Should I kick my Husband out of the house?

Question

I have been married to my Husband for 16 years and have actually been together with him for 20 and have recently found out that he is wanting to pursue a serious relationship with another woman. Now we have gone back and forth regarding this horrible situation and what is comes to at the end of the day is the fact that he is so drawn to the other woman, that rather than try and work on our love relationship and bring us together, he wants to pursue the other woman. We have two beautiful children, but he knows that he cannot stay unless he wants to work on us as a couple. Today we went for counseling and afterwards, he visited the other woman. He has given me HOPE several times, but has shot it down with continuing to want to see this other woman and be with her. And he tells me if he did stay with me, that he would always wonder and think about the other woman. I'm at the point where I'm tired of fighting for us. It hurts too much to have him here anymore. He should go, right?

Answer 1

Life is just plain rotten at times and this is just one of them . I wish I could give you a big thumbs up but in all good conscience I can't see any thing good coming of this. I will leave you with this thought about your husband. "Experience is a dear teacher, and only fools will learn from no other" i really believe your hubby will not have the dream relationship he thinks he is walking towards, but rather is stepping back in to a mess that will take him along time to recover from, the bigger the step the longer the fall. I do wish you and your children all the best in this difficult time

Answer 2

As hard as this may sound, but I would have to kick him out. I know there is more to ur story than this small paragraph, but If he is actually saying to u that if he did stay with u, he would wonder about the other woman. Thats not respecting u. Cheating on u isnt respecting u. He sounds like a selfish prick. (sorry) He cant try at counseling and then go off to the other womans house. Thats just not right. And even if u did get him to leave the other woman, wouldnt u rather b with someone that wants to b with u, and treat u right. the way u should b treated.
This goes for any situtation, people will continue what they know they can get away with.
He has the best of both worlds at the moment, and thats not fair on u or ur children.

Answer 3

I am sorry to say this but you are right my friend. He has to go. If this obsession he has for this other woman can't be stopped, just be the bigger person and let him go. He will only cause you further heartache if he stays and neither of you will be happy. Remember him of old and the times you shared together as a major part of your life, then move on. Don't feel resentment as it can make you bitter and its best to realise now rather than later that its not your fault and you are a beautiful person and even moreso on your own. A time will come when you will meet the man of your dreams all over again and life will be glorious for you again. Until then focus on something positive and be happy in yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

I hate to break it to you. But I think he is already gone. I'm a christian and all of that. However, you need a counselor to help you get yourself together for your own life and your children. He is NOT respecting or considering the relationship as it once was. Confidence is usually a great answer in such a horrible time. It always help to link up to a great church. Get into a faith moving strong supportive group. I'm certain most of your attention is on him. He enjoys it. Let him go. Sort of like gas, it hurts to hold onto it. ha ha.....He'll respect you more. Who knows he might even want to come back to you. But, Na, help him pack if he is ready. Blow him off like a Rhino blows out gnats from her nose. Cry on your mom's shoulder, talk to a counselor. GET A LAWYER>so your not left with nothing! It's tough, but you were alive before you met him, and you can sure live on now.

Answer 5

well it seems to me that every time he sees the other woman you must be feeling pretty awful like you are not good enough and that is not OK to do to yourself time and time again and you children might be picking up on some feelings from that, and that is really not OK you just have to make a decision , Do you want to settle for someone that doesn't think you are the one and only in his world???? Or do you want to live a a life where you are not always wondering if the person you are with is wanting to be with someone that he thinks is better. You only have one life and sometimes you have to make a choice to be happy

Answer 6

Oh Im so sorry to hear about your husband wanting another woman instead of you. I KNOW it hurts. If he continues to stay there you will keep on being hurt YES you should kick him out of the house. You guys should sperarate for a while dont think of divorce just yet. The only way to save your marriage is if he WANTS to save it and fight for it. You cant be the only one wanting to save and fight for your marriage. He obviously has forgotten his vows and commitment to you. Yes kick him out. Thats the best option now. I know its hard but you should kick him out. I also suggest that you pray about your situation. It could turn out that the grass isnt so green on the other side and he could come back to you. God bless and I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 7

Wife: since you made an attempt to salvage the relationship with sneaky Pete, there, you have done your part. Now; think about how you are going to leave this cheater, get him to pay for you and the kids. Act on the plan and get out - far away from him as possible ! Your staying with him will not guarantee that he will change - chances are he won't ! This now, a no-brainer! He setting down conditions for you, for HIM to stay ? He's a kook and the girl he is screwing deserves him . Let nature take its course - leave him. Good luck to you and the kids !

Answer 8

Is your husband in love with this woman? If so I think he wants to go. If it's something else, you need to come to an agreement. Either way I think he needs to come to some realizations and make some decisions and then let you know what he is going to do. Personally, it sounds to me like he wants out. You should ask him just that. BEST OF LUCK!

Answer 9

KICK HIM OUT! it seems to me that he isn't thinking of you at all, and though you may be thinking of your love for him you need to think of your love for yourself. Let him go and if its meant to be then God will see that it is, but in the meantime don't play the scapegoat. Let him know that if he thinks the grass is greener then he should mow the neighbors yard...I'm sure that if and when you cut him off he'll be knocking at the door wondering if he can help with the overgrown hedges... Its hard (believe me I'm trying to walk away too) but what should matter most is you b/c at the end of day if u don't love u who will?

Answer 10

You need to move on. I know it is hard and painful, but this is what you need to do. He has truly in his heart moved on and if he hasn't he is playing you. Dont let him do this to you. You deserve better than this. Think alot of yourself and move on. I really feel for you and wish I could say something to make it better, but really there isnt anything I could say to make it hurt less. Just remember that after the pain it will get better and maybe it was meant to be. Maybe Mr Right is around the corner, but if not there are plenty of fish in the sea, that will see the beauty in you. (inside and out)