My husband is in the marine corps. He has been physically abusive 3 thimes in the last 4 months. I have not reported this b/c he is an MP and I didn't want to stop the support we recieve from his income having 2 small children. (the children have never witnessed the physical abuse) But now that I'm ready to leave he claims he will get help. My question is if I file for legal seperation will the military help me get home (I'm 2100miles away)? I cant afford it on my own and I'm afraid to stay. i am sad to even come home from work these days. Am I trapped or is there help somewhere?
2006-11-21 12:50:40 · 5 answers · asked by me&onlyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are NOT trapped.
Abused dependents can be eligible for the Transitional Compensation Program. Family members of service members who have been separated or discharged or receive forfeiture of all pay and allowances because of domestic violence may qualify.
http://www.usmc-mccs.org/transcomp/index.cfm
Because you mentioned that your husband is an MP, I understand why you'd be reluctant to go to the regular base law enforcement folks.
I suggest that you make an appointment at the base legal office. Explain that your spouse is an MP and that you do NOT want this to go through any regular notification procedures to the MP's. Get counseling on transitional compensation, ID card entitlements and household goods shipping entitlements.
If you can do so, I think the best time to make the appointment would be the 1st or the 15th (payday). You'll want to be able to tap some cash before reporting, just in case things get disagreeable.
I would also suggest that you get with the base hospital about this, so you can get counseling for the personal (as opposed to legal) part of this.
You've made a good start here by asking the question and seeking help. Keep on going. The Corps has plenty of resources to help you, you just need to contact them. Good luck.
2006-11-21 13:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to talk to someone! I'm not sure if the military will help you move back home, as I remember that is for the service member. But I remember once (when I was in the USAF) the Red Cross helped me get a plane ticket to go to my grandmothers funeral. Can't remember the details, it's been too long ago, but you could try them. Being an MP in the Marines may be tough but it is no reason to be abusive, please talk to someone on base or off, maybe at your church. Can any family help you? Take care and I wish you the best.
2006-11-21 12:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by hazyseptember 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First go to family services at the base closest to you. If you plan to separate from your spouse you can obtain legal help and retain lawyers at any military base close to you. Make sure you obtain the base lawyers first or else you have to go off base if your husband obtains base lawyers. Base lawyers can not represent both sides so it is important to secure base lawyers first. If you are in need of any finical assistance go to the nearest Navy Marine Corps Relief Society for assistance. NMCRS can help with rent and moving back to your home of record. Contact an abuse agency in your area. Please get help!
2006-11-21 12:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by carly h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it actually relies upon. in case you have infants -- do not do a DITY flow that some distance in case you have 2 vehicles -- do not do a dity flow that some distance. If it particularly is in basic terms you and your husband, then examine first. discover out what the government effective fee of the flow is. you're allowed ninety% of that for a dity flow. Then look at shuttle pay and milage allowance. Then bypass cost the fee of a condo truck and something to tug your vehicle. discern you will easy around 50 mph. you're able to elect the condo truck for atleast 3 days. One to load, one to tension( approximately sixteen to 18 hours ), one to sell off . discover the gas milage of the truck, probally around 8 mpg. ascertain gas fee, lodging fee, foodstuff fee. Then see how plenty you're able to make from the dity flow. Couples with out infants could make flow on dity strikes, surprisingly in case you tension rapidly via. Wisconsin to Georgia, could desire to be authorized 3 days of shuttle time. So despite in case you do it in one day, you could actually carry mutually shuttle pay for 3 days.
2016-12-29 07:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Marine...You need to contact his command, there will be help for you. The Marine Corps doesnt take this kind of abuse lightly. you need to worry about you and your kids...YOU NEED TO CALL HIS COMMAND.
2006-11-21 12:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Scott N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋