what should a married guy do if he falls in love with a another women but still loves his wife?

Question

he loves his wife but she keep making him want to look outside for better relationships and is always depending on him for everything
sometime she thinks more of herself then any thing else

Answer 1

It seems like YOU are thinking more of yourself than anything else. Look, she is not MAKING you look outside the relationship. If you were truly committed to her and love her (like you claim), then you wouldn't cheat--period!

Answer 2

OK I have seen this happen. I guess to a certain degree I know what you mean but nothing justifies cheating. So first you need to let your wife know that she is depending too much on you. She needs a life away from you as well as with you. And help her to create a good balance between the two.

Next is maybe she has esteem issues and should possibly consider counseling or something that may make her feel better about her self. Like I have said Exercise and Healthy eating will make you feel better about yourself.

The other thing is you need to realize that relationships are hard work and it doesn't matter who it is, its a lot of work with anyone. Don't give up on your marriage this person may seem intriguing but its only temporary. Try to remember the times when you and your wife first got together why you finally decided to marry. Think about these things and always remember that relationships are hard and when you first meet someone everything is so simple and not complicated at all, but they will eventually be complicated the further you go down the road.

That's why the grass may seem greener at a a distance but up close its just as green as the other side and maybe even less green.

Answer 3

Thinking of herself, like what you're doing. If you love you wife like you say you do, then that love should be enough for you not to want to cheat on her. Also if you love her you should have enough respect to end the your marriage, in the grand scheme of things. Do you really think you're bettering your situation by falling for this other woman, so stop thinking of yourself. You need to really concentrate on your wife. Resolve your marriage issues. Be a man about, not a little boy. Because real men don't cheat. If you feel you can't get pass your feelings then do the right thing and give her a divorce.

Answer 4

How did you end up falling in love with another woman in the first place? Had you been giving that time to your wife maybe you wouldn't be in this situation. I find that when a man wants to cheat he finds excuses to salvage the relationship he already has, don't cheat on your wife- that's the worst thing you can do-your wife and you need to communicate let her know how you feel, you did say you still love her- you never hurt something you love. Straight up the other woman must be out of the picture- no communication what's so ever point blank!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Call it off with the other woman. Your wife doesn't deserve a husband that cheats and that's what you are if you have brought another woman into your life. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? It would probably crush you so imagine how she feels. You know what the right thing is to do, so just do it before you get in any deeper.

Answer 6

You're married, if you love your wife.......you do whatever it takes to make it work and forget about about any other relationships. If you aren't committed to the marriage, tell her and end it. It's not fair to let her think things are fine when they obviously are not.

Cheating is not the answer. If you want someone else, end the marriage and then move on. How would you feel if your wife were to cheat on you?

Answer 7

The ONLY one thinking MORE of themselves than the relationship is ... YOU!

This is SICK -- Stop, think, and cherish the one who is your partner in life. That is where you should be -- and whatever you do -- sit down, talk to your wife, and start a conversation (and do NOT pick on her, make her feel bad, or anything else).

IF you actually LISTEN to your wife, you MAY find a LOT about yourself that needs help and improvement. SO DO THAT NOW!

Answer 8

Well, plain and simple... you don't "love" both. It's one or the other; and like it or not I'm not sure you're such a piece of pie to live with either if instead of trying to make it work, you go find someone else.

No one said marriage was easy, don't give up, I mean you were married because you liked each other at one time right? Try to seek counseling, and try to spice things up, and make an effort to make her happy, she might return the favor for you.

Answer 9

Quit obsessing about the other woman. Remember the grass is just a sh*tty on the other side. Marriage is supposed to be forever, why would you want to second guess yourself? Obviously you loved someone enough to marry them. You will hurt a lot of people if you start something with this other woman, do you have the strength to carry the weight of the guilt you will have if you follow through? Are you willing to face the repercussions?

Answer 10

You just need to feel as if you are valued by someone, and to get some attention for yourself. There isn't much you can do, though - you can confront your wife and tell her that she is pushing you away and see if that does anything, you can continue to accept things the way they are and feel lonely inside your marriage, or you can divorce and try again, elsewhere. Cheating, however, isn't the thing to do - it does nothing but create trouble and lessens you as a person.

Answer 11

How on earth does this married woman MAKE her lover want to be with another woman? Dont blame the victim, thats lame. They have problems in the marraige, and maybe she doesnt even know about them. This husband needs to tell his wife his feelings, so that THEY can work on things, and also maybe one year she will be needy, and the next year she wont, people change and grow........marraige is a lifetime deal, make this woman his 1st priority, and if he feels something tword another woman, for GOD"S sake, let her know, she she doesnt have to be a chump, poor woman..........her husband doesnt respect or love her, she needs to know the truth, and if THEY worked on issues, then ok, maybe this marraige can be saved, but it doesnt sound like it, it sounds like the husband blames the wife, and is already mentally cheating.............poor woman! I'd dump this man, and fast..................