2006-11-21 13:10:25 · 14 answers · asked by boricua05rs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know the answer to your question, but there sure is some interesting advice here. I just wanted to tell you that my husband has had real hang-ups about how he feels he can't last long enough because he is always worried it will bother me, and I always assure him that it honestly doesn't bother me at all. I have to tell you - totally honestly since I am anonymous here - that it really doesn't matter to me AT ALL how long he lasts. I can't speak for your wife, but I just wanted you to hear that from another random woman in case your wife tells you that also - that it doesn't bother her how long you last. If she tells you that, she's being honest. I'm not sure if it was even a concern to you whether it bothered her or not, but I at least wanted you to know my perspective.
What matters most to me is the emotional feeling of closeness. What matters most to me after that (physically) is us just being totally free together. Sometimes he stops moving just so he can lost longer, but I would rather he just stay in the moment and be wild and free, even if that means he will last a short time. I think when he keeps stopping like that, he is going through all this psychology of trying to make it last, and it bothers me to know that his brain is going through that. I would rather he just have a great time.
I have found that he does last longer when there is little foreplay first. The more foreplay, the more he gets turned on, so he can't last as long. So, sometimes if we just go straight to it, he can enjoy it longer. Then, afterwards he can focus his attention on me.
Best wishes!
2006-11-21 14:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by SingingChimp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK listen closely ......... If you are married and want to last longer in bed, then try lots of for play... Make sure you are into her entirely and focus on her .... Allowing her to relax... That is key to a great ****** for us ladies....
Take it slow and focus more on her and not so much your self... Even when you , well ya know what I mean... If you focus on her it will take your mind off of how good it feels for you. And hopefully keep you from crossing the finish line before you are ready to...
I have read that if a man releases it hours earlier during the day it will help for later at night too.
I know this is a bit graphic, I tried to keep it clean so hope no one is offended.... Happy play time to you!
2006-11-21 13:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let me put this as lightly as I can. Are you and your partner both satisfied after your sex is over? If so, why do you want to fix something that doesn't need fixing. Most couples, believe it or not, only last about 5 minutes into intercourse before orgasming. If you and your partner are not satisfied, then talk about things you can try: Different positions, different methods (oral, toys, etc...). If you are satisfied and your partner is not, talk to each other and find out what you can do.
If both of you are satisfied after 2, 5, 10, or 15 mintues, then why try to last longer? You're obviously doing something right. Don't fix something that doesn't need fixing.
2006-11-21 14:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Renee W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bravo for you! Now, the secret. Male ejaculation occurs because of friction - yes? The solution is to teach yourself to stop moving when everything in your body is pushing you to go at it like mad! It's a trick to go against biological instinct but, try it. This is a good time to learn some neat tricks to please your partner as you snuggle deeply and wait out the urge to "end the party" early. When you feel like things have calmed sufficiently, start again. You can do this over and over again - once you practice it. Also, foreplay is like gold to a woman. We are slower to bring to a boil than men so, the trick is to drive her crazy before you start the "main event". That way, she might beat you to the finish line. Now, wouldn't that be nice!!!!
2006-11-21 13:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely go please yourself before getting into bed with her, not right before but you know what I'm saying. Try orally satisfying her for awhile, that will give you some extra time too. Maybe you just have too hot of a wife and there's nothing you can do! What about condoms, they usually take away quite a bit of feeling?
2006-11-21 14:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. As the marriage continues and she eats more and more pizza, you will find it easier to last longer. But for the moment, just close your eyes and think of paying taxes, or that you car insurance is due.
2006-11-21 14:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right before that time pull it out and let her massage it right under the head for about 2-3 minutes are whenever you feel like you are ready to start over.continue doing this all through the night until you are ready.you may have to do this more then once or twice ,to get your body adjusted
2006-11-21 13:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her in a position that does not stimulate your penis as much. Her on top seems to work for me. ALSO, try something to prepare you a bit better. Have her stimulate you with her hand first or a good long BJ.
2006-11-21 13:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can try relieving yourself prior to the deed. It will deminish too much excitement and that is a proven fact.
2006-11-21 13:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Papabear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words, brave warrior: Kegel exercises
2006-11-21 13:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by Hefeweizen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋