Marriage & Divorce - 21 November 2006

For example just before sex he would ask you to put on a pair and play around with your legs for a while? This is a serious question, realy, I'm married and my wife hates wearing pantyhose but I've never explained to her that it is a fantasy of mine. I'm asking this because I would like to understand how women feel about this before I ask my wife. Thanks to all those who answer.

2006-11-21 05:54:34 · 23 answers · asked by teban 2

I dated a married man last December who told me he is divorcing his wife and was miserable. I believed him and loved him alot.

She found out about me in January through reading his emails. She just went crazy and flipped out. He hurt me alot when i gave him the ultimadum: he said he had to choose her because they had a son together but loved me so much.

i was so hurt and upset at that time. I put a space between us for two years and changed everything-number, everything and told him i would not contact hiim for two years to see where he is in his marriage.

I missed him so much. I just contacted him Nov. 8 (it had been nearly a year). I dreamed in the year his wife got pregnant-and she did. a month after i let him go. he said she wanted the baby so bad to save thier marriage and I made him crazy when i put the two year space between us instaed of supporting him at that time.

i cried so hard. i sent him mean emails and such but i stilll love him.

what should i do?

2006-11-21 05:49:48 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-21 05:48:59 · 12 answers · asked by adcconline 2

How would you balance your life with your wife & children?

2006-11-21 05:44:37 · 23 answers · asked by Sara 1

We are married and I am in my 50's and he's in his 30's and there is a 15 year difference in age. My only real worry is age related health issues with me that he will face at his younger age. If we have issues, they are ones that most married couples have. He takes good care of me and we are both pretty independent people.

2006-11-21 05:36:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My x and I have been aprt for over 8 years now and hes made those 8 yrs a living hell for both my son and me. He would always show up for a month or two then disappear for about 6 mo to a year and then show back up again. Our son has been diagnosed with ADHD, Aspergers Syndrome, Hightened Anxiety disorder and now Bipolar disorder. I believe at least some of this to have been a direct issue from his constant diapointments when our son was only a toddler....waiting at the door for daddy to show up and he never did..those kinda things. Plus he would have girlfriends with older children that would hit and punch my son. Now hes taking me to court saying that Im and unfit mother, and that he doent believe there to be anything wrong with my son, (he says because he doesnt act that way with him) What can I do about this...please help!

2006-11-21 05:32:26 · 15 answers · asked by StReSsOuT 2

Just wondering

2006-11-21 05:31:07 · 17 answers · asked by Wilhelm 2

My husband and I have a pretty active sex life, but he doesn't ever just kiss me anymore, open mouth, those passionate kisses I use to get that would make my knees melt. I miss those kisses. I do not have bad breath, I use to be told that I was a good kisser, but how do I make him want or desire to kiss me like that again?

2006-11-21 05:30:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Husband because even if he gives me love and my sex live is great.. i feel that, that's not enough... I am attracted to other men." This is something that just got my attention in the radio...

2006-11-21 05:29:32 · 15 answers · asked by My dreams are my sanity 2

I miss my husband so much. We recently seperated and I can't seem to adjust, I just want to go home.

I am on meds for depression and anxiety and seeing a psychologist twice a month. I have been having intense suicidal thoughts for a month but I'm hanging in there.
My entire life has changed and I know in my heart I don't want to be without my husband. I am in denial big time. If I run into acquaintances or superficial friends I don't tell them we are seperated when they ask about him. I could barely tell my family and close friends, I just don't want to talk about it.
It is a great challenge for me to reach out to my friends, the words won't come out of my mouth. Hence I isolate myself and withdraw into myself.
I feel awful. It all seems too painful and overwhelming and I don't know how long I can live like this.
I'm sure many of you have survived seperation and divorce and I would really like to hear from you.

2006-11-21 05:28:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I married a guy from a pretty poor country three months ago. We are happy, but we don't live together which my friends think is weird.The thing is, he works six days a week for twelve hours a time on nights, and his work is forty minutes away, so it does sorta make sense for him to have a room there to sleep.

Of course he got a visa when he married me, and that's what my friends think he was after.
I see him three or four times a week, he is kind and considerate and treats me really well, but in the back of my mind there is the thought that my friends are right and he's just being nice to keep me sweet so he won't lose his visa.
I have asked him if he just married me for it and he gets angry that I could even ask.
What do you guys think?

2006-11-21 05:27:22 · 29 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5

2006-11-21 05:26:51 · 18 answers · asked by heaven-sin-t 4

OK, please do not judge me too harshly. I was tired and was feeling vunerable. She is also married! I woke up and there she was, sleeping right there next to me. I am sure I will never see her again as we did not even talk to eachother. This is just so weird............

Let me start at the beginning......

I got on the plane. I was tired and I swear I did not even notice her sit next to me. I went to sleep and I guess she did too. I did not even get her name!

I have always been honest with my wife so I am going to tell her.

Wish me luck.

2006-11-21 05:25:33 · 23 answers · asked by onlineseeker 4

She is always talking about other guys and here recently she has started talking about a guy who come in to her work flirting and talking about him and his wife having problems.she was calling his name in her dreams..............

2006-11-21 05:23:48 · 16 answers · asked by JAMES W 1

paying £30 a week what does the law say i should provide/

2006-11-21 05:23:06 · 5 answers · asked by apple 2

just one answer plz as we are talinkg about here only about the most important thing

2006-11-21 05:21:43 · 31 answers · asked by xyz 1

Please note how long you've been married.

2006-11-21 05:09:18 · 33 answers · asked by alrwk_ 2

he lies to avoid conflict. for example, if he wants time off work he will lie about the reason (someone will end up dieing instead of him just wanting vacation).

This is a coping mechinizim he learned from his mother... she does the same thing only he doesn't realize that he is doing it also.

I am tired of it, because I know that he is lieing because he is SOOOO very bad at it. he lies about such stupid things as taking out the trash (saying that he did when he did not). using the bowflex, (saying that he did yet it's still in the exact same setup as I used it)

in short, I guess I could just say he has the lieing capablites of an 8 year old. he lies even though the truth is obvious. an ideas for dealing with this?

2006-11-21 05:05:45 · 13 answers · asked by Crazy dog lady 3

Any ideas on how to cope with the emotional aspect of this situation?

2006-11-21 05:02:07 · 14 answers · asked by gotanswers 2

We are both over 45, professional and well-educated, and met last year. It was love at first sight (I know that sounds stupid), maybe even love over the phone. After about two months he moved in with me and we have been together ever since. We plan to marry when his divorce is final. My family loves him, his family hates me--even though they are all old enough to have their own lives and are college grads. His life up to last year was without TLC and there was no intimacy at all, much less loving and affection. We don't want happiness built on the sorrow of others, but don't we deserve a chance to be happy as well?

2006-11-21 05:01:59 · 22 answers · asked by hot_italian_empress 2

We are recently married and having problems with each other since the very beginning . my husband is so engrossed in his own family specially his mother that he doesnt care for my feelings. im the last person he would come to.He wants me to do things out of the way for his parents. i have been doing as much i could for them all this time but still i have to listen to his complaints . His sister and brother live nearby and they r sooo interferring . They keep calling him for his help with their babies and he never says no to them .His mother is so bossy that she wants things her way and if i dont follow her then my husband gets back to me angrily.I cant take it anymore. What should i do ?Please help .I love him a lot but i also have my own desires and i want us to be given time to understand each other but this family keeps him so involved that he is not left with anytime for me. He loves me but just that it seems he doesnt have any space in his life for me. i m sick of it.pls help

2006-11-21 04:59:10 · 17 answers · asked by aas b 1

i died on 10/9/06 my husband took my life,happiness,warm,my love away when he told me that he cheated on me.and i just can't decide wether to divorce him for i wanted nothing but him and my daughter from this life.or stay with him and loose all the respect i have for myself for can't respect him any more wish i could die phisically before i get to the point where i have to choose ,for both choices r a bullet in my head.hope no one go through what am going.

2006-11-21 04:52:05 · 45 answers · asked by maya7103 1

2006-11-21 04:51:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i will not do it w/out shorty's blessing....but i think little dude just gets a kick out of me letting him control a part of my relationship w/ his dad.....i know i love the liitle guy and vice versa, but @ the same time i don't want him to continue seeing me "living in sin" w/ his father.

2006-11-21 04:49:58 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does anyone have any good ideas for "him"??? It is our first wedding anniversary on December 10th and I want to make it special!

He's a baseball fan and baseball isn't in season, so tickets to a sporting event is out.

2006-11-21 04:45:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been living with her for almost 13 yrs, we now have a 3 yr old together.i want her out of my house, unfortnuatly i cannot have her out of my life because of the kid.but i don't want her rasing her either.she is a generaly bad person, in every way, she steals the kids money i put in the piggy bank, she lies on the couch all day, she doesn't cook, clean or do laundry,i do all that.she tells me i should just give her money cause she is my girlfriend.she constantly askes when we are getting married,she doesn't pay any bills, she always borrows money from her friends and tells them i will pay her back. then they come to me looking to be payed back.
i own the house,obviously pay all the bills associated with it,but she said she doesn't have to move because she spends the days watching my daughter while i am at work, i constantly tell her to get a job and i will put her in day care, now i just want her out.
any suggestions????

2006-11-21 04:45:17 · 15 answers · asked by pooteo1 3

I'm in the middle of a divorce and my lawyer just called me and said that he has an attorney...and the attorney said that he wants to have visitation for Thanksgiving...I have to give an answer in a little while...Thing is, I don't want to be stressed for thanksgiving especially b/c I am having it at my house. He lives in Tx and I don't trust it right now...This is such short notice...Am I wrong for saying no? He never gave me child support...He was surved his papers on Friday and we been seperated since Feb 4th 2005. Is he trying to hurt me?

2006-11-21 04:41:31 · 21 answers · asked by angelic1302 3

i never did like my maiden name......but his name is sexton.

2006-11-21 04:41:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Men would you want a woman like a Stepford wife or are you happy with the way women are????

2006-11-21 04:38:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well about 4 months ago we broke up for about 1 month and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through in my life. To make a long story short, I ran into a girl that he was friends with a while ago and he contacted her shortly after we broke up I guess. She works at our local mall. He told me that he only saw her once at the mall and ran into her- that was it. They never hung out or anything. She’s told me differently. This girl has no reason to lie to me, she’s religious and I’m starting to think I believe her more than I do him. She says they stopped talking because he was irritated with her one night and that was that. I guess she was paying more attention to her cell phone than to him. She said they hung out a few times.It wasn’t so much of what they did or didn’t do together, it’s the fact that he lied to me about the situation. I feel like I cant trust anything he says no. What do I do? Do I confront him about it? We’re having our first baby this April. I'm so lost.

2006-11-21 04:30:19 · 12 answers · asked by Jessica S 1