My husband said that he wanted to wrap christmas gifts toghter but I started them last night beacuse he is always busy and I didnt do them all now he is mad and is giving me the silent **** AI reallt think this is a stupid thing to be fighting over but he seems to be finding any little thing to ***** about lately what shoud I do unwrap the four or five that I wrapped I think that would bejust silly help me please
2006-11-10 05:36:25 · 22 answers · asked by Shanana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The thing is he always says that we'll do it and when he says we it usually ends up meaning ME
2006-11-10 05:42:54 · update #1
if he showed interest in sharing a task with you, you shouldn't have proceeded on your own. for heavens sake, christmas is over a month away...i haven't even considered buying gifts yet...
2006-11-10 05:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The main problem you both are having is communication. Other than that, what was your rush in wrapping up gifts if Christmas is next month. Thanksgiving is what you should worry about first. Atleast you have the gifts alreasy bought and paid for. You could've left the gift wrapping for after this month is over. Christmas is on the 25th. Today's November 10! My dear child. Take your time in life. Although I do agree with you in that your husband is overreacting by giving you the silent treatment. He's silly, which I find cute. Girl, you should thank God he's not a violent man. If I had done that to my ex he would've given me the silent treatment, by making me be the silent one, if you know what I mean. I used to be in an abusive relationship and if your man is not hurting you in any way...then please keep him. Work things out with him.
So my advise to you is when your husband tells you he's going to do something, give him time, and wait. Let him know that if he doesn't do it a certain day/time, then you'll do it. Whatever works. Communicate, girl. There are worse things that could've happend. Be greatful that he's one of the good ones. Wish you well.
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2006-11-10 06:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a petty thing to be fighting about , but I think what you could have done...and do this the next time that you have any wrapping to do...have everything out there to do the wrapping with....the gifts, tape, name tags, ribbons, bows, etc.... then just leave them out there on the table or where ever you do the gift wrapping at..when he ask you about wrapping the gifts, tell him that everything is there and ready to start wrapping and when he is ready to wrap gifts to let you know and you will be there to help him. Do not wrap one single gift until he starts doing it FIRST!! You just might end up with some not wrapped but oh well ........
2006-11-10 06:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a stupid thing to get mad about.
Ask him what else is bothering him.
Don't unwrap the presents you have all ready taken the time to wrap. Just don't do anymore. Wait until he asks you to do it, which knowing men, he'll ask you when you are in the middle of something else. If it is christmas eve and the presents still aren't wrapped, still don't wrap them and say "I was waiting for you"
2006-11-10 05:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang the girl is already christmas shopping. and its not even thanksgiving. well here what I would do. Just tell your husband you got a little few things extra that are really special and you didnt want him to see them so you started on your own. Tell him your sorry that You didnt wrap them all. if he is still mad. wait one night and when his coming to bed have all the gifts and wramping things in your room so you can have a wraping party together. Do it early though. make cookies and hot choco. When he sees that your really sorry. He will see how stupid it is to fight about that.
2006-11-10 06:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by allie laught alot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was kind of mean of you, don't you think? If he specifically said he wanted to share that with you and you decided you couldn't wait and did it anyway? You still have 6 weeks, so what was the rush? It's not the gift wrapping, it's that you totally ignored his request and his feelings-- again. You need to apologize and treat him with a bit more respect.
2006-11-10 05:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that was very passive-aggressive of you, and says a lot about you. You could have given him til Christmas Eve, for gosh' sake! Don't be silly and undo what you have done with the gifts, but undo this behaviour you are doing with your husband. Sounds as though you are being deliberately destructive. Smarten up!
2006-11-10 07:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are sorry. He asked if the two of you could wrap them together and you disrespected him, or at least he feels that you did. One of the most important things to a man is respect, especially from his wife. Eat some crow, say you're sorry and it will pass.
2006-11-10 05:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in the whole scene of a relationship, this is trivial. But....if he really wanted to I can see where it would hurt his feelings. Just apoligize...be the bigger person and tell him you two can wrap the rest together and forget the ones that are already done!
2006-11-10 05:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave the ones who are wrapped in their place.
Tell him that you'll wrap the rest together, but that you don't want him to be busy all time.
2006-11-10 05:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by cass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you wait???? Christmas is over 6 weeks away! If things aren't going so well, but he makes an effort to do something together with you, you should be nice and do it with him. My feelings would be hurt, too!
2006-11-10 05:44:30 · answer #11 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋