Say me some tips or idea to become a good wife to my husband and a responsible daughter in law please......?

Question

I am an only child to my parents. Right from my young age i have never done any house hold work.(I taught i can learn at the age of 23). I m 22 now. I dont know even abc in Cooking. . My dad become ill now. So Suddenly my marriage is fixed on 1 st decembr(with the person i loved). The family which i am going to enter is a sweet family but strict too. I know that my father in law and mother in law is very strict (my would be told). He is the only child to his parents like me. So we have to take care of their parents (but i dont know how). I am really scared. Can you say me how should i behave in their house to get their blessings.(my mother in law dint accept me as her daughter in law with full mind, due to my would be force she accepted me as her daughter in law) please help me

Answer 1

Be patient, respectful, polite, helpful.

Make an effort to learn things that will help you and them, such as cooking (even just a little), cleaning, etc.

Answer 2

well cleaning a house and keeping it clean will be easy to learn but take a cooking class and a nutrition class, that should help in the cooking area. and your mom and mother in-law might now how to cook and could show you a few things. your mother in-law will be your greatest help. she can teach you how to cook the things your husband likes to eat the way your husband likes them. plus it will show her you respect her and do not want to separate her from her son. it will help you bond. your husband should be able to put you on the right track as far as caring for your in-laws. i hope this helps, good luck.

Answer 3

wow! you sound so stressed about it all. you worry too much. just look at the good side of it . you will be married, have a husband to love, and what sounds like a strict, but lovely family. i'm sure they will be kind to you while you are learning things. just be your own sweet self, and they will grow to love and accept you. and cooking and cleaning is not that hard at all. you will do fine. calm down and enjoy the experience.

Answer 4

First of all don't go into this situation so tensed up. It will reflect on your future life.
Secondly, think of them as your parents and speak to them about your fears. Make your MIL your friend and guide and tell her that as you both love her son, she should help you out to understand the family. Take her rebuke with a pinch of salt as you really need to learn from her.
Thirdly, Tell your would be to be patient with you.
Fourthly, keep ego aside and truly love your new family
Fifthly, our wishes are with you. God Bless

Answer 5

first of all my dear sister,i would tell you to be your true self.that is,never let any factor cause you to pretend to be what you are not from the very beginning.
2)see them as your own parents.give them all the care,love,respect & help you can afford willingly. as your husband's parents they are now your parents.
3)shower your husband enough love,respect,care & assisstance willingly as a wife (in all areas it may be neccesary).
4)it is never too late to learn thngs of the home (cookery,management etc).i grew up as the youngest & most tender child,pampered,never allowed to do anything.i didn't like it.i therefore struggled on my own from age 19/20 (when i had my first relationship) to know all i needed to become a full woman.i am married and my hubby is enjoying every bit of me & he is proud of me because he knows i learnt everything i know all by myself.
5)remember that a relationship can only fail when the woman lets it.your eyes must be open,yet 'not seeing'.ears open,yet 'not hearing',your mouth must be shut to yelling,words of disrespect,abuse...but open to appeal more offten.
6)you must be prayerful.this is the basic key to most successful marriages.invite god into your home morning & night.even as you prepare,start to talk to god about the family you are about to enter into.since the mom did not accept you initially,don't sit back.you have to prove yourself worthy of taking 'her place' in the life of her little boy.always pray to have your husband on your side & major victory is yours.this was my tool--prayer.

Answer 6

Just follow your conscience and common sense. And do make a sincere effort in what you want to do i.e. pleasing your in laws. A sincere effort won't be overlooked. The rest would be easy.

Answer 7

my in laws didn't like me either when i married their oldest son. in fact they hated me and told my hubby that he cant marry me but we were both of age so they couldn't say anything, i always showed them the up most respect. then after a few years they came to love me and all she said was i needed to prove myself to them. LOL i didn't know i was being tested. just can tell you keep house clean offer to help them with stuff when at their house.(like dishes and stuff) just prove to them you love their son and want to take care of him. also go buy a cookbook. Betty Crocker is best has simple recipes in it. but most of all be yourself and show them respect. also one thing my father always told me was a steel tounge makes a wise man. so agree with your inlaws even if you know deep down they are wrong. only time i would say to speak out is if you have kids and they tell them they can do something after you say no. because remember they will be YOUR kids not your inlaws. things will pan out in time you'll see. good luck! :)

Answer 8

hey don't be tense yarr take all things easily ....respect them do wt ever they want , learn their traditions wt ever they will teach u ,spend time with them,
n 1 importent thing be daughter of ur mother inlaw n father inlaw
treat them as they r ur parents thats it .it may take some time 2 adjust in ur hubby's family but its a part of life ....enjoy ur new life good luck....

Answer 9

hi
i studyed ur querry and come to the conculsion that u should be soft spoken in front of ur elders,try to be honest with them tell everything straightly to ur mother in law and tll her that u would learn it from her as she is also ur mother one thing very important is always be mum if she is saying anything to u wether she is wrong at that point never argue just try to be normal slowly slowly she will starts loving u

Answer 10

Hi,

Pl care for your family and dont forget your perants also. You should give more focus to your in laws family.