hell with me, I have started this habit since the age of 16 and now i am 30 and the problem is that i feel myself disbalanced. My wife doesn't know that. I know this is terribly awful and that what really gets on me. I've tried to quit many times but i couldn't and i came strongly back. Personally i want to stop cos' i feel really that gets on my behaviours. Guys i hope you understand me!... Especially dearest ladies I'm not a bad man who betrays his wife. And i'm not that kind of people..Please help me!!!!
2006-11-10 04:45:28 · 18 answers · asked by blue-e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Weeeeeeelllll, if YOU think/feel it to be a problem, then go seek counseling.
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2006-11-10 04:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and for most guys think about this stuff at least 23.5 hours a day 7 days a week 365 days a year...
no matter what a guy is doing ..some where in his mind this is going on..even is guys do not now it..it is going on..you only realize it when you subconsciousness lets your conscience mind see it..but all guys are wired the same...now that I said it...
you are a normal guy..it is all in how you watch them..and when and what you make her watch..maybe she does not want to see any of it..and that's fine..do not push it on her at all...you can find a place and time for it...that does not cut into her time or your time with her..do not run into the den and lock the door when she is home and does not want to to watch it..but you two have to come to an agreement, that you love it ( like ALL guys do ) and you would like to still do it without offending her .so lets talk and figure this one out, ( because I Love you Honey ...she will love hearing you say that..) so work it out so you can do a few things, have your fun, learn form them to help HER OUT...and at least you will not feel bad about it...and who knows maybe some day she may decide to view them by herself and then join you...you never know
but TALK it out calmly and nicely..do not give it up....if you do..it WILL cause a small tear in your relationship...that some day Will get bigger...
good luck
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2006-11-10 05:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your problem is that you "try" to quit instead of simply quitting. You indulge yourself and give in to your urges, just like a smoker or drug addict. Put your wedding photo next to your computer or video player. Next time you choose to view porn, look at your photo and say "I know this hurts me, you and our marriage very deeply, but I don't care!" then see if you still want to view it. Stare at the wedding photo for 5 minutes and think about your vows, then view the porn. I have a feeling that you'll change in a matter of weeks if you stop trying and start doing.
2006-11-10 05:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn can be as addictive as drugs. You need to seek some counselling. Take your wife with you so she can understand that it is an illness. Be honest with your wife and allow her to monitor your PC activity. Go to www.christianporn.com and sign up for their accountability program. That will make you accountable to someone else and will prevent you from hiding your problem. Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-10 04:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are addicted. the only thing that can help you is a professional!Maye you should tell her so that she doesn't find out on her own and get mad at you. Hiding something from her seems like you are doing something wrong. Which you aren't because you have a real problem. Letting her know maybe she can help you! §good luck!
2006-11-10 04:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 12:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get help for both you and your wife's sake. Like any addiction it can be overcome, half the battle is realizing it's a problem so you have accomplished the toughest part.
Best of Luck
2006-11-10 04:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by vthamiltons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be something that you are missing in your relationship with your wife. I would seek counseling if you do not want to watch it anymore.
2006-11-10 05:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it exceeds the limited dont feel that nobody knows it.dont breakup yours wife trust.try to make good of that time.
it a hard thing to walkaway from but if you love your family you have to sacrifice such desires.
2006-11-11 10:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking at porn is perfectly natural. Just make sure it is not a substitute for getting it on with your wife - as long as she is happy and satisfied with what the two of you get up to then there is nothing wrong with a bit of extra self activity on the side. I love looking at porn too ... it's perfectly fine!!
2006-11-10 04:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋