Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2006

We broke up 3 months ago. We work together so i have to see her every day!! It hurts like hell!! I miss her so much but our relationship was very bad towards the end. She is rude to everyone something that i hate about a person, i did love her but at the end i wanted our relationship to end too. I have been fine for 3 months and she has now met someone else and brags about the good sex that she is having and i feel so hurt and want her back! I cant sleep and cant eat! why do i feel so bad when i know deep down that we are incompatable?

2006-11-14 19:16:22 · 10 answers · asked by nine_ball_tattoo 1

2006-11-14 19:12:44 · 11 answers · asked by Sherry M 1

its okay to amit you have we all make mistakes

2006-11-14 18:28:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I would like to convey to my wife what I like and what not in her, something more like a "wishlist". What would be the best way to do it? Would somebody have a template that I could use? I would like this to be non-offensive and honest.... :)

2006-11-14 18:23:47 · 4 answers · asked by HRN 1

But I'm ok.. should i expect an emotional break down anytime now? I've had a few good crying spells and all.. and I'm not perfectly fine. But I am feeling ok. I feel like i should be feeling worse right now? maybe this is the calm before the storm? anyone else ever feel like this?I do still love him, so that's not it. that's why im worried..

Also, he is the one who wanted the divorce. We got married very young which was a bad choice I think (20 yrs old). I do think though, that I was ready for it and he wasn't. I think he realized that he couldn't go out and do a lot of the things he used to do. It just seems to me like it is very easy on him which is bothering me

2006-11-14 18:10:28 · 12 answers · asked by ckp1234567 1

Hi,

My estranged husband sends an expensive gift to me. He continues to send nasty emails to me all along and blame me for everything. If I accept the gift....he will point out that afterall I was always materialistic. If I dont, he will turn around and say I have a massive ego and my intention is only to put him down.

What is the best course for me to take ?

2006-11-14 18:03:04 · 20 answers · asked by eyecan 1

I want to be faithful but I need to maintain deep friendly relationships with other men and my partner forbids it, it this infidelity?

2006-11-14 18:02:54 · 22 answers · asked by Ostrich B 1

2006-11-14 18:02:40 · 7 answers · asked by vsiong 1

He drinks thrice a week and smokes every day. He surfs and chats on the net late night which I hate.He finds fault with every thing I do even though I try to bring out my best. I think he gives importance to every one else in the world , than his wife and two sons. Sometimes we dont talk even for a week.We are of 39 yrs and completed 14 yrs of marriage.We had a love marriage.Though I talk of breaking off every time, he never does. Once in a while he acts like a good husband also and then after a day or two, the same old story.What should I do.Will some wise man advise me?

2006-11-14 17:56:09 · 17 answers · asked by manjushri 2

Some types of extravagant spending:

1...Extravagant weddings: Americans now spend an average of $30,000 on getting married and the more affluent often shell out six figures.

2.,,“Premium” coffee-to-go: It’s okay to treat yourself occasionally to take-out coffee; it certainly tastes better than most home or office brew. But twentysomethings buy $3 java drinks.

3...Expensive option packages on new cars: Thanks to all-too-easy credit, our average-priced new car now sells for almost $30,000.

4...Cigarettes: We puffed away $88 billion worth of tobacco products in the U.S. last year, and people in New York City now fork out $7 for a pack of smokes.

5...Fuel-inefficient vehicles: In the mid-1980s, we all questioned the sanity of people still driving gas guzzlers – and now most of us are spending $40 to $60 a pop filling up our own.

6...Christmas shopping: It’s not what we blow on holiday gifts -- $450 billion last year -- but how thoughtlessly we spend much of that sum that’s become a colossal waste.

2006-11-14 17:55:02 · 8 answers · asked by marnefirstinfantry 5

I think I may have used my words in the last question a little too loosely. Im not exactly repulsed by my husband but rather "put off" by my husband. I hate the thought of having to have sex with him because (as many of you quessed) sex=pregnancy, and I DO NOT WANT another baby. But I think the bigger contribution to my feelings is because of the lack of respect and hurtful words my husband say's to me when ever he gets mad. He accuses me of cheating (which I have NEVER), he calls me fat (only when he's mad of course), and does not respect anything that I do, whether for him, the family, the kids, the house, the bills.. ANYTHING! Thankfully our marriage has never been physical (fighting wise) but that old saying "sticks and stones may brake my bones but words will never hurt me".. is a horrible horrible LIE! I think words hurt the most! But overall, (even though all your answers were VERY eye opening) this problem IS bigger than I had imagined, and I agree with all of you.. I need help

2006-11-14 17:52:41 · 3 answers · asked by Heather K 1

I have found recipts were he has paid in cash a buisness card from a bank that we dont use, and on top of it all we really need the money we have 3 kids and the last one has all kinds of medical bills we still need to pay off and cant afford.

2006-11-14 17:27:47 · 5 answers · asked by Heather83860 1

2006-11-14 17:26:22 · 3 answers · asked by sumeet s 1

I think of lot's of good memories, and I wish I could go back in time to those days and just stay there forever. But which one do I choose?

WHY WHY WHY is life so strange?

2006-11-14 17:23:22 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

My life is crazy!

2006-11-14 17:15:23 · 39 answers · asked by monikp5836 1

2006-11-14 17:15:16 · 6 answers · asked by daniel k 1

For the sake of argument, if he was awarded joint custody, could he receive child support (even if he is denied spousal support or alimony per terms the prenuptual agreement)?

2006-11-14 17:15:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife had an affair 11 months ago and now we have a baby. She told me when she was pregnant that our baby may not be mine because she had an affair. I was furious in the beginning and went through all of the emotions and even contemplated divorce but I have learned to forgive and forget which was very difficult. Since I love my wife, we went through counseling and it seemed to help. I found out through a paternity test recently that my baby is not mine but I will still take care of the baby and be the father of this child because I love my wife and because I take my marriage vows seriously "for better or for worse".

Now the problem is, how do I tell my family and friends that my baby is not mine? What's the best way to tell them? Or should I keep it a secret like it's none of their business?
My wife has not told her family or friends yet that the baby isn't mine.

2006-11-14 17:14:39 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i have been separated for over a year now and i still love him so much. He beat the crap out of me and left me for someone fatter a uglierthan me, they had a baby, and i still cant let him go. None of my relationships work out because there not the same as if it were with him. I try, but i just cant get over him.

2006-11-14 17:08:09 · 13 answers · asked by amy f 1

Im really torn because..My sisters husband beats her up,im talking punches her..talks down to her...but,I know this is her buisness but all of our family has tried to talk some sense into her but she set on staying with him...But,I really want to kick this guys a** I crenge anytime Im around him..I am 6'6 and 260 pounds so I know all it would take was one blow from me and he would be out cold hes 5'11 probably 190...Should I ??....Or will I just go to jail for no reason and she will go back to him?...My wife had to keep me from driving 30 miles to kick this redneck a** at 2a.m....

2006-11-14 16:58:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

just curiuos to see how many people have weird habits that they do that drive their better half crazy....

2006-11-14 16:56:44 · 13 answers · asked by Spirit 5

2006-11-14 16:55:51 · 20 answers · asked by elnakriel 1

My dumb friend is dating this 16 yr old girl with his mother approval, he is 21 and now they both want to get marry i dont know for what reason.....would there be a legal problem if he marries her with her mothers approval??

2006-11-14 16:49:40 · 22 answers · asked by mikl0vl 2

So my fiancee with whom I live with has been working at a factory for like 3 days now, and everyday he comes home and totally ignores me. I make him dinner every night when he gets home. It is always sitting on the table. Before he started this job he was unemployed for about 2 months. I worked at a factory everyday for 4 months and before that, I worked all the time also. He worked at subway as an asstiant manager, and only got 5.50 a hour. I don't understand I did this for a long time, and he never had supper ready for me or anything. Tell me what do you think is going on??

2006-11-14 16:48:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiancee & i have been having problems for about 3 weeks now (on & off for over a year but really bad this time) and i dont think he wants to marry me anymore. I love him and dont want to be with anyone else. We have a 3 month old son together and have been together for 2 and a half years. Being with him makes me so happy and i love any time i get to spend with him. lately he has been spending less and less time with me. he doesnt kiss me when he leaves or when we go to sleep. He used to do these things all he time for no reason at all. We rarely have sex anymore and we used to do it about 5 times a week. If anyone has any suggestions about how to remedy my situation, i would greatly appreciate it. thanks

2006-11-14 16:47:01 · 15 answers · asked by Aprylle 1

2006-11-14 16:45:27 · 12 answers · asked by lalunaestaaqui 1

2006-11-14 16:43:53 · 18 answers · asked by ftz 6

I have been dating my boyfriend just short of a year. We have known each other about five years and met again through a mutual friend last year in January and started dating. We have only been exclusively dating since March 2006. We have grown very close and to be honest I think I knew when we met again that he was "the one". Recently we talked about moving in together, which we decided not to do because of our families and our spiritual beliefs. The conversation brought up the fact that he has been thinking about marriage. We decided that we would be engaged and married by the time we moved in together and chose a wedding date in June because it fit our time line to plan the wedding and for him to actually propose. We started to plan - looked at rings, sites and making guest lists. Then out of the blue he told me last weekend on Saturday (which also happened to be our 11 month anniversary) that he felt like we were moving too quickly and we had not been together a year.

2006-11-14 16:42:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK...about a month ago, my wife and I fulfilled a long time fantasy and we had a black guy spend the night with her here in our house.
She enjoyed things "during"...i did things I never thought i would...and the guy (who we knew) was just perfect in his attitude and how he was with us.
The next day - my wife kept saying how great it was - that we would do it again....it was incredible sex...etc...
Recently now - she refuses to talk about it - or even consider it.
If it was so good that night...and she was happy the next day...why does she say "no" now???
We are still very much in love - we are adults so please dont bash us in your repsonse.
I have just been wondering - why she wont consider doing it again now - after she said it was "so wonderful" that very next day?

2006-11-14 16:39:41 · 20 answers · asked by Steve and Sue D 1

explain this. if they are gay, they shouldn't get married in the first place.

2006-11-14 16:36:20 · 14 answers · asked by bubbalicious 1