Why can't things be the way they used to be? Why is there change?

Question

I think of lot's of good memories, and I wish I could go back in time to those days and just stay there forever. But which one do I choose?

WHY WHY WHY is life so strange?

Answer 1

Life is about making memories. . .if you have memories that bring a smile to your face. . .you been living good. Keep it up.

Answer 2

I have felt that same way many times in my life, especially since my dad passed away. But the truth is, if there isn't any change, then we can't experience growth and be open to new oppurtunities that wouldn't otherwise come our way. Say for instance, if I were in a relationship and it got old and stale and we both knew we didn't love each other anymore but we didn't want to break up because we were afraid of change or getting out of our comfort zone. Then I could miss out on a great guy..possibly "the one". I'm sure there are times we would all love to be able to go back to the past and grab onto a heartfelt memory or two. But those memories, although in the past will always be with us. And we must live our lives looking towards the future. Even if it's day by day.

Answer 3

As much as you sound like you want to go back, the fact of the matter is, you can't. You cannot change what has all ready been done. Learn from your mistakes, and move on. I realize that that is easier said than done. If you constantly think of all the things you've done in the past that you aren't pleased with, then you will have no future. (I know this sounds like the inside of a fortune cookie). Regret nothing you've done because you'll be able to take new knowledge from that experience and make a better decision next time.

Good luck to you!!!

Answer 4

Life isn't strange. It's funny when you think about it in so many ways but whatever. If there is something in your life that you can't bear any longer the best thing to do is to change it and only than can you stop living in the past. Take risks, make changes that you can agree with. Live life.

Answer 5

You can't go back to those old times but you can certainly experience new things that will make a memory for you. Make a list of what used to make you happy/content, and make a list of something similar that you could do now that would feel good. What is sad is when the memory is so attached to one particular person. You may feel that you couldn't feel like that with another person. It is worth trying to find out, and you may get to experience something refreshing, exciting and new. Best of luck to you!!

Answer 6

It's easy to live in the past. There were many good times then. You can relive the good times and easily forget about past mistakes that were made. The future is uncertain and you are facing it with fear because you are afraid of making mistakes. If there is something currently going on that is making you unhappy then you need to recapture the situation and surround yourself with the opportunity to experience good times in the present. Do not dread the present and do not be afraid of the future. It is all a part of life. If you insist on dwelling on what is already history you will become history before to long.

Answer 7

Just like in all things in life my dear seasons change things grow things die. all part of life were always evolving and growings. some times people grow together in the same way and other times there interests change and they go down different paths. try thinking that what you to had was special for the time you had and that you have wonderful memorires now and would never have had them if you weren't together. and you keeep these memories in a so called imaginary box and you now go out and make new ones to add to this box. Life isn't always a guarantee be happy with the times you did share and have. and continue to move on yourself who knows what out there for you to explore and what new memories you willl make.

good luck.

Answer 8

life is not meant for us to stay like we were. if we were to do that, we'd be children for life and then where would we be? i completely understand what you're saying: i think of lots of good memories and wish I could go back in time to those days and just stay there forever. but, what happened in the past stays in the past. there's nothing you can say or do to return there. yes, granted they were happy times, but leave things as they are. ha. easier said than done, right? well, my advice to you is this: you can change with life. you must. in order to grow, you must go with it. when the wind changes, you can fight it or go along with it. it's best to go along with it because you'd end up with dust and dirt and god knows what else. haha. life is a beautiful thing. so is change, but it's all in perception. if you percieve life as something you don't want, you'll be angry, depressed and not much fun to be around. honestly, would you want to hang around someone like that? no. embrace the change, no matter how weird or crappy it gets. through change you find yourself. always question yourself to seek answers. don't doubt yourself, but question. they are two different things. one of my favorite quotes is: this too shall pass. when you find yourself through change, you will be whole and happy and be able to ride the winds gracefully.

Answer 9

Things cant be the way they used to be because of change. Change exists because it is the natural process of life. Our bodies change, our minds change through knowledge and experience, the weather and seasons change, plants and animals change through evolution, etc. You can go back in time. Create for yourself the person and circumstances that you were at an earlier time. Life is only strange because you make it so. I think life is wonderfull. Who sees the real reality, you choose.

Answer 10

Life and time goes on, and the only way to make it any better, is to make better for you and have a good attitude.
Looking back at some of the past just makes you either hurt or feel sorry for those involved.
Change has always been A GOOD THING.
LOOK UP AND GO FORWARD.

Answer 11

The only constant thing in this world is change. Keep the memories there. It is what makes you who you are today. But at the same time, don't live in the past. Stay in the present.