Marriage & Divorce - 10 November 2006

As a new ex wife I read alot of questions on here about how to deal with crazy ex wives and husbands. People seem to be very negative about exs. Why is that? I know there are some ex wives and husbands who are not nice but I often wonder is they have a reason to be. I wonder if we expect too much from them? My ex left me for another woman after having an affair. Our marriage was troubled but I was commited to making it work. He was not. He and the other woman now want to re-establish a relationship with me for the sake of our kids. I am not interested. The kids live with me and visit them every other weekend. I do not say anything bad about them to the kids - I support my ex husband's relationship with his children. But that is all I am willing to give (at least right now). I do not want to be friends - especially with the other womans. They broke my heart and my kids' hearts. Does that make me a bad person?

2006-11-10 06:31:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-10 06:27:52 · 5 answers · asked by heart of stone 1

He moved out 7 months ago if fact 2 days after I discovered he had an affair. The holidays are approaching and its almost a sickning feeling to not be together after 16 years. He avoids the questions I have and all but refuses to sit down and talk about things and what we are doing now and future. I am completely devastated over the whole thing because I never stopped loving him. We have always been a strong couple and a proud family and I cannot understand why he won't talk or why he doesn't want to make any effort in keeping our family together. I'm just in disamay he could so easily walk away after 2 kids and 16 years married.

2006-11-10 06:25:06 · 22 answers · asked by Gettcha 2

I CAUGHT MY HUSBAN TALKING OUTSIDE ON THE CELL PHONE ONE NIGHT AT 11:30PM. I ASKED HIM WHATS GOING ON HE SAID NOTHING WITH A LOOK ON HIS FACE LIKE I CAUGHT HIM DOING SOMEHTING WRONG. HE FINALLY ADMITED THAT HE HAS BEEN TALKING TO A YOUNGER WOMEN FOR MONTHS. BECAUSE HE WAS NOT HAPPY IN THE MARRIAGE FOR 3 YEARS NOW. WE TALKED IT OUT AND WE PROMISED EACH OTHER THAT WE WOULD TRY TO WORK IT OUT FIRST BEFORE WE GET A DIVORES. HE TALKED TO HER A FEW MORE TIMES. THEN HE SAID HE TOLD HER HE WAS GOING TO TRY TO MAKE THE MARRIAGE WORK. I HAVE A PRINT OUT OF ALL HIS CELL PHONE CALLS. SO I KNOW WHO IS CALLING. HE HASENT TALKED TO HER IN 2 MONTHS. BUT I WONDER DOES HE HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER? DOES HE MISS HER? SO MANY QUESTIONS ARE GOING THROUGH MY HEAD. AND HE WONT ANSWER NONE OF THEM. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

2006-11-10 06:22:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's a double marriage, me and a friend of mine are having.
Except my friend has never met her boyfriend, and yea, I keep thinking something will go wrong today...

2006-11-10 06:19:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

do you enjoy staying home and handling dh's money?do you enjoy decorating the house and cleaning,cooking and motherhood?

2006-11-10 06:19:22 · 9 answers · asked by nate's wife! 3

2006-11-10 05:57:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-10 05:55:25 · 7 answers · asked by ladyd 1

for the record,i work.

2006-11-10 05:44:35 · 31 answers · asked by super girl 3

2006-11-10 05:43:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband said that he wanted to wrap christmas gifts toghter but I started them last night beacuse he is always busy and I didnt do them all now he is mad and is giving me the silent **** AI reallt think this is a stupid thing to be fighting over but he seems to be finding any little thing to ***** about lately what shoud I do unwrap the four or five that I wrapped I think that would bejust silly help me please

2006-11-10 05:36:25 · 22 answers · asked by Shanana 2

2006-11-10 05:34:30 · 21 answers · asked by lizzie d 2

Our first four years of marriage were good. My husband then became a partner at an accounting firm. He then began to work long hours and on weekends. We stopped going out. I began to go out with female friends rather than mope around the house. I began to drink a lot at night after everyone was in bed. My husband moved out about 7 months ago, saying that it was because of my drinking.
Two weeks after he left, I took responsibility for my issue, started counseling and AA, I have not had a drink since other than near beer. Meanwhile, he became involved with a woman we both know and some other woman that he met somewhere. They split up about a month ago. He wants us to try to get back together. He says that he still loves me and the kids and wants to try to be a family again, including counseling. Your thoughts?

2006-11-10 05:34:26 · 10 answers · asked by terry g 1

if you have been split up for 10months with no contact but when you meet to talk about the divorse and end up sleeping together and he tells you he wishes he never left you

2006-11-10 05:32:09 · 20 answers · asked by laurenj677 2

I heard it was better for her to come to the states; if we marry in the ukrane(lahansk) it could take as long as 6 months--if she comes to the states does she need a k-1 visa and can we marry here once she arrives?

2006-11-10 05:21:49 · 7 answers · asked by jim w 1

my husband and I have been married for 3 years. We have accumulated quite a lot of debt and have been having a lot of troubles. My husband is constantly on me about the money I spend and he tends to get very angry for no reason. He is never happy with anything because he is constantly worrying about money. We are finally making enough money that we are just barely making ends meet each month. Last week I came home to a bill for a credit card that HE just applied for and (amazingly enough in itself) he was approved for. The card came with a 350 limit and 178 of it was already charged in fees for the card. I got very angry that he would even think of adding another bill to our lives. He said it was for emergencies, but I know for sure that he is buying CD's and stuff online for himself with it. I am so angry with him that I haven't spoken to him for 3 days. I don't know what to do or what to say to him. I am about ready to pack up the kids and leave him with his money...what do you think

2006-11-10 05:21:17 · 10 answers · asked by lilakcloud 1

morning I think he is a straight up liar but how do I be sure? He never calls to let me know where he is and most the times he waits til I fall asleep. I just had a baby and I don't have time to play games. He told me two weeks ago the reason he stayed out all night was because he wanted to see if I would call to check on him. What kind of man would want his wife to worry when I have five kids at home to take care of. I found out he got a hotel room in his name and he told me he got it for his friend . What a lie.

2006-11-10 05:14:19 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have custody now, but prior she has tried to attack me 2 times. Both in the Court House. I have tried numerouse times to be civil with her but it never works. Now everytime she talks to the kiddo. The little one just likes to lash out. Her mom likes to tell her not to listen to us. she is only 7 and it is tearing her apart. It's been a long hard road and I know she needs to talk to her mom and we dont deny her to do that but MAN it causing more harm than good! Any suggestions would be appreciated.

2006-11-10 05:06:29 · 16 answers · asked by the blue bonnet 1

this guy did not set out to fall in love with his best friend but it happend he has great respect for his best friend it is not like he just want's to have sex with her or any thing, can best friends realy be just friends does love grow when you are to close to your best friend?

2006-11-10 05:03:31 · 11 answers · asked by cool guy roger 1

My ex-boyfriend & I were together for two and a half years. We have an infant (I also have a five-year-old from a previous relationship). While I was pregnant, he began a "friendship" with another woman. His job requires that he travel & live internationally for long periods of time. The distance was hard. The other woman knew we were together & had a baby. While pretending to be vying for his best interest, she made every effort to get him to commit to her. I do no excuse him, but she is a huge part of our break-up. We have discussed working things out & giving our family a fighting chance. My 2 children & I were supposed to visit him this month where he lives overseas. Instead, he has chosen to take her this month & booked our tickets for next month. He has no idea I'm aware she's going. I suppose he is trying us both on for size. I am keeping my commitment to my family in the forefront. I want to fight for us, but I don't know what's right. Should I go next month? What should I do?

2006-11-10 04:56:51 · 26 answers · asked by forkintheroad 1

my wife's best friend and i both admitted to eachother that we are attracted to eachother and now i cant get her out of my mind.Plus I really dont think im in love with my wife anymore.I am totally torn and dont know what to do.

2006-11-10 04:51:30 · 15 answers · asked by john J 1

2006-11-10 04:49:33 · 26 answers · asked by benedictaeleanor k 1

hell with me, I have started this habit since the age of 16 and now i am 30 and the problem is that i feel myself disbalanced. My wife doesn't know that. I know this is terribly awful and that what really gets on me. I've tried to quit many times but i couldn't and i came strongly back. Personally i want to stop cos' i feel really that gets on my behaviours. Guys i hope you understand me!... Especially dearest ladies I'm not a bad man who betrays his wife. And i'm not that kind of people..Please help me!!!!

2006-11-10 04:45:28 · 18 answers · asked by blue-e 1

2006-11-10 04:43:06 · 18 answers · asked by ms attitude 2

2006-11-10 04:30:39 · 17 answers · asked by ms attitude 2

he loves his wife but she keep making him want to look outside for better relationships and is always depending on him for everything
sometime she thinks more of herself then any thing else

2006-11-10 04:24:45 · 25 answers · asked by cool guy roger 1

my daughter has been married for 4 years to a man in the millitary. he does have some control issues with her, which i never thought were so serious, but i guess they are. he is deployed now and she feels the relationship will never get any better, and wants to separate or even divorce him when he gets back. she says she has given him too many chances to change his behavior, to only have things revert back to the old ways. i have tried to talk her out of this because of there son. she wont get counseling, but he says he will when he gets back to save their family. she tells me hes out of chances. i really do like him and hope he can change for his own sake , but i feel shes making a mistake. he has called my husband from korea, and he seems heartbroken. she says she dosent feel the same about the relationship since he hasent changed. also i think she may be talking to other guys, just talk, but i dont feel thats right. im worried for all of them, especially the little boy.

2006-11-10 04:18:14 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

the baby in not the husbands...

2006-11-10 04:18:07 · 11 answers · asked by fire_child 2

As they say, "Behind every great man is a great woman." Is it possble to overcome a crappy spouse?

2006-11-10 04:15:05 · 14 answers · asked by parkdad73 1

I was working in the yard and my two married male neighbrs were aslo workig in their yards. They thought that it was funny that their wives had to ask them ten times to put out the garbage before they did and that they refused to change the roll of toilet paper. I don't get it. These are the same men who would ask, "Why is my wife always so angry?" MEN, please explain your behavior.

2006-11-10 04:11:47 · 16 answers · asked by terry g 1