Typical story, Ex thought the grass was greener on the other side, now 3 years later I've moved on and she tells me she's full of regret and hates the fact that she did not want to work on it back when. I feel bad, sorry for her. I went through an emotional Hell when she was so sure their was someone else she claimed was better suited for her. I pleaded to give it time, but she asked for a divorce 2 months after being separated, I waited 7 months before filing, even left the door open. I realized after 2 years, that I was allowing her to run my life, I made a decision to take control and moved on with someone else.
2006-11-21 04:02:57 · 14 answers · asked by RDJ2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the answer depends on a lot of things.
The two biggies I see are did you have any children and what do you want?
Personally, if you have kids with her, it may be worth taking at least a wait and see approach.
If not, and you really don't want to continue, be honest and tell her that you accept her apology, that you wish her well, and that you are unable to see a scenario where you want to get back together with her.
I wouldn't be mean, but I would be honest and say that the events between you killed what love you had left for her. That you wish her well, but cannot be romantically involved with her.
I would be polite, but candid about what you want.
I think I would also be gracious, accept her apology and admit that you made mistakes too, perhaps enumerate those that you are aware of and apologize for what you believe you did wrong in your marriage and wish her all the best in her life from here on out.
2006-11-21 04:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hooray for You!!!!! It will take a little time on her part to get the message because she really has gotten the worse of the departure and knows it. She's in a state of wanting you to suffer now that she has so you need to be real careful on how she reads your actions toward her. She will do whatever needed to mess up your life with anyone else because of her misery. Every time she feels down & out you will know it sorry to say, so take care. Dealing with the same things on a different level, only separated about 5 months and filed divorce trying to start my new year out on my own to miss out by five days into the new year. So, it's been almost a year & a half for me to get things that are working for the better on my part after 31 yrs of being all about him.
2006-11-21 04:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's hoping which you have the present of forgivenss and unconditional love. he's likewise attempting to salvage his family members for his baby sake! finally, as quickly as he sees that your love have stumbled on somebody else, he will pass on, and all of the nagging which you probably did, you will see the variations he made in yet another relationship and he's the father of your baby, so he can no longer basically pass away! You adult men might desire to discover the thank you to get alongside and make what that's superb for the baby, relationship with your baby around isn't a reliable element to do, your loved ones already splited up, yet another attachment will only injury your baby emotional being, shop your relationship very own and away out of your baby, even enable your baby spend time along with her dad, while you're on a date and spending time with different adult men. seem contained in the superb activity of your baby. She already have been punished contained in the time of the broken relationship between her mom and pa and divorce hurts youngsters!
2016-10-04 05:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by alia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she thinks she really did make a mistake but it's way too late now for her to change it. You have healed and moved on. She will have to do the same. It's not your concern. It's her problem. Don't be accessible to discuss it with her. Stay away from her. Don't answer calls. Send letters back unopened. Whatever you have to do to have no contact with her. Good luck in your new life.
2006-11-21 07:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about the emotional hell she put you through.Let her know how deserted you felt by her. And then let her know you have a hard time feeling bad for her because of all the coldness, and lack of disregard she showed for you while you were hurting.Tell her you've moved on , and that she needs to do the same.
2006-11-21 04:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
often times when someone hurts us so deeply we never want to go back to that person, as it took so long to get over them in the first place. we have to take control of our life, we have to move on for our own sanity. if i were u i would treat her cordially and nice, but keep my distance, as once one is snakebit they remember the hurt and pain that person put them through and would never consider going back ever. u made the only decision u could, u didn't have any guarantee she would want u back. u moved on because u had to.
2006-11-22 05:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be just playing with you, she knew she had power. Now if you have moved on she is thinking the power is slipping. There is a VERY good chance it is still a game to her. Stick to your new someone.
2006-11-21 04:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, move on and forget about this loser. Now she can go buy a lawn mower on the other side for her green grass.
2006-11-21 04:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. You seem to be doing much better now without her and if you give her any slack, she can go right back to running your life. I let my ex do that to me and now that I have moved on I could be happier!!
2006-11-21 04:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by PeAcHeS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep walkin' and don't look back. Everyone makes their own decisions, you made a good one, stick to it. She sounds like a loser.
2006-11-21 04:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋