it breaks my heart when i see him checking out other women
2006-11-14 22:13:31 · 18 answers · asked by anusha k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a bit loutish to truly ogle. My interest in other women's appearance did not stop with my marriage. Some of us are people watchers who prefer to watch women. I often try to put a story with the face. I also like art and photography galleries. this is innocent study of human behavior. So if he is not turning to you and saying crap like "I wish you looked like that" or " Did you see the gams on that one,Ay". Maybe cut him a bit of slack.
Truth is, when he loses interest in looking at other women he is probably not looking toward you either.
It never hurts to read the menu even if you can't afford the entree.
2006-11-14 23:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Try telling him exactly what you wrote, most of the time we don't really tell them how we feel, next time you two are having a heart to heart be open and honest with him. As for the ogling part the only way that stops is if they lose their sight! Good Luck!
2006-11-14 22:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lawsy, lawsy! A man doesn't stop finding women attractive just because he gets married, and the same is true for most women. Few people are immune from some sort of temptation. The issue is, whether they can resist the temptation.
Of course, it's a different issue if your husband's ogling is so obvious that it humiliates or embarasses you. Then it is rude and inconsiderate of him.
2006-11-14 23:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all husbands do that. My husband says that girls who are half dressed look like slut's he knows not to disrespect me by gawking at other women .His ex wife practically through herself at other men while he was working. She ended up cheating on him so he has no respect for women who advertise their body like a prostitute. Some guy's actually like girls who are moderate with what they wear. Your husband may be just trying to make you jealous act like it doesn't bother you then the next time you go somewhere with him you do what he is doing and show him how it feels.
2006-11-15 00:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by gamble010676 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why, but I do know how it feels when my husband does that. It makes you feel like you are not enough for him or that he doesnt find you as attractive as them. It crushes your self esteem and makes you not trust them as much. Its like a slap in the face really.No matter how much he reassures you that you are the one he wants and how pretty he thinks you are it is all gone the next time he checks some other girl out. The least they could do is try to refrain from doing it when they are with us right.
2006-11-14 22:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ash 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why would that break your heart? He's like a nice body ... so what. If you're that concerned, try a work out gym. But first I would examine why you are so insecure. He married YOU, he loves YOU, he comes home to YOU, he sleeps with YOU. So what if he likes a little 'eye candy'?
Of course ... you can tell him that as he feels free to look at the hot babes ... you can too ... right?
It worked for me ... *lol*
2006-11-14 22:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Duchess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because his enegy level and drive is still active, even though you've worn him to a frazzle with your nagging and the history between you. Is there a reason why he should find you so attractive that his eyes never stray, or did you think that marrying him would turn him into a eunuch??? I'd say he probably needs some positive reinforcement, but that's just a guess...
2006-11-14 22:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he ogles and stays with you it means he's still alive enough to notice others, but prefers you. If he doesn't actually involve himself with these other women then be glad he admires them but loves you. Not trying to give him a free ride, but it is normal for anyone to notice a nice looking man or woman. Now if he acts like a horses-ahole and embarrasses you that's different. I see beautiful women every day and I enjoy taking in their beauty. But I took my vows with one woman and that's who I share my life with.
2006-11-14 22:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
sometime by ogling at other woman may spice up thei marriage life, so let the have fun but make sure not too much.
2006-11-14 23:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
is this a serious question....? who made you so insecure that you feel threatened...and women dont do it either...yeah right?
first its human nature, get over it...sex is an attraction
next, remember who he goes home with
finally realize those things that make you possesive and jealous bridge the trust gap and perhaps you should worry more about the changes needed for him to ogle at you.
2006-11-14 22:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 3⤊ 5⤋