i have been dealing with my husband's bad attitude for years. what do i need to do before i make this decision?? i love him more than anyone in the world and he loves me too (for sure), but his attitude will kill me slowly (emotionally) - how long will it take me to be okay once im a single mom??? how hard from 1 to 10. i will get very limited to no help from anyone. should we try counceling first? should i just run off out of state ?? i dont know.... im going crazy
2006-11-14 20:42:01 · 10 answers · asked by MaRitA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, forget running as it will only get you into trouble with the law. Counseling could help but only if both are willing to try with open heart and mind and definitely want the same outcome. Being a single mom will probably be the hardest thing youve ever done and youd be doing it for sometime. So you have to decide whether youd be better off with or without your husband and how much are you willing to continue putting up with. Try the counseling as you have nothing to lose anyway and it may work, but I seriousily think you may have to threaten him with divorce or counseling to get him to go but itll be worth it. Good luck
2006-11-14 20:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COUNSELING......I understand how wearing that can be, but because children are involved I think a little more effort is needed. If after some counseling he still wont change than you should move on.
I was a single mother for 3 years before I met my husband and we went on to have another child, but it is hard, not undoable, but without family and friends to help you have to rely on strangers/paying people. That's not the reason to stay with him if he won't improve. Try to make it work because the kids deserve a stable home, But if you want honesty it is hard, but if your happiness comes with leaving him than do it.
Just go to a counsler first!!!
2006-11-15 04:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by tsostler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love him more than anyone in the world and he loves me too ( for sure) Well I have to say this cause the basic ingredients are there. Your husband may be too engrossed in other things to really take care of you. You have rightly suggested to seek counseling. Before you seek that please sit together and have a long chat where you tell about what is happening to you emotionally because I think there is so much more to your problem than you are saying
2006-11-15 04:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by R C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely try counseling first because there can be a solution to this problem. If that doesn't work out consider living but before you do make sure you are well off. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-11-15 04:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sigurros 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you and the husband. If you got the last moment of not willing to make this work, the only chance for reconsolidation is just move out for refreshment and get time for both of you to think why you are so angry on each other and how you must change and behave to have happy family in love with future.
2006-11-15 04:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try counseling first- and if u flee with the kids he can get u for kidnapping and then gain soul custody so i woluldnt suggest that. try the counseling the because my brother -in-law and sister-in- law went through the counseling and they're doing ALOT better now. calming down is ur first step so that u dont blow up at anyone.
2006-11-15 04:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by mmackie08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on YOU and your ATTITUDE how you deal with it. I was a single mom of 2---ages 3 and 1. I did just fine. I went on taking care of my kids, worked, etc. You just deal with it and don't make a big deal...........oh, I'm a single mom........I need this and that..........and you don't know what it's like.........it's your decision...........so live with it and make the best of it.
2006-11-15 04:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs counseling,but it hard to change someone, you might just have to deal with it, try to get him to counceling
2006-11-15 04:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by airpolicejohn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both should try counseling ,and maybe see psychologist just remember not to let the relationship interfere with your parenting, whatever you do don't give up GOD is with you he will guide you the right way
2006-11-15 05:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jason W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat eva happened 2 the vows "4 better or 4 worse till death do u part." hv u also considered the emotional damage on ur kids n' hw long it will last? get it 4rm me, stick it out!
2006-11-15 04:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Another face in the crowd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋