Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2006

Okay my ex dumped me a two months ago. She has been in therapy for her father passing away and her low self esteem. When she broke up with me, she said she needed time to figure her own life out before she could be in a relationship with anybody. She apologized and asked me not to hate her because she thought we had good potential, but the timing of us sucked because of her she said. So we still keep in touch every now and than, but I think she keeps in touch just to let me down easy here. I don't know though. She emailed me last week and asked me how I was doing and said she hoped everything with me was going well and to drop her a line whenever. So I replied in an email and said hello and small chat... a few days later. I get in an accident three days ago and I txt her cause she was the closest person I knew to the accident. She does not reply at all. SO I am thinking that she doesn't really care? And I am thinking of not really talking to her nemore cause we both moved on?

2006-11-14 23:48:56 · 16 answers · asked by cds1666 1

2006-11-14 23:40:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

your relationship with your partner is not doing good for you but he thinks it is. you dont want to hurt him thats why your trying to stay in the relationship that you think is not working for you anymore. when you had a chance you cheated and you think your falling inlove with him and same as him but worse, your both married with kids and both afraid to hurt your partner. but you both want to keep each other and go home pretend that everything's ok and live your life with guilt.

2006-11-14 23:38:34 · 14 answers · asked by jhennie 1

2006-11-14 23:35:43 · 18 answers · asked by akila m 1

2006-11-14 23:20:38 · 13 answers · asked by MV 2

Just seen my ex and now feel like rubbish...

2006-11-14 23:16:00 · 24 answers · asked by sugar 2

My daughters father has not seen her in three years. I have since re-wed, my husband is the only father she has known. I have a court order to add my last name bt I would like to change it to mine and my husbands. I have concerns that she my develope issues because she is the only one in our home with a diffferent last name. Where do I start, and begin

2006-11-14 23:13:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a fight with my husband this morning because he wants to go on a trip to another country alone ..He was upset and we argues and then he left home ..later he called and invited me to go out to a restaurant for lunch but he was not very happy when we were out like he was still upset..what shall i do now?
shall I show him some love and care and ask him to forget that we fought?

2006-11-14 23:07:19 · 11 answers · asked by fallingprincess 2

I was married to him,now we separated for like 3years already but he dont want to sign papers,he keeps on runningonce i found where he live. i've done nothing to him,he's the one who use to abuse me.

2006-11-14 23:06:34 · 9 answers · asked by sailook 1

I have got some stupid answers to my questions because of this. Why are people so judgmental? If there are a few who want that, you can NOT generalize. Only because some of us marry Americans or Canadians, some guys think we did it because we wanted a Green Card or whatever, or just a escape. I declined my Green Card because I was not happy with my American husband and came back to my country where I am happier now. People fall in love, having or not different nationalities. Some are lucky, some aren't. I think it is SO VERY WRONG to judge people only because they belong to a certain place in the world. Of course there are exceptions, mine was one, I married an American jerk, but I don't hold grudges towards the US, actually I love that country. Not talking that South American women are loving, caring and very giving. Maybe that's why some North American come and pick us because we are passionate and they confuse passion with being a slave............

2006-11-14 23:02:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been separated from my husband for 5 years in Feb 2007.(unofficially ie no court papers) I have trying to get a divorce but he ignores my letters and emails and I can't locate him. I sent him the Marriage Cert months ago as he said he was going to deal with it. But has now dissappeared off the face of the earth! What is the best way forward? Obviously a solicitor would be the way but I live abroad and I don't want the added expense of travelling to UK to deal with legal stuff. Can anyone help or recommend a good internet solicitor? Thanks.

2006-11-14 22:58:29 · 11 answers · asked by sarah b 1

can you help me how to cope with stressfull life because of my unfaithful husband?

2006-11-14 22:53:04 · 20 answers · asked by cutie 1

that broke us apart was his huge debts to the Government and the other was his distorted ways of how to ask a wife to help him financially. He told me that I should work to pay for my food. In my country, here in South America, a husband would not talk to his wife this way. We work to help them out, but never to pay for our own food. I found it to be a rude way to address to a wife. I still struggle with this request of his. I found it to be sort of abusive. Not only that, he would always told me his son would come first and I quit my life in my country to follow him. I felt as an outsider at their home. That was too much and I had to leave him and came back to my country. Please, tell me......is this most American husbands acts towards their wives? There are times I wonder if he married me to help him out on his finances. This has been a struggle to me. I am back now and safe, starting a new life but I always wonder about this. Thanks a lot.

2006-11-14 22:46:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love them both but why would i look else where if i really loveed my wife? Im so unsure!

2006-11-14 22:40:14 · 49 answers · asked by afctim 1

2006-11-14 22:24:03 · 22 answers · asked by cia 2

it breaks my heart when i see him checking out other women

2006-11-14 22:13:31 · 18 answers · asked by anusha k 1

My husband is totally obsessed with Japan, Korea, China, Hong Kong basically anything oriental. He collects the films reads the books searches the internet. is learning the language, if its oriental he buys it basically. He also thinks the women are beautiful. Girls with swords and guns are his favourite. Its an everyday thing he cannot go a day without it. He is desperate to visit Hong Kong I am not. I got rid of our internet because he spent all day on it looking at Japanese/Korean websites (not rude) while I was at work. Its making me ill. I have told him all this, we just have rows. He tells me he loves me and I beleive him but I know I will lose him because I cannot love his passion too. We have been together for 20 years and he does have an addictive personality. I see oriental people in the street and I don't like them. I feel as though I am hating a nation because he is so besotted with it. If it was just a hobby I guess I wouldn't feel like this. I being silly?

2006-11-14 21:30:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

..and if so, how old are you? And how old were you when you got married?

2006-11-14 21:13:48 · 28 answers · asked by Peaches M 3

1- An old fashion thing .
2- The normal disteny for love .
3- good bye , happyness ! .

2006-11-14 21:09:47 · 33 answers · asked by citizen high 6

My son is 37 years old and has a wonderful devoted wife and three children but he is more devoted to a male friend who he works with. He does more for this man than his family and he has given up the holidays this year to go hunting with this friend. He spends alot of his time talking with him when he is at home with the family. And his wife is really trying to help but he gets so aggrivated with her and the children and I am worried that she will get tired of trying and leave and the children will be hurt, I think this is the main reason she stays now and that she loves him so. Do I have a reason to worry and what should I do? Do I try to talk to him? He does not open to anyone except his male friend about anything. He does more arguing with his family and just ignores most of us. What do I do?

2006-11-14 20:59:17 · 17 answers · asked by Glenda 2

i have been dealing with my husband's bad attitude for years. what do i need to do before i make this decision?? i love him more than anyone in the world and he loves me too (for sure), but his attitude will kill me slowly (emotionally) - how long will it take me to be okay once im a single mom??? how hard from 1 to 10. i will get very limited to no help from anyone. should we try counceling first? should i just run off out of state ?? i dont know.... im going crazy

2006-11-14 20:42:01 · 10 answers · asked by MaRitA 2

I have recently married (arranged marriage). After marriage, I am facing a problem.

He is my hubby and is a very loving and loyal man. He loves me and he says this is a harmless way of having fun and this excites him....

He is an exhibitionist - he makes me wear short skirts/tops in public. Or sometimes he doesnt allow me to wear any/appropiate lingerie when going out...and expose myself to (only) him publicly.

Till now I was doing this but now it feels weird as he has posted a few of my lingerie-clad pics on a website (without showing my face) quite openly - he showed me the site...almost proudly.

What do i do? Should i refuse or continue?

2006-11-14 20:32:17 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

been together since i was 15, i am now 50, i love him, but i don't feel whole. i feel empty inside and need some companionship,

2006-11-14 20:21:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm feeling very bad today because it has never been worse as this. I even used my hands and scratched him. He was abusing my parents. We live in a joint family and there are so many things that are actually directed by and from elsewhere. I too call his people names at times but I never hit below the belt. he did that today. So what do you think people? What should I do and where exactly are we heading?

2006-11-14 20:18:03 · 9 answers · asked by pakir poyum 3

My ex partner ran off with my son and it took me 4 years to trace them...when i eventually caught up with them i started to see him regularly...this went on for 4 years with me travelling 200 miles every other weekend to pick him up/drop him off...i even paid the deposit for her new house so she could move closer to her parents...last september she rang me and said if i didnt come to pick him up she would put him in care as she had had enough of him...he IS NOT a bad boy...just a happy go lucky normal 11 year old...now she is taking me to court for acces after having no contact with him for 10 months... my son does not want to see her and is still very hurt but the courts could decide he has to...What should i do...what will happen if i keep him away from her...Someone help please...Legal Knowledge would help lots

2006-11-14 20:07:07 · 26 answers · asked by ALAN B 3

Can someone tell me where to find either a place in southern california or maybe just where I can get a kit for the cake. Thank you to everyone who replies.

2006-11-14 19:52:01 · 9 answers · asked by LoraBaby 2

me and my husband have been together for 7 yrs. we got married 2 wks ago. we have a 2 and a 5 year old. im 23 he is 28.(im the money maker-but ofcourse he does not admit that) they have always been "hot" with each other, but today for the 2nd time (after making up last year) my parents needed $10k and they will pay us back in 1 month. my husband said no, but i was able to force him to lend them 5k. today they askd for the check and i refreshed my husband's memory, he said he does not know about this. he is just being a complete a**hole. i cried, i begged to let them borrow, he keep on insisting he needs all the money in the bank ($100k) he talked to her and said he needs it for something. then, after 2 mins talking, he told my mom that he will not let them borrow because they dont know how to pay back.(but they do) they borrowed $100.00 dollars and forgot about it (but HE DIDNT) my parents are so mad at me, i want to kiss his a$$ goodbye but i dont knowhow.im afraid of what he can do

2006-11-14 19:44:06 · 14 answers · asked by MaRitA 2

2006-11-14 19:30:42 · 11 answers · asked by Sotheavy U 1

She is now in a Residential care facility for Alzheimers. If she could it would help pay her monthly bill. As most people know, private insurance companies do not cover this unless it is a nursing home.

2006-11-14 19:26:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before I met my current g/f of almost a year I was doing really well. I had a job I had held down for three years. A car that I worked overtime and did without for for 6 months to save money to pay off. I worked out and ate healthy and was in the best shape of my life etc. After I met her basicly all my focus went to the relationship. I stopped saving money and started spending it going out and doing things with her. I no longer work out b/c all my time is spent with her. I don't eat healthy b/c she won't. I lost my job b/c she hated that I had to work some nights and I ended up quiting. I went from having a decent paid off truck to being really upside down on a newer car that I pretty much just bought to impress her. I've become an alcoholic b/c I'm a really shy person sometimes and her family that I now live with is really upbeat so I drink to keep up. I've got nothing in my savings and a couple grand in credit card debt.....

2006-11-14 19:23:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous