Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2006

Okay this is a long one. My wife and I recently split up. I'm 32. Now we are talking about getting back together. My problem is that we were only apart for a few months (4), and I'm not sure that i know (or want to know who she is now). She dated a guy briefly 4 dates or so, bought a bunch of sex toys, (which i hate), started smoking pot, and hanging out with people that are not the best influences. Going out to bars and flirting with people. I swear that the whole time we were apart, I didnt so much a hug anyone. I feel like I must have been holding her back from doing what she wanted to do when we were married. My overactive imagination zooms. We are living together again now.....Should I try and get over this or just not get attached?

2006-11-14 06:05:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are recently separated and we started out with him having the kids every other weekend. Now he wants them on Tuesday and Thursday nights over night. My son is 14 and my daughter is 6. My daughter and I have a routine every morning and every night as far as getting ready for school, doing homework, play time and all that. We have a very close bond and I feel that he's trying to take that away from me just because he realizes the time he's missed with her. I am at my wits end and I don't want to feel controlling and I've talked to our marriage counselor about it and she says that I should let him and let it run its course. I don't feel comfortable about it and feel like I have to give in to him again. I do feel that he is taking away MY time with her. Like I said earlier, my daughter and I have a very special bond. She was 3 months premie and I about died after she was born. What should I do? Should I let him have them 2 nights (school nights) or something else?

2006-11-14 06:03:30 · 13 answers · asked by babe_in_the_country 2

2006-11-14 05:59:37 · 28 answers · asked by betty h 1

I'm involved in one with a married woman. We've been friends since long, had sex some days ago. She's ALOT worried and confused unnecessarily.

Need your positive advise to continue it without letting her feel guilty and keeping everything smooth and secret.

Have you ever been involved in one?

What should I tell to relieve her tension and keep her comfortable?

2006-11-14 05:54:44 · 20 answers · asked by DTA 1

my husband decided he needed some space and wanted to move out he moved into a friends house (the friend is out of the country for a while) well he now wants me their all of the time and calls me all the time but doesnt want to move back in and he tells me he loves me. what should i do. i just dont understand what is going on we did just have a baby 7 months ago, but that is no reason for all of this drama.

2006-11-14 05:48:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everytime my husband and I get in a fight it is the same thing. He gets mad because I check him on the computer and find out he has been chatting with girls. HE gets mad that I check him and says he doesn't want to be married to the F.B.I. he wants a wife. He says we don't have a normal life. Iask him what he wants in the normal life and he says just normal, wife husband, house, happy. Not checking, not always fighting. How do I change?

My parents divorced when I was 6 because my dad cheated on my mom. He used to take my younger sister and I on dates with him and his girlfriends while he was married to my mom. HE though we were too young to tell on him, but when I was 3 I did and my mom stayed with him for 3 more years, and he still cheated the whole time. Maybe that is why I don't trust my husband, even though I know it's not him. It's because I don't want to be stupid like my mom. It's so easy for men to cheat and that's why I check on him and see what he is doing. Any Advice?

2006-11-14 05:45:10 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I also found out that he had an affair on our anniversary and this was just this past august.

2006-11-14 05:41:39 · 15 answers · asked by sweetkandi_cakes 1

Everyone is talking about cheating and is it ok to flirt with or have relations with other people. Are people really this dumb. Marriage is sacred and it saddens me to see that a majority of the questions are about cheating and lies instead of how to take care of your spouse and solve problems. Divorce should not be a first, second or third choice. It should only happen in EXTREME cases. Why do so many people sound like they are so miserable in their marriages? (Maybe they shouldn't have been allowed to get married in the first place?)

2006-11-14 05:40:31 · 16 answers · asked by Julie 3

2006-11-14 05:36:03 · 5 answers · asked by Jessica S 1

honesty,loyality,smile,helping poors.

2006-11-14 05:33:51 · 9 answers · asked by majid aziz 1

I spend as mush time with my kids as is possible but I am in work four days out of seven the rest of the time my husband is at home. I have five kids so it is tough to juggle everything but without my working my children wouldn't have half the life the live.
My husband is very happy with the arrangement as he can work at home and only needs to do so two days a week, however a few of my girlfriends think I should be the one to give up my career.
They think my husband is secretly unhappy with the situation and say he feels belittled. We have talked about it in the past and he says he is happy but is this because he is just putting me first?

2006-11-14 05:32:11 · 15 answers · asked by strictmom 3

okay. so my boyfriend and i have been talking about marriage for a while now and have both agreed to wait until we graduate. my boyfriend found out he can graduate a semester early but i will still be in school until may. ( we still agreed to wait until i finished school to get engaged) he knows that i really want to get engaged asap and i dont want to wait until school is over but im willing to wait for when he is ready. anyways, a few days a ago we got into a huge fight because i lied to him about my grades and how much money i owed my credit card. during the fight the mentioned that he was going to propose in January but now that he cant trust me its not gonna happen. after the fight we talked things over and he said that he's still going to propose but not until he can trust me again. do you think he will still propose in jan? or did i screw up my chances of ever being married to him?

2006-11-14 05:25:41 · 25 answers · asked by bar22bie 2

I like a woman, although she is married she likes me too. We know each other since long but only some days ago we had sex first time. Now she is not talking to me properly and avoiding me. I asked her why. she says she feels guilty for cheating on her husband. She asked me what should I call this relationship and I said just call it a close friendship. she likes me too and can't go away from me easily, but feels in a tangle right now. I don't want to let her slip, what should I do to keep her friendship + intimacy?

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2006-11-14 05:25:07 · 11 answers · asked by DTA 1

farted in front of your significant other by accident???

2006-11-14 05:23:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are any of you in a reltaionship with a passive agressive husband. I have been in a relationship with my husband for 13 1/2 years married 6 yrs, raised my 15 yr son(prev marriage), was supported by him through school (received my bach in 3 yrs) and while I was pregnant with our son in 2004 was recently cheated on. Our son is now 1yr 2 mos. Its so crazy pregnant women get cheated on all the time. I recently learned of his behavior (passive aggressive )and need help dealing with him and my trust issues. would really appreciate some mature advice :)

2006-11-14 05:20:34 · 6 answers · asked by chitchat 1

husband had an affair the woman he cheated with continues to use our last name to be spitefull.
we would like to move on but she has blogs and adult websites with our info and personal info on them.
would luv to get even with her.

2006-11-14 05:18:57 · 15 answers · asked by true 1

just wondering how many of you women can stay faithful to a man that you are married to ? I am 25 and have been married since i was 19.I wonder if my wife gets bored with me sexually and wants others......please give your take on this subject?

2006-11-14 05:14:25 · 17 answers · asked by tknallurchps 1

I don't know what to do my husband had an affair with a young girl from his work for 2 years and he is having a hard time coping with this he is in love with her too (its really hard for me to choke that out) but It's true. We have been together for 10 years and have 2 young boys. We get along very well and there's never fighting with us, so it's hard for me to let us go and he feels the same. The problem... He is having a hard time dealing with his pain of letting go of her. Is there anything he can do that will make it easier for him? He feels like he has lost his best friend.
What is next for us? Can anyone help me with this?
Thanks

2006-11-14 05:13:22 · 18 answers · asked by kehorn 1

sneezed and fired a boogar out your nose in front of your significant other???

2006-11-14 05:12:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for 13 years married for 3. He sleeps on the couch and we haven't been intimate for 7 months now. He always says his stomach hurts or he has a headache. Everyday he does what he calls a "deady" on my butt and it hurts really bad like a whip. I have asked him to stop but he says that is his way of showing me he loves me. We have 2 small children and it seems we fight all of the time. And it is not fair for the children to have to go through this because I did when I was little. I know he had a pornography problem in the past but haven't found anything in the last couple of months. He barely helps with the finances. And his best friend is over every night there might go one night in between. He calls me a B**** all of the time even when I am not saying or doing anything. My family says I should leave because from what they understand he is emotionally and physically abusive and he neglects me and my sexual needs. He says he's teasing me when he deadys.

2006-11-14 05:11:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have always been inl ong term relationships that last 2-4 years but they always end. The weird thing is that all of my ex-boyfriends always want me back because I'm a good girl but why do they always end? It's not due to cheating just fighting and breaking up. I'm beginning to wonder if I will ever get married because all of my relationships never last. What causes someone to have such bad relationship skills?

2006-11-14 05:07:24 · 15 answers · asked by Venus 3

I don't understand the reasoning there. If 2 men get married it doesn't make my marriage (I am heterosexual) any less sacred! In fact it doesn't affect MY marriage at all! In the long run, isn't marriage between 2 people who love each other (regardless of sex) better than hate? I have heard the argument that marriage is between 2 people who can reproduce, but there are hetero couples who cannot conceive. Are you going to say that their marriage is invalid? I think it should be a matter of choice. I haven't seen any valid reasons for denying gay marriage. (I don't consider religious conviction a valid reason, remember separation of church and state?)

2006-11-14 05:02:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

'She left me for another guy who was appparently lying to her, her son (12) won''t talk to her, her life is going to hell. I still "care"for her but don't think I can go back. In the hour long conversation we had she didn't say she was sorry once. What would you do?

2006-11-14 05:01:00 · 18 answers · asked by Johnboy 3

2006-11-14 04:59:53 · 7 answers · asked by latinarose 2

2006-11-14 04:59:53 · 13 answers · asked by bems 1

and tried to go with the lights off and when you sit down, you find that the toilet seat is up and you fall in???

2006-11-14 04:53:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-14 04:53:26 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are not married yet and have only been living together for about a month but, have been dating for two years. I love the kid but, i still feel uneasy having him call me "dad" since i have no kids of my own. My girlfreind who is great has no problem with it and says that its my issue. The kids real father keeps him every other weekend but, rarely takes more of an active role that that. What do i do?!?!

2006-11-14 04:49:40 · 36 answers · asked by Jake c 2

My middle aunt who is 50 is planning on earning her PHD. in healthcare management. She started going back to school when she was 42. However, her husband makes fun of her about furthering her education he says she is too d@mn old to continue her education and thats it a waste of time. He also said he is not interested in hearing about her education either.

2006-11-14 04:47:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm just not sure if Im pleasing my husband enough. Just wondering how many times everyone else dose it.

2006-11-14 04:41:39 · 21 answers · asked by Issues 1