where to get the courage to comitt a suiside?

Question

i died on 10/9/06 my husband took my life,happiness,warm,my love away when he told me that he cheated on me.and i just can't decide wether to divorce him for i wanted nothing but him and my daughter from this life.or stay with him and loose all the respect i have for myself for can't respect him any more wish i could die phisically before i get to the point where i have to choose ,for both choices r a bullet in my head.hope no one go through what am going.

Answer 1

You have a child. You need to get your act together for her benefit. Do you want her to have to live with the burden of your own selfishness the rest of her life?

Get some help from a professional. There are some great anit-depressants out there.

Answer 2

Your question would read better in my opinion if was "where to get the courage to NOT commit a suicide". This is the ultimate end and there is no return from this option. What good would taking your life do for your little daughter, none that I can think of. It is very sad that your man has cheated on you but fact of life is that you are not alone with this circumstance and it has happened to many other females and males on this planet. If necessary seek out some form of professional guidance through either your family doctor, therapist, minister or whomever you feel could be helpful to you. I realize that it must sound pretty simple but it is as true as I'm sitting here typing my response to you, that time will heal these wounds that you are feeling at present. It is sad that your dreams of a happy family life with your husband, child and yourself may not be realized but hopefully soon enough you will find other things to help you feel happy. If you believe that your relationship is worse salvaging then maybe you and your spouse can seek out a marriage counselor to help you out. But if your both not committed to this then it will be a waste of time and as such will do nothing. Good luck to you and I hope that you are capable of opening your eyes to all the world has to offer and are able to share this wonder with your daughter.

Answer 3

You are not the first to be betrayed by the person whom you love more then life. Time will heal all wounds not suicide. think about your child and what she will have to endure in life without you. I'm not saying to stay with him but trust your heart and do what is right for YOU and your DAUGHTER. If you stay with him you may never trust him ever again and your child will sense this. If you leave him then even though it will hurt in your heart you will be able to move on with your life and hopefully learn to trust again. Many children are from broken homes and turn out just fine. If you do choose to leave him let your daughter know that it was nothing that she did, just that the two of you(your husband) cant make it work any more. Never be-little him in front of her as this will cause problems in the future. When she is older (20s-30s maybe) explain why you left him. Always allow her to have a relationship with him and make up her own mind how she feels about him. Remember think about her future to.

Answer 4

There are a lot of people going through what you are going through and a lot who have already been there. I have been there. Keep your focus on your daughter, you cannot leave her, you know that. Cry it out, take a whole day and just cry it out. Then, look inside yourself, even though your world has come crashing down around you and your heart has shattered, there remains strength, it is there. Start off tomorrow as a new day, tell yourself, no crying today. Time to start figuring out your next move. It's up to you if you want to leave or stay. Weigh your options. If he's only done it this once, and it wasn't an affair, if you want to forgive him and stay, then do so. You will have less respect for him, of course, but you don't have to lose respect for yourself, for trying to hold your marriage and family together. Or if you believe it's something he will do again, and you can't stand to even look at him, then think about moving on and the steps to take for that. Both roads are hard, and I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but you will be stronger for it in the end. Good Luck.

Answer 5

I have been in your shoes before. After 16 years of marriage and 2 children, the only man I had ever really loved cheated on me. I was so devasted. I thought it was the end of the world for me. I wanted to just crawl under a rock and die there. I'm glad I didn't though. 3 years later, I am in the best state of mind I have ever been. I got counseling and focused on myself and my kids and got through it. Life doesn't end when your loved one walks out on you. That's not the end of the world. That's just the beginning of chapter 2 in your life. And trust me, chapter 2 can be even better than chapter 1. Don't give up hope. Get a counselor, therapist, pastor, friend, etc. Surround yourself with positive people that are going to help you and encourage you. You have a child that depends on you and you can't let that child down. You owe it to your child and to yourself.
Unfortunately your husband made a decision that has changed your life forever. But it doesn't have to hurt all your life. Give yourself time to grieve, but don't stay there forever. Get back up and keep going. Today, I'm married to a wonderful man that loves me and loves my children like they were his. I would have never imagined I could find this kind of love again but I did. I'm so grateful that I didn't give up on life. You too will come out of this in time. It's important you seek help immediately though. Don't hesitate and don't put it off. Do it now!! You will see that in no time, you will start seeing a light at the end of the tunnel and you'll start feeling good about life again. You can survive this. You are not the first woman to ever go through this experience and unfortunately, you won't be the last. Hang in there. Stay strong and get help fast!!
Feel free to e-mail me if you need a word of encouragement. God bless.

Answer 6

i went through what u are feeling right now,why would u let him cause u to do this to yourself? the sin belongs to him, he owns it not u, he made the decision not u. u were the faithful one, u did what was right and wanted only for him to love you. in everyones life comes some unhappiness, and hurt. what about your kid, do u want her to go through life with no mom? it's only your thoughts, and how u are choosing to respond to the betrayal, you have turned the anger inward towards yourself. life is one big learning process, and u just have to look at it as an opportunity to get away from this deceitful cheater. what he did has nothing to do with your worth, has to do with his character. if u put a bullit in your head your daughter will be so messed up over it, kinda selfish out of u, don't ya think? face your fears, don't let him do this to u, he don't deserve u, this is about him and his choices, not about u, or anything concerning u. get some help, as no one can go throught this alone, u need a support system, need to get your self worth back, when our husbands betray us, we become very insecure, and afraid of life, it does affect our self esteem, we think if we were better he would never have done what he did, but chances are he would have done it anyway. you are not to blame, the sin belongs to him. he don't respect u or love u so why do u still want the jerk anyway. there is a life after divorce, and there are more fish in the sea, only u can't see it yet, but it's right around the corner, so why not divorce this man, reclaim your self esteem and your power and move on where it's friendlier.

Answer 7

Why in the world would you do something to yourself that would hurt you. Are you not worth it to someone??! Your husband is not the only person out there that can be your confidant and companion. Put the jerk behind you and look for a brighter future down the road with someone that will really apprecite and respect you. BUT-always be yourself and not try and be someone else to please people. It's a waste of your life and time. I have been where you are and know the pain is causes. It's like the end of the world, but trust me it was probably the best thing (in a way) that could have happened. Good luck to ya!! GaryT

Answer 8

Sweetheart, no man is worth that. Your life is more than just the man you are attached to. And think of your daughter if you died. I suggest you go find a therpist, talk out your feelings. Divorce your husband, there are other men that will treat you better. Or stay with your husband and go to couples counseling to try and save your marriage. But don't take your life. Trust me, you are strong and wonderful. The world and the people in you life would be worse off with out you. Reach out and get the help you need to pull you through.

Answer 9

First you need to think about your daughter. If you kill yourself then you might as well tell her that she is not important enough to life for and hell she should go and do it herself. Is that what you want from her. As for your husband yes he hurt you and it was in the worse way but killing yourself is not the answer. If this was a one time thing then you need figure out what you want. If you want what you had and maybe better then fight for it. Find out what happened to make him go to another. I am not saying that is your fault cause unless you held a gun to his head it is him. I do believe that everything that is broken can be fix and everything lost can be found again. Before I married my husband he did the same thing. It hurt like hell and I thought I would never get over that pain but I did. We are married now and we are closer then ever. On top of that I had my father tell me that he wanted to kill him self when my parents divorced and that hurt. He had said that there was nothing to live for and that really hurt cause what about me. Thank go he got out of it and lived a lot longer. I would of been lost with out him and missed out on a lot of good times. So wake up and at least think about your daughter. People do make mistakes and that is why ther is forgivness.

Answer 10

First you need to get on your knees and say a prayer to God for letting you have the strength to ask for help and let him know what you want out of life. Your husband shouldn't have been the first, and now should be hanging on by a thread for what he did. You have God, your child, and your life to live for and become a stronger person with His help from having faith that he'll bring you through your pain. Going to a therapist could also relieve some pent up stress and anger ASAP. You need to love yourself before you can love anyone else in a meaningful relationship.

Answer 11

Suicide is not the answer!!! He did this because he was selfish and you shouldn't be the one suffering he should be. You should be having him at your feet begging you to stay. If the relationship is bad leave him there are many guys out there and you will be able to find a good one to love you and your daughter. My ex took his life and I hate him for that...Would you want to put your daughter through the pain of losing her mommy? Call a support group and talk to people that are in the same situation...it helps.