What does everyone think about threesomes or three person relationships?

Question

My life is crazy!

Answer 1

It's only good if you're single but when you're married, it should be out of the question.

Answer 2

It is interesting that all the answers to this questions assume a sexual relationship is implied!

I talked my wife into a threesome some years ago and since we both liked the other girl, it was fun for a while. A short while. The girl moved in with us and we slept together in a large bed, but we never really tried to have a sexual relationship with all 3 of us at once. Now that it's way behind us, I am so glad. We just played around a lot. I tried to have sex with the other girl, but even though we slept together naked and showered together, she never seemed to want to f**k! She was a lot younger than I and may have been too scared of my wife to do anything with me. But she turned out to be a thief and stole a lot of my wife's jewelry and clothing before she disappeared!

Then sometime later a younger guy whom we both knew from work moved in with us. He adored my wife and made her feel great! He and I did sports and other guy things together and he was like a younger brother. The three of us played cards and board games and had parties. It was a very good time! The three of us were great FRIENDS and although he desired my wife sexually, it was not a major obstacle because she was always a little out of his reach. When we had a child, he became our son's godfather and we are all still friends! In fact he has married now and lives about a block away!

So, it can work out with friendship. I don't think it can work out on a sexual level.

Answer 3

In my opion three is a crowd.

I just got out of an open realtionship where my partner was seeing another girl. We had talked about maybe having a threesome, but the truth is it just wasn't a healthy option. I felt like the third wheel, I felt under appreciated and the whole situation was praying on all my emotion and physical insecurities. In the end I just told him that I couldn't be a part of that anymore and that I needed someone who wanted to be with me, no question's asked. So he went his way and is going to try it out with this other girl. I am hurt, and I suppose I should have seen it coming. But take my story as a warning, someone is always going to have their toes stepped on, or their feelings hurt in that kind of a situation. Humans as a whole are jealous creatures and unless you are really really good at sharing, I wouldn't recomend it.

Answer 4

Most people fantasize about threesomes but most of them don't even think about the consequences of adding an extra partner to spice of the relationship.
One or more things can go wrong.

1) one or more of the persons in the threesome will end up getting jealous or bitter

2) increased chance of divorce or breakup

3) the trust is gone.

Answer 5

Threesomes can be great. as long as you keep things in prospective. as far as three person relationships no good we are all human and get jealous or start to feel insecure after a while. First off are you married or single? That could put a different spin on things but not much. Good luck.

Answer 6

threesomes are fun but a three person relationship only means someone will get hurt in the long run dont play with fire cause u will get burned or the grass isnt always greener on the other side

Answer 7

I assume when you say "three person relationships" you are referring to polyamory. In my opinion it works very well for many people.

There are those that will tell you to stay away from it, but they are speaking from their own fears and biases. What they should be saying is "it's not right for me, but it seems to work for others."

The idea that one person can be your everything for the rest of your life is stupid, and probably contributes to a number of divorces because people get disappointed and disallusioned when their spouse fails to live up to their expectations. We tend to put our spouse on a pedestal and then get mad when they don't live up to some unattainable image we created for them.

This is where those that are open enough can, and many have, embraced the ability to love more than just one person. There are challenges and rewards just like in a traditional two person relationship, but for these people it works well.

There are a number of great resources on the Web about this topic. Below are some links for you.

Answer 8

Do a glance for on the time period "polyamory." That'll likely land you a number of the elements you're searching for. the individuals i recognize who've tried this have a tendency to have a larger failure than fulfillment price, yet in holding with their reviews, the major issues to bear in mind look understanding what you want out of each and every courting (operating example, on your case, is the recent guy only a hookup or a conceivable boyfriend? Do you all agree on that evaluation?) and verbal substitute. once you're having doubts, or you're uncomfortable about something, or you even imagine something may have the flair to reason difficulty contained in the destiny, carry off and communicate it by with any people formerly you do something. otherwise, you wind up with a good number of damage emotions.

Answer 9

The number 1 sexual fantisy for guys is a threesome. Iam not sure about the three person relationship though. I think guys like threesomes so much because they feel they can conque or "spread their seed" to more partners at a single moment. Maybe a genetic thing.

Answer 10

I think about it, and I think it would be great with my wife and another woman, though I would want a relationship. Just a one time threesome

Answer 11

threesomes are ok, but i don't think a three person 'relationship' would work out. eventually, you would run into problems