a friend of mine recently got married and her husband doesn't know she's bi....how would he react?

Question

i told her she needed to tell him, but she said it didn't matter and i would think one would need to put everything out in the open ESP before a wedding!

Answer 1

You do nothing directly... Encourage your friend to tell her husband, and be completely honest with him on what that means to their marriage.

Chances are he may take it badly at first. After all the fact that he didn't know before they were married creates an environment where this can she can be percieved to be deceptive. But talking this out with him will set a good foundation for the marriage, whether she ever acts on it or not. and tell her to be honest about it from here on in.

This is not your responsibility to tell him though... You are not in a relationship with him, even if he is a good friend.. It is hers so you discuss this with her .. not him... If she decides not to tell him... don't take it on yourself to deal with this.... It puts you right in the middle and ultimately you could be resented by both of them

Answer 2

It's none of your business. That being said I will say this: I don't think she should tell him. It doesn't matter if she is Bi or not anymore. She has chosen her life mate and that is that.

Being Bi does not mean that she will cheat on her husband with a woman. She swore absolute fidelity to her husband, and she will keep her vow. She may look at both sexes equally in attractiveness but her body is with her husband only.

Answer 3

I would be VERY mad she did not tell me something as important as her overall sexual preference.

I would not be mad about her being Bi-sexual at all. It's the fact she kept the secret and not let me decide if I could handle it.

If she had told me before marriage, it would not have prevented our marrying. It would have made for a great two woman only Bachelorette party (with me as the male stripper) and the two of them as the strippers for my one man Bachelor party.

Hell, her friend could rent a room from us until the children were born.

Answer 4

She's not going to know that until she tells him or she gets caught with another female. She should have told him before getting married, it may have worked out where he could have excepted it if this life style is over. Now it may cause a problem. He's going to distrust her for not being truthful.

Answer 5

In my opinion... I doubt if he loves her he will freak out. Allthough he will probably feel betrayed or lied to by not telling him, but, maybe he will be happy and have the thought of "The more the Marrier"? =0)

Bottom line: Tell him it's better that he find out from her than someone else right?

Answer 6

How would we know how someone we don't know is going to react? You haven't even told us a thing about this guy's personality, likes, dislikes... nothing.

But it IS very telling about your friend... the fact that she wouldn't tell him something important like this before marrying him... what else WON'T she tell him?

Sorry, we're not psychic...

Answer 7

There's only way to find out... she has to tell him. Maybe he might like it.

If he's not turned on by that, then I hope your friend honors her wedding vows...

Answer 8

he's going to understand that pretty quick...but one thing why did she get married???and why didnt she tell her husband before marriage?? u know marriage is all about trust n respect for each other...so if he accepts it,then its good and if he doesn't(umm..i dont know....)

Answer 9

He shouldn't have a problem with it. I didn't have a problem when my wife told me she was "bi-curious"... I encourage it (just so long as she keeps me involved)

Answer 10

She should of told him about her sexuality. He might enjoy that. He might want to do a three sum.