For example just before sex he would ask you to put on a pair and play around with your legs for a while? This is a serious question, realy, I'm married and my wife hates wearing pantyhose but I've never explained to her that it is a fantasy of mine. I'm asking this because I would like to understand how women feel about this before I ask my wife. Thanks to all those who answer.
2006-11-21 05:54:34 · 23 answers · asked by teban 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Three is nothing wrong with a little kinky foreplay. I do what my husband asks, and he likewise, to keep our marriage exciting. I think you should tell your wife, ask her to play along with you - what have you got to lose? If she loves you, she wants you to be happy in bed. Thats the key to keeping yourself from asking the question "SHould I cheat on my wife?"
2006-11-21 05:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, most everybody responding is very laid back about this - how cool. Here is one word of warning though and somewhat of a response to Kevin P: Fantasy and turn ons are fine, no, they are great, but don't let it become the entire focus of the act or you just risk creating a fetish that suplants the intimacy with your wife. If you feel the need to ask her to wear pantyhose every time, it will become less and less about the two of you and more of a dependancy. Sex is about a lot of things, but I believe with a spouse, the foundation - even if the sex is full of kink - is always about a higher connection. Also, make sure for everytime she indulges you in your fantasy, you return the favor - and if she doesn't have anything different she wants to try in bed then make sure you express your love and appreciation some other way. She'll put on hose or anything else for that matter if you shower her with sincere appreciation and affection! Ok - done preaching.
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Kevin,
Fair enough. Please don't think I'm judging you or saying that is the case with you or the asker, it is just another perspective. We never have the whole story on any of these questions and answers anyway. It is why I wrote "somewhat of a response". Hope I did not offend you. - Slacker
2006-11-21 06:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by mr_slacker70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same fetish, and trust me, it is difficult to get them to play along. Many women consider them uncomfortable or a general hassle to deal with. I have been in three long term relationships and have explained my fetish to each of them. They all start out by saying "Sure, I can do that, no problem". However, they eventually get tired of having to do it and end up saying things like "I wish you would want to have sex with me just as I am, and not want me to wear pantyhose every time." They think it is about them not being sexy enough, when we know that it is not. That is the challenge that I have faced. Keep fighting the good fight, man. We need more girls into pantyhose.
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UPDATE
I feel compelled to respond to the statement by "Mr. Slacker", below. While I appreciate his perspective, I disagree with his statement to the effect that the pursuit of the fetish will "supplant" the intimacy in the relationship. The point that slacker, and most of the girls that I have been involved with have missed is that this is a fetish that enhances the sexual experience. This is not a replacement of desire, such that the presence of the pantyhose creates a desire for the intimacy that was otherwise lacking with the woman as herself. If one were to say that "I'm not into having sex with my wife anymore, but when she wears pantyhose then I'm into it.", then Mr. Slacker would have a point that the pantyhose would be supplanting the intimacy in that relationship. However, this is not the case that was presented in the question, and therefore I feel that it is an unfair characterization of the situation to state that there is a danger of supplanting the intimacy.
2006-11-21 05:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never known any guy who asked me to wear pantyhose. I always wear stockings, and most guys love me in nylons, but every guy I know despised pantyhose. The tops are so ugly, and you can't make real love with them on. With stockings and a garter belt they are sexier and never get in the way. the only thing kinky I can think anyone could do with pantyhose is tie some one up with them or wear them on their head.
2006-11-22 02:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet she won't hate wearing hose after your through with her! I hate pantyhose too, but it's because I associate hose with getting ready for work.
Your idea on the other hand...hmm...nice! Initiate the act by buying sexier (non work related) hose for her, ie. crotchless, lacey, red... you get the idea. Allow yourself to fully experience the turn-on this gives you, and if she's not blind, she'll get the hint!, cause if things are better or stirred up more...all the better for her! Besides...ya'll are married. Anything should go in your bedroom. It's supposed to be for life! Needs need to be met for both partners for all to run smoothly for your lifetimes.
2006-11-21 06:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife wears Pantyhose everyday for me, and stated doing so when I told her how much I loved seeing her, and other ladies in hose. She even wears them in the summer with shorts, and she get many complements from men & women on how nice her legs look in hose. Women have even asked her what brand she is wearing because they look so nice on her,. For the young lady that said she's "too young for them", you are never too young to look good. Hose are making a come back, and many stars are wearing hose again.
2016-05-22 08:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a problem with it, your wife should be more giving and understanding. An easy thing to do in this situation. She can try stockings with garters if pantyhose aren't her thing. At least you want her to do it instead of someone else (as in mistress).
2006-11-21 05:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well darling, don't you generally wear pantyhose. I mean ladies generally do, and just how kinky can you get in pantyhose. Am I missing something here or what? Please help!! You went over my head!! G
2006-11-21 05:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a REAL relationship with your wife and stop listening to all these ideas about what your fantasy is. Get a real life, and you won't need silly fantasies to try to find happiness. Get to know your wife truly from her heart and you will find what you need.
2006-11-21 05:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by Krista13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hun, I think open clear communication is the trick, and I am sure she wanna make your fantasy come true. go out there on the edge, and be honest about what you want, Enjoy
2006-11-21 06:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋