is it true?

Question

Do men really change after marriage?

Answer 1

I can't speak for all men but my husband's still the same ol' guy I married 6 yrs ago. I've known him a total of 8 yrs and he hasn't changed a bit (except he's more mature now).

Answer 2

Sometimes,but most of the time what that person was like before marriage is what they'll be after you get married.Although if they want to help make it work,they will have to do some changing.

Answer 3

Everyone changes, everyday. Each day that goes by you experience new things in life, could be something little or something significant that will affect the way you think about things or the way you interact with people in life. Make sure you make time for your husband/potential husband every day to find out what is going on in his life during the day, what experiences he has had. Conversation in general. Who he interacts with, if anything funny has happened during the day (what makes him laugh) how his day went (did anything bad happen) show a valid interest in what's going on with him and in his life when you aren't there. I don't mean bombard the poor guy when he walks through the door either. Just make a little time to share what goes on in your day. Get re-aquainted.

My sister put it best to her 17 year old when she was having trouble making him understand that you grow everyday and learn new things that change you and I guess it could be relevant here too. She asked him, "do you remember when you were 5?" and he said, "yes" and she asked, "do you think you have learned things and that you know more now then you did then?" and again he said, "yes." She said then don't you think at (whatever her age is) that I might know just a little bit more now than I did then (about whatever the topic was they were discussing).

I was really proud of her for putting it that way. He was able to understand better.

Hope this helps you.

Answer 4

I think that people change over time. It isn't just marriage that changes people. Time changes people if they want to change. I have changed since I married my husband almost 10 years ago. My husband has also changed in the last 10 years.

Answer 5

ALL men change after marriage.Any woman on here that says different is lying.
Our personalities change.Our sex drive changes.We get fatter,balder,Quit taking care of ourselves,and treat our wives differently.
Guess what?So do women.(except for the treating the wife different)Especially when kids start coming along.You get fatter.(saying you're eating for 2 when you gain 60 lbs. and the baby only weighs 8 lbs. is BS)You're sex drive decreases.(now you're a mommy.we didn't marry our mommies)And you wear moomoos to bed(try some lingerie every once in awhile.when you lose the weight.Quit using having a baby as an excuse to stay fat.men don't have to use that excuse.we're just lazy)

Answer 6

Yes they do. I think it's because of the responsibility especially if there are children. Some men can handle it quite well, but others become irritable and snappy. They also find excuses to get away from it all for a while. Down the pub with their mates or going to the footy,\\they find it hard to adapt. women can adapt to situations better than men.

Answer 7

Life in general changes and everything changes with it. I know the man I met almost 10 years ago..is different from that same man I married 5 years ago..and that same man is very different today. l also know that I TOO am very different. Nothing EVER stays the same when it comes to relationships. Even the love you feel changes...it too grows and matures as life goes on.

Answer 8

People change as time goes by, the circumstances of their lives change, and as they acquire new expereince and knowledge. Committed relationships and marriages do change the circumstances of one's life, and they provide new experiences, so yes, in this sense marriage and relationships change people (men AND women).

Answer 9

I've been married 10 yrs and my husband hasn't changed at all. Which isn't great because we have 3 kids and alot of bills and he still acts like we're going out in his Hot Rod for a date!!!!!!! So change can be a good thing

Answer 10

I don't think it happens only after marriage. If you date/live with them long enough they change too.

When people first start dating they put their best foot forward. They don't really show who they are. After time, they aren't doing all the little things you fell in love with. I hate it, but it's normal...so they say.

I say be who you are from the beginning. If you don't like it, go away.