he doesn't abuse me but I'm not the skinniest or prettiest girl and I don't wanna be alone forever. I do love him and we have a baby, but I think I am only staying with him cuz I don't think I can get anyone else. We have many problems but they can be worked out easily. what should I do?
2006-11-14 09:25:44 · 24 answers · asked by jojo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do wanna work on them but my hubby doesn't wanna talk to someone, he says he's right and that talking to someone won't help. When I try to talk to him calmly he gets pissed off and starts a fight that ends up him driving off for a couple of hours. I do wanna work it out, but to him there is no prolbem!
2006-11-14 09:36:46 · update #1
Lol I'm not huge, I have a 10 month old baby and just got off steriods after being on them for 5 months. I started to lose the baby weight but got diagnoised with lupus and had to go on steriods.
2006-11-14 09:41:11 · update #2
You need to go to marriage counseling so that you can come to conclusions with what you really need and what is right for you. At this point, you may be doubting a lot of things. However, with some communication and counseling, you might become happy with your entire relationship.
2006-11-14 09:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said a lot, I think you should work on the problems. Sounds like you two just need to get away from everyday life & start to enjoy eachother again. Be open and honest about your feelings, you say they can be easily worked out. Even if it's justing sitting up all night taking with eachother, do let your marriage end on something that could of been fix just by communicating with one another.
2006-11-14 17:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have some self-esteem issues. If those are inflicted by him, you should definitely go.
I would seek counseling on your own first, to deal with your issues, find out where they are coming from. It is not a bad idea for him to go with you so that he knows how you feel and what you are going through. Maybe he would be more supportive of you that way.
It is not fair to your husband or child if you are just staying there because nothing better has come along. That is not what marriage is about. You owe it to your family to do the best you can do. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-11-14 17:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you claim your problems can be worked out so easily, why are you giving up? Marriage is a LIFE LONG COMMITTMENT and your asking us for advice about it. I bet your beautiful in your own way just like I am and you have a child together, that alone should be worth the effort of trying to make this marriage work. If you go to therapy together and still feel you can't work things out then you separate. You just sound like you are giving up way to easily. The way you talk about yourself makes me think you need to find some things to make you happy so you can be happy in your relationship. Try to spruce yourself up, get a new hair style, try and loose some weight you might feel awesome and it might in turn make your marriage better. Good luck and God Bless!!
2006-11-14 17:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on your problems. You signed up for better or for worse. If you have body image issues, work that body out! If you think you can do better, don't let the door hit you in the tuckas on the way out the door. Sounds like your man might be deserving better than a wife thinking of leaving him over a few problems that are easily fixed and a couple of extra pounds are all thats holding her back. Ya know what I am saying?
2006-11-14 17:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can definitely do something about your weight, being overweight is an unhealthy choice, not design. Push away from the table, exercise, and believe it or not, it will help your self esteem. Then, if you still want to haul ***, you wont have to make two trips. Your husband, probably isnt attracted you you because of the weight, can you blame him? I mean no one is perfect, but your weight is something you can control. If you cant then get help. Don't hate anyone because of your addiction, including yourself. Just realize it isnt natural and it is unhealthy, and not sexy to be huge. Sorry for being blunt, but I believe in telling it how it is, without offering shade.
2006-11-14 17:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your problems can be worked out easily then they should be if for no other reason but for the sake of you child....but if you are truely not happy...mabye the changes needed are with you....you have to love yourself before anyone else can....if that means the you have to divorce your husband then so be it, no one is the most beautiful or skinnest there is always someone that is more, true beauty comes from within just as true happiness comes from within.....if you truely love him work it out, but reguarldess of what you end up doing most importantly....learn to love yourself!
2006-11-14 17:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by justlaf_kcd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to work on your self esteem and security within yourself....then decide. If he is such a nice person, and you love him, why do you want to break up your family. That is the problem today with marriage, everyone wants it, but no one wants to work at it. Think about it before you rush into anything.....
2006-11-14 17:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by bam.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, start on working them out then. In your previous post, you made him out to be a lazy no-good bum. Staying with someone just because you don't think you can "get" anyone else is not a good thing.
2006-11-14 17:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that your problems can be worked out easily, start working on them. Take a look at marriagebuilders.com. Find a marriage counselor, priest, minister, rabbi or whatever. Then sit down and start talking.
2006-11-14 17:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋