Well about 4 months ago we broke up for about 1 month and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through in my life. To make a long story short, I ran into a girl that he was friends with a while ago and he contacted her shortly after we broke up I guess. She works at our local mall. He told me that he only saw her once at the mall and ran into her- that was it. They never hung out or anything. She’s told me differently. This girl has no reason to lie to me, she’s religious and I’m starting to think I believe her more than I do him. She says they stopped talking because he was irritated with her one night and that was that. I guess she was paying more attention to her cell phone than to him. She said they hung out a few times.It wasn’t so much of what they did or didn’t do together, it’s the fact that he lied to me about the situation. I feel like I cant trust anything he says no. What do I do? Do I confront him about it? We’re having our first baby this April. I'm so lost.
2006-11-21 04:30:19 · 12 answers · asked by Jessica S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Confront him, but don't make a big deal out of it, because it's not like he cheated on you!
2006-11-21 04:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, this other girl has no reason to lie to you, and he certainly does. This would be a simple fix, were it not for the baby being born. That certainly complicates matters just a bit. You guys need some kind of couples counseling here, hopefully he will bear the responsibility of being a father to your child. If not, you have to choose if you want to be a single mother or do you want to put the baby up for adoption? Both are difficult, both have advantages and disadvantages (depending on your age). No relationship will work for very long without trust, so you need to get over not trusting him if you want this relationship to last.
2006-11-21 04:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, You're pregnant and unmarried and aren't in a very good position to start harping on something some girl you don't know said about something meaningless. He said he saw her once, she said they hung out a few times and he lied because 1-it meant nothing and 2-you were broken up and 3-you would have made a big drama over it. Forget it. It's too stupid to worry about when you have a baby on the way.
2006-11-21 04:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 11:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by wach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will need to confront him or you won't have any peace of mind. Now that your trust has been challenged, you need to make sure you want to be with him knowing what he's capable of doing (cheating). You really don't need to deal with much drama while caring a baby, it can be harmful to their health.
2006-11-21 04:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, talk to him about it. If there is one thing about relationships that make it grow more apart is not telling the other person what is on one's mind. I know..been there..and learning alot. Tell him in a kind and loving way about how you feel- try not to blame him for anything.
2006-11-21 04:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by jrema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about it, unless he does it again to u. the past is the past and should stay there and not be dregged up now, just try to focus on your life, and new baby that's coming. he wasn't up front with u cause he didn't really want u to know about it. anyway for whatever reason he picked u and not her.
2006-11-21 06:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without communication in your relationship it doesn't stand a chance anyway. Approach him in a calm and reasonable fashion and don't make it seem like an attack.
2006-11-21 04:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ghapy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leaving something like this alone is going to tear you apart. you need to think about you and that baby first. if he is an approachable man than i would confront him.(nicely) if he is not approachable you have to decide if you can forgive him for something that he has not admitted to. remember you can forgive but for some reason we never forget!!
2006-11-21 04:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's downplaying hanging out with her because he knows that you'd make a big deal out of it if you knew it was actually a few times.
but it sounds like he chose you over her!!!!
i'd keep my eye on him a little, like i would any guy, but it's probably best not to drag this out. Move on.
2006-11-21 04:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋