in a relationship w/ unresolved issues, how do you resolve the issues?

Answer 1

1. Sit down calmly and make a list of issues
2. Start with #1 on the list. Each tell your point of view and discuss it until you can reach an amicable solution.
3. Then go from there.

PS. The secret here is to remain emotionless, quiet voices, no name-calling or sarcasm.

Answer 2

Nothing can be resolved unless you both can talk about it. Pick one evening, a few hours of quiet time, and hash it out. Both agree beforehand that after the few hours is up, then that topic will never be brought up again even if not resolved. Sometimes it's best to just move on and forget about the certain issues.

Answer 3

I have found from past experience that the only way to resolve any issues is by talking about them and working through them...if he won't do that to help you with these issues then they never will get resolved.

Answer 4

well, u have to nip them in the bud. seriously..u cannot build atop a shaky foundation. =T it's hard, but communication is KEY. also, understanding. try to put urselves in the other person's shoes.

btw, this only works if BOTH of u guys are doing this.. i have a friend right now that i'm trying to help, and she's in a pretty bad relationship. UP and DOWN and on and off... she's miserable...w/ plenty of unresolved issues that pile on top of eachother, and leads her to get upset about little things, and causes him to blame her for "overreacting", when in fact it is based on previous circumstance.

my advice to her was that whenever she tells me about their problems, she's always so quick to say "But he thinks this way, so I have to understand that....blah blah". however, HE THINKS HE'S RIGHT. he will not compromise. he NEVER says "but she thinks this way, so i have to understand blah blah". SO... how is this conflict going to be resolved??? OF COURSE he's gonna think he's right, and since she is "understanding" of his side, of course he's going to "WIN" the argument, even if he has absolutely NO merit.

if both of them were understanding, they could compromise, apologize to each other, and work on a Solution. until that point, nothing will get resolved. instead she is stuck w/ constantly swallowing her feelings, emotions, sadness, anger, depression, and pretty much feel unimportant and unheard in this relationship.

good luck~

Answer 5

First the issues have to be put out in the open, then they need to be discussed and decided on what will & will not be accepted for both of you to be happy in the relationship. This would be the best way to not resent anything because there will be total consent from both of you.

Answer 6

if you are still together or have broken up, you still have to sit down and talk about what happened and what you are going to do about it. this is coz if you dnt they end up either ruining or interfering with your other r/ships.
arrange to meet in an open place and talk about all that went on between the 2 of you, give each other tyme to talk but for best results, dont involve anyone else coz this will lead to intimidation and tension then you wont solve a thing.
if that person doesnt want to talk about it then dont force them leave them alone when they are ready to talk, they'll come looking for you

Answer 7

If the issues are with the two of you, then you should speak to a counselor together.

If one of you has issues, then that person should go to counseling.

Just remember that either way this will be a long process and both of you will have to deal with the issue together.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 8

communication, plus you have to pick your battles. Let the little stuff go and only deal with the really big issues. Life is short.

Answer 9

You have to figure a way to channel the leftover anger safely, and then move on. Life is so short, all of it doesn't really matter in the end. I would seek a therapist to help.

Answer 10

sit down and talk it over then you might be right time to help resolved the issues hope tihs help good luck