my husband decided he needed some space and wanted to move out he moved into a friends house (the friend is out of the country for a while) well he now wants me their all of the time and calls me all the time but doesnt want to move back in and he tells me he loves me. what should i do. i just dont understand what is going on we did just have a baby 7 months ago, but that is no reason for all of this drama.
2006-11-14 05:48:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suspect he still loves you and is just overwelmed with the responsibility of the new baby. Try to get into couples couceling and I'm sure all will be fine in the end. A heart to heart will get both of you on the right track again.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-11-14 05:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lyn,
I'm going through the same thing right now. It doesn't mean he's cheating. People are different especially after life changes like having a baby. Maybe he just needs time to adjust to the idea of being a daddy and all the responsibility associated with it. If after a couple months you haven't gotten him to move back in, then I would strongly suggest a marriage counselor.
Good luck to you,
sailing the same boat
2006-11-14 14:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by babe_in_the_country 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a separation is a good thing. When I went through something similar, I didn't make myself so available to go and see my husband all the time. Put a time limit on this separation, and stick to it. Do NOT tell your husband of the limit, just one day out of the blue ask if he is coming home and if not then you know what you need to do. Sometimes a separation can make a marriage much better than it was before.
2006-11-14 13:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he can't have his cake and eat it to. It sounds like that is what is going on. Maybe the responsibility of having a baby has overwhelmed him, but he is not considering your feelings in all of this. He probably does love you, but, on the other hand, if he needs "his space", let him do without you for a while. Don't answer his calls and don't go running to him when he does call. Make him realize how life is without you........good luck to you and congrats on the new baby
2006-11-14 13:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe is is trying to get some quiet time but girl you need to tell him to help out with ur baby and spend time back at home like a real man and not run to a friends house. Keep ur eyes on him he might be creeping around late at night
2006-11-14 13:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by Linda704 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a boy, not a man. A man takes his duties as a husband and a father seriously, not as a child. Running out on you cause he "needs his space"? Cause you had a baby? This one needs a good swift kick in his tuckas. Tell him to go to marriage counseling with you, if he wants to see you, he knows where you live, and if he doesn't get on the ball with some changes and growing up you are going to trade your "boy" in for a REAL MAN! Good luck!
2006-11-14 13:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How awful. You've got a 7 month old and he's not even living at home? This guy wants out big time...he wants out so badly he can't stand it. This is the worst time for a separation and it's clearly obvious he can't handle commitment or a child. How terribly sad for you - you've got huge decisions to make.
2006-11-14 14:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going over. You have a baby to think about. It's obvious that he's not thinking at all. When ever he asks you to go over, just say NO. Tell him he need to get his butt back home and help take care of the baby and share the responsibility that he helped create....
2006-11-14 13:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him fish or cut bait. He either moves home today and behaves like a husband and father, or you're going to divorce him. End of story.
2006-11-14 13:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow up- he need be a man, father and husband. From the look of things hez chicken unless you have not given us the entire picture!!
2006-11-14 14:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by newmakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋