i was on a ralation ship with a girl and we loved each other a lot,,,
we left each other for about 4 months,,,cuz we had problems
after 4 month i told her that im sorry and i need another chance
and that i still love her,,,and i asked her if she still loves me
she said that she changed just like i did,,,and she doesnt hate me,,
and she knows how much i suffer,,and she will help but as a sister ,,and she told me to forget her,,,and to stop talking with her cuz she will have a lot of problems,,,and she asked me to forgive her too,,,
guys do u think that there is any hope for me and her?
do u think that she still love me or no?
and do u think that love (realtion ship0 can be converted to a friendship only?
and thanks
2006-11-21 13:39:32 · 15 answers · asked by jony103 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
four months wasnt long enough for her, and the pain that happend with yous from breaking up still is with her, and right now she doesnt want anything like that to happen again, she would like it more if yous would be friends and start all over. And if there is a connection again in the future than sparks will happen and yous will give it a try again. But intill than, you need to respect her feelings, and back off, become close to her as a friend and be there for her. I am sure she still cares for you a lot, but like i said doesnt want to get hurt, and jump into anything right now.
2006-11-21 13:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I went with this lady for 8 years while I was separated, and we still talk to each other about every 3 months. That is all we do, we talk about the good times we had, things we should have and not have done, and we are still good friends.
We still care about each other inside but we know that is all that is going to be.
2006-11-21 13:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to tell you but once a relationship has ended people tend to move in different directions and learn new things about themselves that they never realized before when they were in the relationship. So, no I don't think you two will have anything else then a friendship.
2006-11-21 13:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you took a while to tell her how you really feel. You could try and go for it, but I don't assure you anything. well I'll give you an advice try to move on because if you guys do work things out it's not gonna be the same anymore. Also be glad that you guys are friends rather than strangers.
2006-11-21 13:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Yaja 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a woman tells you she wants to be just friends, it means exactly that. At the present moment I don't think there's any hope for you and her having another relationship other than just being friends and I believe she still cares about you, just not the way she used to. Take it or leave it.
2006-11-21 13:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can, but it's rare. In High School I dated this guy for three years. Long story short, he was cheating on me with this girl who transferred to my school...thank-god I found out. He turned out to be a cheater with her and then the next one and so on. After I got over my anger and of course all of the awlful hurt, I called him up, we went out to dinner a couple of times and remained friends for many years until he and I both moved on, but on good terms. For you, the hope may be there, but only for you. If she is telling you to move on after four months, it's probably because she wants you to and she has. It's gonna hurt like brand new, escpecially if you have been waiting for her, but at least she is being honest and allowing you the chance to find someone who will love you. I hope this helps.
2006-11-21 13:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like shes moved on if she wants to be like a sister to you that's sort of like a message sayin" move on". You never want to here those words if it was like yes I'll take you back then yeah you still had a chance but you best be looking for another women dude.
2006-11-21 14:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now, nothing will happen
too many things went wrong (your faults, her faults, external party influences/situations) and it will take time to build your love bank again. and if you are going to build it solo, it seldom works.
so you can do any of the following (IMHO, 1 is best, 3 is worst choice):
1) take her as a sister and hope for the future (because i believe love conquers all, or maybe i am a sucker for love)
2) drop her and find someone else.
3) take her as a sister, no future hope.
as for future, who knows what will happen in the future?
2006-11-21 13:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to personaly talk to her about this. Because I truly beleve your ex lover can be your best friend. Accept what she wants about your realshionship with each other, but don't lose her. Become her friend. you have to tell her that you respect what she is doing, but that you still want to be friends with her. and tell her that you beleve everything will be fine again once your just friends. Eather that or just for get her.
2006-11-21 13:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but you can still be friends but I have the same problem with my ex. Do not go after her. like people say there are thousends of fish in the sea. You will be ok
2006-11-21 13:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by punkfunk12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋