okay. so my boyfriend and i have been talking about marriage for a while now and have both agreed to wait until we graduate. my boyfriend found out he can graduate a semester early but i will still be in school until may. ( we still agreed to wait until i finished school to get engaged) he knows that i really want to get engaged asap and i dont want to wait until school is over but im willing to wait for when he is ready. anyways, a few days a ago we got into a huge fight because i lied to him about my grades and how much money i owed my credit card. during the fight the mentioned that he was going to propose in January but now that he cant trust me its not gonna happen. after the fight we talked things over and he said that he's still going to propose but not until he can trust me again. do you think he will still propose in jan? or did i screw up my chances of ever being married to him?
2006-11-14 05:25:41 · 25 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok. i know i shouldn’t have lied, but you need to understand something. my boyfriend is A LOT smarter than i am and i was embarrassed to tell him how i was doing in school. i didnt want him to think less of me ( even though i knew he wouldn’t) but my self esteem is already kinda low and i just didnt want it to be lower. now about the money, i technically didn’t lie to him about that. i just didnt tell him. he would ask how much money i had saved up and i would tell him the truth, but the reason why i was able to say the truth was because i never told him how much i owed my credit cards. he said that he's more mad about the lying than the grades or the debt, but i know if i told him the truth straight up he would be mad about that.
2006-11-14 05:42:30 · update #1
You probably screwed yourself out of being asked in january. but if he really wants to marry you, and if you have worked through the lying on your part, then he will still do it.
If he cant get over it (which he will show by all of his actions), then he wont do it.
My advice would be to cut up the cards, pay them off, get better grades and show him that you really arent the person that you were when you let your morals slip.
I think it will work out fine though.
2006-11-14 05:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey, don't be desperate...never be desperate! You do not want to force a marriage because it will probably end in divorce. You are doing the best thing to wait until after school anyway. Believe me, I have been there, life changes a lot when you graduate and start real lives. Don't even consider marriage or engagement for a while after your graduate. Give both of you a chance to grow. If that means you grow apart, while it may hurt, it would mean you saved yourself a lot of pain later. On the other hand, it could bring you together and that would help your chances for long-term.
Just stop pressuring him and yourself with a lot of expectations. Start enjoying each other again with out all the pressure.
2006-11-14 05:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lying was a bad thing to do and i hope you learned from it. There is no law that says you cant ask him to marry you though. Christmas is coming you could jump the gun and ask him instead of waiting around. you are only getting engaged not married before you finish school. while you are engaged you can then prove to him that you were wrong in what you did and not do it again. besides i always thought when someone was going to propose marriage that it was a surprise for the one being asked not planned on both sides as to the date and time.
am i wrong or have times changed that much?
2006-11-14 05:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have open communication with each other! Being honest and trusting each other go hand in hand.
I encourage you both to take a Christian marriage class...I think you can go even if you are just thinking about becoming engaged. The point is, those classes offer the two of you ways to understand each other and communicate on the most intimate level.
God Bless!
2006-11-14 05:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by Buff 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, make sure you tell him nothing but the truth from now on, and he may propose in Jan, or may wait till you finish school. It's kinda hard to tell.
2006-11-14 05:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to under alot of pressure.With school and your relationship being at the top of your agenda,I would opt for a release of some of this pressure.Consider dating a new guy and maybe having a fling. This may refocus you in a new direction.
2006-11-14 05:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you love him and want to be with him, you need to win his trust back. To start with honesty is the key to a great relationship. Communication is also a big part of relationships so talk to him and be open and honest about how you feel and what you want from him. Make it a 2 way conversation. If you can't be honest with him and you can't talk to him you may lose him.
2006-11-14 05:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by robbie347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and he are both too young to get married. Regardless of all the other BS, you shouldn't be getting married right now. And no, I wouldn't blame him if he waited a good 5 more years for you. Lying is lying and you can't be married in such an immature state of mind.
2006-11-14 05:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 06:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're lucky you screwed up your chances. Marriage is for the rest of your life (or should be). You both need to know what you're doing before you make such a big, life-long commitment. You're just not ready.
2006-11-14 05:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋