Dose your sex life become less interesting after a couple of year of marriage?

Question

I have been married to my wife for 5 years. We have been togeather for 9, started dating when were were seniors in college. I only had sex with one other gril before her. Once we graduated we both moved in with eachother as we got our first jobs, started with little money but we had fun. Partied like rock stars! we had kick as' sex, she even had her friend join in for a threesome time to time. All of that continued right up till we got married even 1 year into it. Now both of us have good paying jobs, all of the things we ever wanted, now a 1 year old child. We hardly have any action in the bedroom ect. I know my wife complains that she is not as hot as she used to be, she did gain some weight after we got married ect. but i still tell her i love her it dosnt matter. but still nothing in the bedroom really. anyone else been though this?

Answer 1

It's probally just a phase, maybe she's overwhelmed with other things right now. Try going back to the basics and romance her like you did in the beginning I bet she'll go crazy! Oh my situation is kinda similar....try with holding sex from her for awhile but you have to act completly uninterested and I bet you will see a tiger come out possible more so than when you first met!! Good Luck

Answer 2

If you don't plan time to be phyically together and enjoying each other, then yes, interesting sex is doomed. DON'T use the phrase it "it doesn't matter". That is a killer to a woman. Tell her how good she looks. When she's naked, hang a towel from an erection and tell her, 'see what you have done to me now?'
Raising a child is a chore, are you involved in that work? If not, then get it going. Free up some time for her. Draw a bubble bath with candle light. While she's in the tub, lay out an outfit for the occassion, garter and hose, heels, your favorite panties. If she doesn't have any then buy something the day before. Sent the kid to gandma's for the night. Take her to dinner, catch a movie OR rent one. Something that will get the juices flowing. Have you seen the old '9 1/2 weeks' or 'the Last Tango in Paris', oldies but goodies. Maybe she likes the hardcore type, you should know.
Our sex lives are like so many other things in live. They are what we make them. It may not be 'easy', but, it's important enough you will find a way.
Now get of your backside and start working some OT man.

Answer 3

Yes, sex can become less interesting if you let it. You need to work on your sex life. Remember to remember you married your girlfriend and treat her like that.

Once you become parents a good amount of your emotions are redirected toward the wonderful life the both of you created. Remember that you both are still ONE and baby makes three. Keep that oneness in mind. Keep telling her she's the love of your life and the extra pounds don't take away from her beauty OR your love for her.

I don't know if the threesomes would be advisable at this point since unexpected emotional ties could result. However, do the other things you did and try some new things to keep the bed squeaking.

Answer 4

Your question suggests few things about yourselves. & Those are :- 1. You are a peeping Tom. Too much impressed by Ugly Blue Films, and your mind is rotten. 2. You consider your wife, just a element of fulfillment of sex desire, mere free prostitute. 3. You believe that your wife is not satisfying you, but at same time you are not ready to accept that you may also certain lacuna. 4. You are so sick, that you can see by your own eyes you wife having sex with a 3rd man. There are plenty chances that, your wife may leave you for that 3rd man. Solution :- Even though "Sex" is a important part of marital life, but you don't spend your whole life just having sex all the day. There are other various important aspects of married life. Like sharing happiness, sorrows, loving (Not Sex) caring about each other, spending quality time with each other. If you are employed (Service/ Business) take out some time, to have a vacation and go out of the town to a hill station / have a second honey moon. Try to rejuvenate your relations. This will certainly help rather than a 3rd man. May God bless with Good Thoughts.

Answer 5

We've been married 11years and have two children (6&4). Our sex life just keeps getting hotter. Always tell your wife she is beautiful. This will help her tremendously. Also, maybe she's just tired and stressed. Give her a back massage, go out on dates, help her forget the worries of work. Get a babysitter and be a couple every now and then. Don't let your love slip away from you. Never put your marriage last. It takes work to keep a relationship going in this hectic world.

Answer 6

Exactly what are you compaining about? The lack of threesomes? Dude, if you got to be in one, count yourself lucky to be allowed that experience. Now, as to the heat of your relationship. It sounds to me like LIFE got in the way. Your focus, especially when that ray of sunshine was introduced to your world, has shifted from each other to "other" things. Funny, you say you have everything you ever wanted, now...but I'll bet you'd go back to the struggle in a heartbeat to get that loving relationship back. Am I right? Anyway, you both can work together to rekindle it. First, outside stressed will effect her FAR more than you. You need to do what you can to relieve her of them. Second, you need to just sit down and talk with her. Maybe go out on a date together (this is a good habit to get into by the way, atleast once per month) and talk about stuff, including how much you miss the sexlife you both once had. Instead of just telling her you still love her, regardless of her weight gain...you need to tell her she is still the sexiest thing you've ever seen. And keep saying it! You say you have money now, maybe you can hook up with a personal trainer to come into your home and you two can work out together. How often to you send her flowers, or cards, or chocolates? All these little things can add up to big things by making her feel (know) she is very special to you. It is WAY too easy to get caught up in life, assumptions, and patterns. You need to buck the system. Work out some big surprise for her with her family and friends where you re-propose, or set her up for a beautiful new honeymoon. See, she may not even realize it. Hope everything works out for you. Later.

Answer 7

Having less sex after 7-9 years I hate to say is normal, Having a young child also determines when you can. The quickie during the day is not possible any more. My wife and I have two children and both work fulltime. We have made a point to make time for just the two of us.Just tell her you want her alone with that beautiful body with no interruption. Thier our highs and lows to sex activity, always make time to slow the lows.

Answer 8

Way to go sucker, you joined the club and did not even know it. Females are a emotional train wreck. Good luck finding a solution to this. If you figure this one out, you have better patent it, because you will be a rich man. Then half as rich when she takes half....LOL.....Then you can get to work on how to harness a lightning bolt. GOOD LUCK, SUCKER

Answer 9

I had the same problem before because I didnt like my body after birth. Date her and treat her right and give her a gym membership in a nice way.

Answer 10

totally. i think it'sabody image thing for my wife, cause of her weight gain. also we just are busier. on vacation we go at it like bunnies, so I think it's work, and family and everyday stuff that gets in the way. Either taht, or I/m just not at hot as I used to be..... nah, I still got it