But I'm ok.. should i expect an emotional break down anytime now? I've had a few good crying spells and all.. and I'm not perfectly fine. But I am feeling ok. I feel like i should be feeling worse right now? maybe this is the calm before the storm? anyone else ever feel like this?I do still love him, so that's not it. that's why im worried..
Also, he is the one who wanted the divorce. We got married very young which was a bad choice I think (20 yrs old). I do think though, that I was ready for it and he wasn't. I think he realized that he couldn't go out and do a lot of the things he used to do. It just seems to me like it is very easy on him which is bothering me
2006-11-14 18:10:28 · 12 answers · asked by ckp1234567 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You could never loose what you never owned. People will be people no matter what and can always be counted upon to make unpredictable moves in life.
Getting a divorce is not the end of the world but the beginning of a new life for yourself. You will struggle and have some heartache at the beginning, but, not to worry, it's normal.
Never allow anyone to put you on hold or take away the precious minutes we spend being alive. Begin anew and the best of luck.
2006-11-14 18:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by marnefirstinfantry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I Am Not Qualified To Answer This Question. My Mom And Step-Dad Divorced A Year And A Half Ago. The Whole Thing Blind Slided Dad. He Is just To The Point Now Where He Can Actually Look At Women As Attractive. As Far As My Mom Goes She Had A Boyfriend Before The Divorce Was Final.
What I Think Is In Any Breakup One Takes It Hard, And One Doesnt. It Doesnt Mean Anyones Wrong.... (Or Evil). It Just Means One Has Better Abilities With Dealing With Pain.
Long Story Short..... Take care Of Yourself!!!!
2006-11-15 02:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the bible verse Gen.1:28 - be fruitful, multiply and have dominion (it's not that exact but close) it means that before getting married you should be prepared in all aspects physically, emotionally, financially and mentally. Prepared to be a wife/husband and a mother/father. It's not that I am blaming you, If he wants the divorce, try to consider this, tell him to cool-off for a few months (away from each other) to think and reconsider again your marriage, if it doesn't work (the decision is up to you) I believe that marriage is sacred. The next time you will get into a relationship don't make the same mistake again, perfect yourself first before getting married, and so with the man.
2006-11-15 03:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lorna G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has just left me after 8 1/2 years of marrige. There was someone else she found. She tells me that it was a one time thing and that she regrets it. I do believe her. It's really hard for me to get through this because of what happened. It's only been 3 weeks since she asked for the divorce and only 1 week since I found out about the affair.
My best suggestion would be try and hang out with your friends and family as much as possible. If you know someone who has been through a divorce before, they will also be able to help you out. I'm still trying to work through this. It's really hard, I'm not going to lie to you. The hardest part that I'm having is she told me that she wanted the divorce becuse she wanted to go out and find herself. She felt that she wasn't happy with herself. She told me that if she wasn't happy with herself, how could she make another person happy. She was my world. All I can say is take one day at a time and learn to be on your own. It's hard to do, but I'm starting to get used to it. Just be strong. You will be able to make it through. Remember, pain will only make you stronger. Good Luck.
2006-11-15 02:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by beachdog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married young isn't so good. We all change especially in our 20's.
You might have grief along the way I still do after 8 years. Sometimes it hits me hard and I was the one to leave.
It isn't easy to find out the person you committed to forever just isn't who you thought he was.
It might see it is easy on him because you don't see him 24/7. And might of gone through the emotions before you guys split.
You will love again.
2006-11-15 02:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are having the normal reactions to a divorce you may get very pissed off at a later point but right now you seem to be taking the higher road and being mature about it
2006-11-15 02:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be in the denial phase. Sometimes reality does not set in until we have already gone through the situation. I wouldn't dwell on what might happen as you have enough to deal with right now. It sounds like you are being very strong and if you continue that way it can get you through this.
2006-11-15 02:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by hawkeye316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head up. you have a long way to go yet. Divorce is like someone dying- you go thru a grieving process. it will take time. surround your self with good positive people do things for your self that you haven't been able to do. Focus on you, thats the best thing you can do at this point.
2006-11-15 02:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you'll have your ups and downs. Just expect it and let it happen. But, if it happens for very long (a couple months) then you need professional help.
Good luck,
A
2006-11-15 02:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got divorced I had my ups and downs. I accepted it but it still hurt. And occaisionally I cried but that's it.
2006-11-15 02:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋