problems. He is an alcoholic and his drinking is also part of the reason why our girls are not living at home at this time. He refuses to get help or just stop on his own. I'm not sure if some of you think this is alot but he drinks a 12 pack every night. Right now we are already having problems with saving our money and making our bill payments on time. He spends about $200 a month on beer. That money could be going to other thigns we need to pay for, but he doesn't seem to care. Anyways, to my point. I have wanted to leave him for over a year now but I don't know how I'd even be able to make it on my own without him. All my family lives up north while I now live in the south. They are unable to help me with anything and I have very few friend here, non in which could help me at all with anything, little or big. Right now I have no money to my name, it al goes to rent and bills, and beer. I tryed to keep it from him but he always seems to get his hands on it. You may say to open a bank account that only I can access but in the past he had talked me into commiting account fraud when we wer in difficult times and I am not longer able to open a bank account under my name for the next 5-6 years. Yesh, I know I am not perfect but at the time I made that mistack we were about to be evicted and homeless, we had trouble keeping our utilities on and I didn't know of any other way except that at the time. I want to get a divorce from him but I'm soooo scared I won't be able to handel it myself. I am sooo scared that if I go to a case worker with DFAX here, that my girls will never come home. I don't want to live in a shelter. I have no transportation on my own and don't even know how to drive. I don't know where to begin. I'm so terrified that if I leave my whole life will be worse then it already is. I can't even stand to be near him anymore. We haven't been intimate in months and I even hate the thought of kissing him goodbye anymore. I am soo unhappy and want out so badly but I just don't think I can do it by myself. Has anyone else been in this situation or know someone who has? What did you or they do??? What do I do???? I don't want to fail my girls, I want them home again with mommy like they should be. I can't stand it anymore!!!!!

2006-11-21 12:58:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is in the marine corps. He has been physically abusive 3 thimes in the last 4 months. I have not reported this b/c he is an MP and I didn't want to stop the support we recieve from his income having 2 small children. (the children have never witnessed the physical abuse) But now that I'm ready to leave he claims he will get help. My question is if I file for legal seperation will the military help me get home (I'm 2100miles away)? I cant afford it on my own and I'm afraid to stay. i am sad to even come home from work these days. Am I trapped or is there help somewhere?

2006-11-21 12:50:40 · 5 answers · asked by me&onlyme 1

I mean..he's totally gay!

2006-11-21 12:46:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in US . I am getting my MBA . I met wonderful , kawai , sincere Japanese girl here . We fall in love and now living together . She is also in school . Her mom is very hostile and calls me gaychin (foreigner). I have noticed that she tries negatively influence my girl . I do love her and wanna get married and settle down as soon as I am done with my MBA . How can I change her mom’s attitude ?

2006-11-21 12:43:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-21 12:40:13 · 13 answers · asked by jz 1

2006-11-21 12:38:34 · 8 answers · asked by jz 1

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 years. I keep dropping hints that I want to get married.Even his family tells him we should marry. He is a great guy But why does marriage scare him. Why can't he just be commitied to take that next step. of atleast living together?

2006-11-21 12:27:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous