Should I kick my Bro in Laws....?

Question

Im really torn because..My sisters husband beats her up,im talking punches her..talks down to her...but,I know this is her buisness but all of our family has tried to talk some sense into her but she set on staying with him...But,I really want to kick this guys a** I crenge anytime Im around him..I am 6'6 and 260 pounds so I know all it would take was one blow from me and he would be out cold hes 5'11 probably 190...Should I ??....Or will I just go to jail for no reason and she will go back to him?...My wife had to keep me from driving 30 miles to kick this redneck a** at 2a.m....

This guy is dangerous because he owns alot of hunting guns..and im scared hes going to go off on a drunken rage and kill her..or his children

Answer 1

If you can find a way to kick his *** and not get caught, then do it. Good enough tho to really scare him without killing him. Keep in mind.......will he take it out on your sister when he recovers? You may go to jail and she may turn to him more......hard to say. Your family needs to have an intervention type meeting with her and get her out of there. Tell her flat out you want to take her out of there in the car, not a coffin. Once she's safe away from him....give him one for me too.

Answer 2

I'd like to say, kick his a--, but then what will happen after you leave? Will he take it out on your sister? Does he own a gun? I don't know if it'll help for you to talk to the police. If he beats her again, call the police right away. Unfortunately, your sister has to come to grips with her own situation. Can you imagine how it could turn out? You will go beat him up and you might land up in jail. It's a crazy situation. But on the other hand, he could just hit her one more time and it could be the blow that ends her life. She has to leave him. I've known many people in relationships such as you describe and nothing good ever comes of them. Your sister needs to listen to reason.

Answer 3

I know you love your sister and this is hard to watch, but please don't go beat her worthless, piece of crap husband up.

As you suspect, if you beat her worthless, piece of crap husband up, even though he richly deserves it, you'll probably end up in trouble with the police, which may cause trouble with your job and goodness knows what else.

Also your sister may actually stop talking to you, which would be very, very bad, because the abuse is going to continue, and someday she's going to need you to be there to come pick her up and dust her off. If you're behind bars, you won't be able to do that.

So. You've tried to talk to her. The abuse continues. What I suggest you do is get in touch with a domestic violence agency or a battered women's shelter and ask them for advice. There are a bunch of them in the phone book and on the web - I've listed one below.

Trust me, they've seen this scenario before, the woman who gets the crap beaten out of her yet refuses to leave. They should, if they're worth their salt, have practical advice (her storing important papers outside the house in case she has to flee, for example) and psychological advice.

So please try working it from that end, and please continue being really visible for your sister, letting her know that you're there for her.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Before doing anything that can land you in jail, you need to talk to him. Let him know that you love your sister and you know what's going on. Tell him that up until now you have tried to stay out of it , but she is your family and she is your business. Let him know the possible consequences of his actions. The thing is that she will not leave him until she is ready. Also, make sure that she knows that when she does get fed up and decides to leave, you will be there to support her.

Answer 5

No get proof- pictures of your sisters bruises black eyes whatever. then the next time she comes over call the police and file a report they will probably want to arrest him and your sister will probably not want to file charges- but once the wheel is in motion it will take its coarse also this will take the focus off of her sister and put it somewhere else you all have to do something especially if he has access to guns. you don't know your sister could decide shes had enough and shoot him- then she would be going to prison.

Answer 6

YES. Wouldn't it be worth a couple hours in jail?Besides when he calls the police to have you arrested for asalt he would go to jail for demestic abbuse and your sister wouldn't have to do a thing because the state would intervine. I'm in TN. a guy on the news just got 20 yr for a demestic charge.

Answer 7

I'd love to tell you to not just punch him, but to really give him a taste of his own medicine. The thing of it is. Your sister is not going to leave him until she gets tired. Not only that she may have to pay the price for you kicking his a**. Let her come to you. Then it will all play in your favor.

Answer 8

I would do it. Then when he's on the ground, tell him if he presses charges, hits your sister again, he'll get another one. Make sure that he feels every beating. Hitting a girl is a Bi*** Move. Its better he fight someone his own size. Do it and let me know how it goes. Do it for every women, little sister, wife, cousin, girl out there who gets beat. Just don't get caught.

Answer 9

Domestic violence is against the law. Let the proper people handle it. If she won't pursue it take pictures of any visible marks or bruises. Then you can take the action if she won't. Don't let this go on another day. The next punch he gives her may be a fatal one.

Answer 10

Don't sink down to his level - one day he will meet his match. Your sister needs to learn that she does not deserve that abuse. She has to wake up and move on. If she has kids, it's a shame she is exposing them to a life of abuse. He's a little man with a little brain, he's just not worth you time. Support your sister but tell her life is better on the other side of the fence.