Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2006

My b rother-in-law wants separate from his wife of almost 3 yrs ,because he has being going out w/ some one else.. She is always home with 2 kids(1 only his kid 4rm another marriage) but still she has being a mother to him, always have food ready when he gets back from work, clean clothes, clean house, he is the one who handle the bills and the $$ because he is the one earning this money(like he said).. But he wants to be apart for few months so he can go out & so as her and then think about it & move back again ofcourse she doesn't want this it is not fair and I believe he is just an imature who doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't know what he is loosing a good wife, mother and specially his kids because my mother -in-law will keep the oldest and she will take their son.. I feel bad but why is this possible doesn't men like to be treated nice ???? And as a pay off they just cheat with a B**** who will be just for a moment of pleasure...:)

2006-11-14 09:41:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you reinvent yourself after breaking up?

what are things you can do to boast your confidence?

what helps you move on ?

2006-11-14 09:38:24 · 8 answers · asked by Karina 2

My husband and i were searching for a house . We both agreed on the floorplan that we liked . We had some disagreements about the options and argument went to the point that we stopped talking about it . At one point out of sheer anger, I said to my husband that he can go ahead and buy the house that he likes . To my unbelief he actually did it and went ahead and bought the house and also selected the plot without even asking my opinion once. He says that he cannot on any circumstance change his decision now .Also i learned later the house is on his name and my name is nowhere on the papers. I am really hurt and don't know how to react to this . Its hard for me to accept something thats forced upon me like this and live with this thought forever that i what i thought would our house is actually gonna be only his house and his choice .

2006-11-14 09:32:23 · 25 answers · asked by potpouri 2

Well, recently the guy of my dreams proposed to me, i'm not like women who say yes on the spot so here is what is holding me back: I love him the thought of him leaving me is like a blade through my heart, i can't emagine living without him, i except himfor who he is and i except his mistakes. But what's holding me back are the things i don't know and will never know, for example how do i know if he will die or not? will i be a widow? would i have to be a single mother if we ever decided to have kids? what if his heart changes? what if he changs? what if i change? what if he stops loving me? would our marriage be bassed on mercy only? Will he be there always and frovever? I don't care about how fency or dreamy the wedding might be, I care of what happens after that, should i take the risk and go for it??????????

2006-11-14 09:27:11 · 23 answers · asked by kitty 3

he doesn't abuse me but I'm not the skinniest or prettiest girl and I don't wanna be alone forever. I do love him and we have a baby, but I think I am only staying with him cuz I don't think I can get anyone else. We have many problems but they can be worked out easily. what should I do?

2006-11-14 09:25:44 · 24 answers · asked by jojo 2

i'm starting to feel like intimacy without emotional attachment would be better for someone who feels like s/he's being vulnerable by making love and being in love with that person at the same time.

do you ever feel the same

2006-11-14 09:21:12 · 9 answers · asked by Eden 1

2006-11-14 09:20:10 · 16 answers · asked by justlaf_kcd 1

What do YOU think are the 5 reasons of DIVORCE?

2006-11-14 09:19:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay. My boyfriend of two years and I, just moved in together. I love it. However, yes, there's a but.....he has an extra curricular activity that I don't partake in, nor do I approve of when abused (just to keep all the guessing at bay, he "smokes"). I always knew about it, and it bothered me to a degree (an he knows it)...but I didn't see it as often as I do now that we live together. My question has two parts I guess: Do I have the right to be bothered by this considering I knew about it? AND as his live-in partner, am I allowed to make the suggestion of him cutting back....at least while I'm around? It could be worse, I know. I guess I just don't like looking at him and knowing he's not on the same level as me. Even though it doesn't seriously affect him (like making him stupid or lazy such as the misconception)...but it just makes me feel like maybe his attention won't be at crisp, or he won't take things seriously, or THE biggest, he'll forget what I'm talking about.

2006-11-14 09:18:50 · 15 answers · asked by PrimaDonna 1

I'm happily married but my husband keeps telling me he'll go back to his country (pakistan) and he'll take the baby with him so his family can meet him. He says he'll come back but I know it's not true...once they go back there with the kids (specially if they're boys) they NEVER come back.
Is there any way i can stop it from happening?, i mean, is it possible for my husband to take the baby to the airport and just fly away with my kid without my consent?, what can I do?
Please help, i'm really scared, i work and i fear coming back someday and not seeing my baby home again...

2006-11-14 09:16:35 · 8 answers · asked by Sairax 2

I got custody of my 7 year old son in March 2006. My wife and I were given custody because my son's mother had been involved with drugs and had our son in the presence of numerous sex offenders. I lost my job and I found a job driving truck, but I will only be home every other weekend. I was wondering if anyone knows if this could effect my wife and I keeping custody of my son. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

2006-11-14 09:13:14 · 5 answers · asked by Don H 1

i love it when a woman is more of a dominant one in a love relationship. i'm not sure why i'm starting to feel this way, but I hate it if a man appears like he's in control. i find it utterly degrading.

anyone who feels the same?

2006-11-14 09:06:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

he was in prison when i left ARKANSAS. 1996 was the year i left. he was to get the divorce through the prison system. I do not know if I am devorced or not.

2006-11-14 09:02:35 · 2 answers · asked by BECKY P 1

Ok this is for a friend but not me.

She is attempting to file for divorce but the paperwork is to confusing and she also cannot find her now ex. She cant afford to pay for her legal services her self, and she has also attempted to go to the local self help center at our court house but they dont do much else then give her the paperwork and tell her to refill it out. What other resources does she have? She is located in LA county.

2006-11-14 09:01:04 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

The world is bound to change when Mom heads off to work with a laptop bag and Dad's donning the apron. What best practices do you recommend?

2006-11-14 08:54:53 · 9 answers · asked by L.A. Scene 3

I have been with my husband for over six years now and i have been through ups and downs for the past 6 months. I dont know whether to leave him or not we have a six yr old and she would be devastated if we divorced. I come from a failed marriage and I couldnt do this to my own, knowing the consequences. I am a loving wife, loving mother, and i dont know why my husband would cheat on me. I am completely beside myself on this one. Someone please give me some advise.

2006-11-14 08:54:33 · 22 answers · asked by btearnheart 2

My wife has some pretty good ones. I like hearing them; they are pretty funny because I know what the guy was thinking. It is even possible I may have botched a few come on lines in my younger years.

2006-11-14 08:52:05 · 5 answers · asked by Brian 5

My hubby is a spoiled brat, 4 years younger than me , and we have 2 sons a 2yr old and and 6 month old, I also have a 10 year old not my husbands. he is cheap , always has been. He recently changed our bank account so that i don't have access to it and went on vacation to his country and came home with a condom, he says his cousin told him to hold it. I am a stay at home mom and don't work. I have a credit card that i use for food and stuff and he pays for it. He bought me a brand new 2006 toyota, sienna, in march. and he always pays the mortgage, and all of the bills. In my heart I know he is insecure, for may reasons i can list here due to time and space, but it bothers me he has control issues. And FYI get and give great sex. I pretty much do believe him when he says he's never cheated, and his mother was the one who encouraged him to change the bank account , during a big fight we had while she was visiting. she hates me and my older son, and gives my husband the worst advice ever,

2006-11-14 08:51:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my husband and I got married it was happiness and joy all the time. We would do everything together and go out all the time. But ever since I lost my job I have been feeling enslaved. My husband wants me to cook when he gets home, clean up after the dog all the time, and have our apartment cleaned everyday before he goes to work. When I ask him to do something like make me a sandwhich he says I can do it myself. Everytime I ask him to help around the house, he says he doesn't have to because he's too tierd from work or because he pays all the bills and he feels he shouldn't help. Back in the day it was everything 50/50 now I feel like it's 10/90. Sometimes I feel taken advantage of because I do all the work. I also study and it makes it difficult for me to pay attention in class because I worry about what I have to do when I get home or what I have to have cooked that night. I noticed this change ever since I lost my job. Please give me some advice...

2006-11-14 08:48:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my husband for 2 years and we have a 10 month old girl. He's a great guy and a good dad, the only thing bad about his is 1) he has a very bad temper and hits things (walls, not me) and 2) he doesn't work. I know it's a big deal, I was working when I was 5-7 months pregant and he wasn't! I think the prob is that his dad was a dead beat and left him and his mom when my hubby was 3 years old and my husbands dad lives 30 min away his whole live and never tired to see my husband. I love my husband very much and don't wanna leave him, I just need him to get a job! My dad offered him a job of doing wherehouse and making $100 a day but my husband who is white said " I'm not a spick" BTW, me and his daughter are hicpanic. I don't wanna leave but I don't think I have another choice. My hubby wants to be a pro wrestler, but who knows how long that would take and if he would even make it.

2006-11-14 08:35:16 · 25 answers · asked by jojo 2

We separated and I gave her purse collection to strippers one night. It was quite the party!!! Designer purses were flying all over the place and the lap dances were unreal. We have since reconciled and is very upset her purses are gone. What should I tell her happened to them?

2006-11-14 08:32:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

First of all, I have a small package (yikes) and I never get naked. But recently at a friends house a group of folks wanted to strip and jump in the hottub. For once in my life, i was spontaneous and joined in.

There were 5 women 3 guys and as soon as we were all naked the girls started playfully joking about my small penis.

It was mortifying!!! I laughed it off and they really meant no harm, but now I am super embarrassed about it. Since then they have teased me a little bit and even when they are not, in my mind I obsess about it.

What should I do to get over this embarrassment?

2006-11-14 08:31:24 · 16 answers · asked by bob_xc452 1

hi,its me agian I thank alot of you for your wise answers.yeah I 'm the guy whos 14 yr marriage is on the brink of distruction do to her infidelaty with other guy a 25yr old at that!we are in our early 30's.some of you asked if I gave affection I always did ,hugs soft kiss on the cheecks neck and mouth,that is affection isn't it?plus the words I love you and am in love with you never stopped coming out of my mouth.she is a depressed person and also very insecure about herself .I always told her she was beautiful in my eyes no matter what and the I'm commited to her.she did tell me at times that she felt lonely whether I was home or not.I tryed to comfort her and get her to explain these feelings to me but she would just shut down on me.I never went out with out her only to work and back.where did I fail!like I said she was always drinking and on the net.she is coming back home withour 2 kids but only wants to be friends until she figures how to live with that guy.what do I do?

2006-11-14 08:29:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Also, how long have you been married?

2006-11-14 08:28:44 · 12 answers · asked by cirdellin 4

"mark" when my husband is not around.i have never done anything to mark and he loves spending time with me.the ex is very bitter that i married "her man" and took her place in the family unit.not that i ever pretend to be marks mom he has one mom and i understand that.she told my husband if he can't watch mark then he is to call her and she will watch him not me.my husband told me she never gave a reason why this is he may know but just portecting my feelings.my husband goes along with this to keep peace and will not talk to her about as it will make problems. hes not my son and i know there is nothing i can do it just makes me sad that his mom will use her own son to try and control her ex husband

2006-11-14 08:26:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother is thinking of asking our grandmother to marry him. He says that he loves her so much and wants the last days of her life to spent with pure joy and pleasure. He is thinking of having the wedding down at the social security office so that all of her friends can attend. I am not sure if he should ask her becuase as a child she used to beat him with her personal collection of whips and chains and still holds some hard feelings towards him. What should I tell him to do?? Advice please!

2006-11-14 08:25:32 · 12 answers · asked by flushing06 2

She has a good facial features but doesnt really have the best body (but not fat), or the type of wife that has the figure but looks so-so. What do you like physically about your wife also???

2006-11-14 08:24:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i've been feeling my husband different lately,i dont know how to explain it. i guess more cold,quiet, he's like in another world. i ask him if everything is ok.and he says he is fine. but i know that he is hidding something from me,the way he is tells me theres something not right.another thing what should i do about him coming late home on saturdays specialy.I'm gettin tired of every weekend being the same. i feel my family is falling apart. when i talk to him he says that he is going to change but then the following weekend happens the same thing again.
i need advice, my daughter is 6 and i feel her dad doesnt give her quality time.

2006-11-14 08:22:28 · 10 answers · asked by melissa p 1

I want to send flowers to a good friend who is in love but has to let go of her significant other due to them cheating, lying, and doing drugs. Simply being a loser. She is really having a hard time letting go because she is so much in love. Any advice?

2006-11-14 08:20:55 · 8 answers · asked by shadow 3

This event is really weighing on my mind. I am 25 and married to my wife for about 2 years. Back in late September, a bunch of buddies (both single and married) when away for a guys camping weekend. The second night we were there, we were drinking and smoking some pot. It's been a long while since I smoked pot and it hit me like a ton of bricks. All I remember until I woke up in the morning was a weird memory of me being held down and sorta raped/ taken advantage of by a bunch of guys. I don't know if this was some sorta f*cked up dream due to the pot or did this in fact happen. That next morning no one made any mention of it. I'm realyl weird about this and I don't know what to do. Any thoughts?

2006-11-14 08:20:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous