Last week my husband and I got into a huge fight and he threatened to leave me. We have a daughter, she's 2. I told him that the hurt i would feel wouldn't begin to compare to the hurt of our child if he left. We somewhat worked our problems out but i don't think he will stay...eventually i think he will leave us. what do you think? Will it fail?
2006-11-21 07:48:31 · 21 answers · asked by mcshankel04 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have a 2 year old son myself and my exhusband left me.. It wasnt so much hurting me, but hurting my son... A child can feel the stress.. im sorry this has happened. U need to sit down with your husband and talk.. ask him how he feels about everything and u do the same.. Dont stay together just because u have a child together. do it because u love each other and want to be happy.. God bless u and good luck to u
2006-11-21 07:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, they're not doomed to fail. In fact, I've read that mixed marriages actually have a higher rate of success (less divorce). My husband and I are in an interracial marriage and we're still together. :) My former college roommate is still with her husband in an interracial marriage. My interracial friend's parents just celebrated 45 or so years together I believe... Cultural differences can sometimes be good, you know! :) Edit: @ Machine gun Woman: I am not saying that your statistic is wrong (b/c I don't know if it is or if it isn't) but I am curious: Where did you hear that a woman having more than 4 partners leads to a 70% chance she will cheat? Can you post the link here? thanks
2016-05-22 08:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you don't work on it together, yes it will probably fail. Using your child isn't the best thing to do either. Yes, it will hurt your child if he leaves however, if your daughter grows up in an environment with tension, hatred, resentment, etc. it will be worse. You need to grow up and think about what you want out of life and if your marriage is important to you and your husband then the two of you have to work on it and make it work.
2006-11-21 07:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't say
you sound like you feel in your heart that it won't work and if you think like that than it is doomed. Try to make it work or have him leave while the child is young. It's less damage because the child will grow up already knowing how to deal with spending some time with one and then the other instead of having to adapt and world being crushed.
2006-11-21 07:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the hell is wrong with some people? why do they get into huge fights?
Me and my wife, we have huge differences, and we do argue sometimes, but for the most part, we try our best to respect each other, and to listen to each other's side and talk things out properly. You are both selfish people and you need to stop thinking about #1 (me me me )... and do what it takes to fulfill the needs of your spouse.
That's how happy marriages are made, not buy being a ***** and expecting him to treat you like a queen or by constantly reminding each other of the things they did wrong.
And I agree with the previous answerer, many americans have this "marriage is 50/50" mentality crap in their brains. Always thinking about what's in it for me.
2006-11-21 07:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I fight occasionally and when we do one of us almost always threatens leaving or actually leaves but we love each other and always come back, it is just something to say or do to hurt the other one so they feel as badly as we do. So I doubt that your marriage is failed or doomed marriage is tough good luck to you and your family. Happy Holidays.
2006-11-21 07:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by jo_jo_baby2004 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be concerned that he threatened to leave you. Perhaps you could talk to him when he is calm, and establish if he meant it, or if it was just a throwaway remark made in the heat of the moment.
Without knowing him (or you) well, it is difficult to predict the eventual outcome.
2006-11-21 07:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get couples councelling. Someone once told me that americans really take marriage for granted. We give up too easily on something that could be worked out because we dont want to "waste time" with someone who we have to work hard to be with. We take the easy way out. So please, get councelling, make a post nuptual to eachother that no matter what, things are going to work out. Even if it means you two have to talk them out for days... it will be worth it.
2006-11-21 07:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you are having the same fight year after year, something has to change. Look into your heart and determine if you are truly treating him well or not. If not you need to do whatever it takes to make it work. Try counseling also.
2006-11-21 07:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other, then it will work out if you both put the effort into it. Married couples sometimes fight. It doesn't mean that each fight signifies the end of the relationship.
2006-11-21 07:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋