how do i get my g/f to move out?

Question

i have been living with her for almost 13 yrs, we now have a 3 yr old together.i want her out of my house, unfortnuatly i cannot have her out of my life because of the kid.but i don't want her rasing her either.she is a generaly bad person, in every way, she steals the kids money i put in the piggy bank, she lies on the couch all day, she doesn't cook, clean or do laundry,i do all that.she tells me i should just give her money cause she is my girlfriend.she constantly askes when we are getting married,she doesn't pay any bills, she always borrows money from her friends and tells them i will pay her back. then they come to me looking to be payed back.
i own the house,obviously pay all the bills associated with it,but she said she doesn't have to move because she spends the days watching my daughter while i am at work, i constantly tell her to get a job and i will put her in day care, now i just want her out.
any suggestions????

Answer 1

I'd invest in an attorney to see what her rights are. With her being with you for 13 years, she may have common law marriage rights.

But what I would do also, is to invest in some "marriage counselling." Even though you two are not married, it would be a way for both of you to figure out how to handle this in a way that helps your 3 year old.

I feel for you, and if you are the person who is making all the effort as you say you are, you should be able to get custody of your son (another reason to see an attorney), the house, and force her to get out of your life.

Besides, if she realizes you are serious about this, she will have to make a choice to either shape up and become the woman you once loved again, or find someone else to mooch off of.

Answer 2

I would just tell her....I dont want to be with you. If you own the house you have every right. You might have to go to the court house and get an eviction notice since you've let her live there this long though. If she is as bad as you say I would try and get custody of the child because no mother like that has any business raising a kid. What would she teach your child about life? You need to definately take action quick for your own sanity and you child.

Answer 3

It sounds like you are pretty fed up, and who wouldn't be with that type of a partner. Hopefully you have considered your childs feelings, she's just three and children do need both their parents. If this has gone on for this long, you are partly to blame for allowing to happen. Give it one more shot, by sitting down and talking to her, telling her that she needs to more, and that you are not going to give her anymore money, you will buy everything that is needed, tell her friends not to loan her any money, because you wont be paying them back, that if they loan her money, they might as well figure they gave it to her. Tell your girlfriend if she wants any spending money or what not, she will have to get a job, that its time. Does she know if she doesn't work she will not be able to collect social security when it's time?

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you are getting walked on because you are allowing it. File for custody of your child and tell this woman that you need her to find her own residence. If she gives you resistance then you tell her that you will call the police. It's that simple. It doesn't sound like she is the type that would want to be civil and just leave but it would be nice if you both could work things out like adults because there is one person involved that is more important than you or your girlfriend and that is your child.

Answer 5

You probably need to consult an attorney on this one, in many states you are considered to be in a common law marriage (since you've been living together for 13 years), and she has rights (possibly community property rights as well). Only a lawyer can tell you for sure. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I am a female and I would tell you to be straight up with her and tell her good-bye. That it is over. why put yourself through all that stress and greif. Do not let her have the child if your willing to raise her. go get temp custody of the child and then tell the girlfriend to get out. It is best to be honest and straight up. then not to say anything. just tell her the truth, I know it must be hard but the truth is always the answer.
wish you the best on all of this.

Answer 8

Since it's been such a long time, you had better consult a Lawyer. Do you know if you are considered common law married? Lawyer should be able to tell you about getting restraining orders, etc.
Good Luck!

Answer 9

Well put your daughter in daycare then that would be your first move....then get her to mature up and clean the house and start her off ..... if that doesnt work tell her its over . GET OUT!

Answer 10

Just tell her to leave. Why didn't you ever ask her to marry you? She's probably depressed about it. Just know however, since you never proposed to her, once you kick her out she's gonna do her best to make your life miserable. Sorry!