for the record,i work.
2006-11-10 05:44:35 · 31 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless there is abuse or cheating involved yes I would stay.
You owe it to your children to have both parents in the home to raise them.
2006-11-10 05:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's see - a husband who takes good care of you and is a good father...That's a no-brainer! Of course I would stay.
Considering how many men out there are little boys expecting their wives to be mommies to them and how many women are abused by their husbands - why would you ever think of leaving?
There are always phases in marriage that seem boring at times - if that's what's making you wonder... But a man's character - that's something you cannot change so if you've got a good man- KEEP HIM or somebody else will be more than happy to have him! :-)
Staying in a marriage that "feels" like the fire has gone out is MUCH easier than trying to be a single parent!! Staying with your children's father is the BEST example you can set for them and it shows you are capable of keeping a significant promise and commitment. THAT is the better example to set than to run at the first sign of displeasure or boredom.
Love is something you DO - not something you FEEL. I'm so thankful I stuck it out in the hard times instead of caving to my selfish thoughts... and so are my kids because they had their Dad around ALL the time instead of just on every other weekend! Please don't break up yet another home.
2006-11-10 14:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Evy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stay. This is what I am doing and it works very well all and all. My wife and I do love eachother but she has lost her drive. I miss that very much but I have kids to raise and they will never know because I am not so selfish that I can not contain my private thoughts. When they are out of the house I will reconsider because I do want more. Is this perfect? No, but it is the best situation for my family. She is a good stay at home mom and that is in th ebest interest of my children.
2006-11-10 14:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you stay? If he is doing what he is supposed to do why don't you? If you are not happy for some reason that is your issue, not his or the kids'. Find out what you can do for yourself that will make you happy. You would be surprised to find that all i takes is a shift in perspective and a new attitude. Maybe it's your job you don't like. A family is too much of an investment to mess up on a whim. Take some time to figure out WHY you are not happy with LIFE. It is too easy to blame other people for our own miserableness.
2006-11-10 14:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Making Them Listen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in living with someone just for the sake of the children. They can see that your not happy, he is a good man and will keep providing for your children. If your that sure don't love him anymore the best thing is leave, everyone needs a happy life and your not happy. Some people say stay but loveless marriage is not a happy home.
2006-11-10 14:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the circumstances, and how much I'd feel I would be "giving up" by staying. I think, if someone is a good person and takes good care of me and the kids, it's a pretty compelling reason to stay with them.
2006-11-10 13:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope!!! It's hard I know, but u don't want to stay with somebody that u don't love. Just because he takes good care of u and children it doesn't mean u all him. I had same thing in my life. I was with a man that was older then me almost on 40 years. I was 18 at that time and i had some problems in my life. So when I met him he help me a lot, he was there for me all the time. I had problem with drugs and he try to help me with that to. So couple years latter I was still with him because I thought I all him. Plus I was never in love with him we were more like friends. One day I met a nice guy 5 years older then me and I fall in love with him. We still together and we love each other, he wants to have a family with me and a child to. It's been 7 months that we been together, but one problem that I'm still with that older man. I know he knows about me that I'm with someone else and he knows who, plus they friends. The reason I didn't tell him yet is because I'm going back soon to my country Russia and my boyfriend is going with me to. So soon is we be done with all the papers I'm gonna tell him everything about it. I know I all him a lot, for everything he did for me for this couple years, but I'm only 22 and he is almost 60, he is older then my dad. And the most important thing is that I don't love him, I'm in love with a different person.
2006-11-10 14:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Martini5 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell no! I work and consider myself head of the house hold becuase I bring in the most money. But money doesnt have anything to do with it. I would never stay in a relationship if I wasnt happy. The kids are never a reason to stay either..your unhappiness will rub off on them...If your not happy then get out. All of you will be allot happier in the long run.
2006-11-10 14:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes i will girl because it's hard to find a good man some men are dogs and half of them will not do the things your man doing for you and the kids and if you do have a job i think you still should stay with him because one day you migth want to quit your job and than with is you going to do i think you need to keep that man are you can give him to me i will show you with to do with him if you don't want him he sound like a good man because some men cheat and if he not doing that than keep him.
2006-11-10 14:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by lil boosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! If he takes care of you and the kids, you should be thanking him instead of thinking of leaving him. What is it that you want? Maybe you need to take a step back and see what you have compare to all the single moms with deadbeat fathers around you! Maybe you can talk to him, and spice things up between one another! You owe him at least that much to try.
2006-11-10 13:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Yasmin76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, until I found someobody better, does he work ? what does take care of mean ? is he nice ot you guys or just give money? questions is are you better off with him or without him and the kids what about them. you might have a good thing going and be to inmeshed to see it. so no maybe you shouldn't leave. love is sensible at your age, think like a woman act like a man. ok
2006-11-10 13:49:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋