Hi,
My estranged husband sends an expensive gift to me. He continues to send nasty emails to me all along and blame me for everything. If I accept the gift....he will point out that afterall I was always materialistic. If I dont, he will turn around and say I have a massive ego and my intention is only to put him down.
What is the best course for me to take ?
2006-11-14 18:03:04 · 20 answers · asked by eyecan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No...that man is a control freak. Tell him,"if that is the way you see me...that must be the way I am." goodbye
2006-11-14 18:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send the gift back. Why would you want to encourage a man who would send a gift and nasty e-mails at the same time? Sounds like you are better off without him or the gift.
2006-11-15 02:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by stariei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the gift and don't listen to him. Either way he will complain, at least you get a gift - kind of like a consolation prize. My soon to be ex has these unreasonable highs and lows also. One minute I'm love of her life and she's sorry and never wants to hurt me. The next minute she says mean things and threatens me. It's a terrible cycle I hope to never experience again. I think these types of people think they know what love is, but don't understand it's based on trust and knowing what is unacceptable in a relationship.
2006-11-15 02:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, just take the gift and get out. You are stuck in a relationship that isn't woth it and it isnt until you realize that you are worth more than that when you will actually gather the courage to get out alive. I moved on, and well if I could do anything different, I would have accepted every penny. And gave it up for charity or something.
2006-11-15 02:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by geniusflightnurse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Accept the Gift and say thank you. You then make your move. He is no good to you find some one new who will respect you for what you are. Who will love you and take care of you. You do not need to be abused
2006-11-15 04:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your email and don't accept any gifts from him. If you have to ask, then you might not have been always materalistic, but you are now. Otherwise you wouldn't have had to think about it. Or ask anyone about it.
You sound like a control freak.
2006-11-15 02:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the gift, say thank you...
And make not more of it..
Do not allow it to become his invitation back into your life...
OR...
Refuse the gift and do not allow him back into your life...
I suppose it depends on how expensive the gift is and how
much you want the gift...
Your only choice is to accept or reject the gift..
There is no choice about our abusive hubby....He is gone...
2006-11-15 02:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not accept the gift. If you keep feeding a hungry stray it will keep coming back for more. Cut the cord now! Good luck.
2006-11-15 02:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not accept gifts, because as a man you are just leading him on. See in our mind we think if you accept something from us we still have a chance, you are leaving the door slightly open,andif he's abbusive why take that chnce...RUN
2006-11-15 02:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mark K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the police as a stalker. Show them the nasty emails as proof. Send the present back.
2006-11-15 02:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you even communicating with him? No dont keep it. Not only dont keep it but block him from sending you emails. You are asking for abuse. No offense but you must enjoy it a litlle or you wouldnt be reading emails from him.
2006-11-15 02:06:18 · answer #11 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋