She is always talking about other guys and here recently she has started talking about a guy who come in to her work flirting and talking about him and his wife having problems.she was calling his name in her dreams..............
2006-11-21 05:23:48 · 16 answers · asked by JAMES W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-22 03:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Rachalz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, pay close attention to credit card statements and phone bills, especially cell phones.
Does your wife spend a lot of time on the computer, and when you walk in the room, she quickly minimizes or closes screens? Try to look at her computer's browser history, cookies, and temporary internet file folders, if you think she doesn't know how to delete the contents.
Is she wearing her hair differently, or buying new clothes?
Is she working later than normal, with more frequency?
If you can, look at her paycheck stub and see if she has used any sick pay or personal days.
Try calling her office. Especially between 10:30 am up to 2:00 pm. Long "lunches" are a red flag. If you call during these times, and she is not in her office, casually ask her how her day was, and if she had any meetings. Do not mention that you called her and she was not there. If you know her well, you should be able to tell if she is lying or not.
Don't let her know of your suspicions, because if she is having an affair, and she knows of your suspicions but you haven't any evidence, she will go deeper into secrecy and be extra careful.
The other guy is at least hitting up your wife. That is the standard line for a married guy... having problems with the wife. C'mon. That your wife is talking about this guy at work is troublesome. Calling his name in her dreams is even worse.
Be aware. People who are cheating are accomplished liars and manipulators. They will try to make you feel bad for suspecting them, and turn everything on you.
Get the evidence that you need and then confront.
If you really love your wife, and you think you can forgive and forget, be honest with her, share your sentiments, and tell her that you are troubled. Don't take an accusatory tone, which will make her defensive. Just tell her that you are troubled that she talks about a married guy at work, and that she calls his name in her dreams. Just leave it at that, and wait for her to respond. DO NOT ask her if she is having an affair, nor tell her that you suspect that she is having an affair. Just wait for her response.
Good luck.
2006-11-21 13:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may be cheating but you should really check it out. Go to ask.com and type in signs of a cheating spouse. There are plenty of things that will shed some light on this situation. Good luck.
2006-11-21 13:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is calling out his name than it is far more serious than u know. how does she know he is having wife problems, ishe has been having some intimate conversations with him. think she is cheating on u or desperatly wants to cheat. why on earth would she be having a conversation with u about some other guy, how disrespectful to u. shame on her. doesn't sound as if she is too into her marriage.
2006-11-21 13:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what more do you need to know??? she obviously has some intrest in this guy if she is calling his name out in dreams! that means she thinks about him ALOT! tell her if she wants you will be more than happy to divorce her that way she can go with that "new" guy! theres no need for you to hang around just so she can babble on and on about this guy! or just play her at her own game tell her you met a intresting women at your job! see want her reaction is sometimes u gotta show someone how they are being in order for them to open up there eyes and realize they gotta change
2006-11-21 13:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch!!!
The dreams would hurt my feelings something awful.
Tell her you are worried.
I am betting she is only tempted now and if you explain that you are worried she may jearpardize your marriage hopefully she has enough sence to nip it in the bud now.
If not...well one thing at a time.
2006-11-21 13:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way of telling if your spouse is cheating is to notice if the people she hangs around are different than before. See if the way she dresses or if she carries herself different.
2006-11-21 16:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by stacy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K brother trust me here, if you ask her if she`s having an emotional relationship with someone and she`s throws it back at you like you don`t trust her and she tells you your insecure............she i s DEFINITELY CHEATING, also is she wearing t-bars when she did`nt before or reading novels and taking up interests she did`nt before,,,basically living like a single woman...SHES CHEATING!!!!!
2006-11-21 13:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you have sex and then go down on her. Then you'll know. *wink*
2014-05-12 21:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not yet.
if she is telling you about him she still hasn't started cheating yet.
but in case she dont love you enuf then soon she will go for him
so watchout dude.
the day she starts seeing him she will not talk about him and try to not get his topic as she wouldn't want you to suspect
2006-11-21 13:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by c.dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for her...try to be her best friend (as you once were!); take care of her, buy a white rose and be gentle! May God help you two!
2006-11-21 13:28:37 · answer #11 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋