i've been feeling my husband different lately,i dont know how to explain it. i guess more cold,quiet, he's like in another world. i ask him if everything is ok.and he says he is fine. but i know that he is hidding something from me,the way he is tells me theres something not right.another thing what should i do about him coming late home on saturdays specialy.I'm gettin tired of every weekend being the same. i feel my family is falling apart. when i talk to him he says that he is going to change but then the following weekend happens the same thing again.
i need advice, my daughter is 6 and i feel her dad doesnt give her quality time.
2006-11-14 08:22:28 · 10 answers · asked by melissa p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk. ASk him if he is happy with you or tired of you. don't want to scare you but from experience, sounds like he is cheating on you. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-14 08:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by leah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that part of being married is sharing a problem so that the both of you can work it out. If he still doesn't talk, then remind him once in a while that you are open ears anytime for when he's ready to talk. Late Saturdays...Maybe just drinking at the bar. Late Thursdays (commonly, "lady's night" at bars)...Maybe looking to cheat.
Try not to assume anything, make sure you get the facts.
Some ages would be a little more help.
2006-11-14 08:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without more details, it is difficult to do anything but guess. My guess are 1) an affair, 2) drugs or alcohol, or 3) depression.
Check out the cell phone bill and see who he is talking to. If you have to follow him on a Saturday, do so. You won't be able to fix this until you find out what is really going on. Don't feel bad about spying. You're doing this for the right reason.
Good luck!
2006-11-14 08:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Sounds exactly like my situation this time last year! But there were two kids involved...depression is my guess...so he has fallen into a void, and has found something else to fill the void...don't accuse him of anything...turn it around and say how you have been feeling unhappy, that you are concerned about him, that your daughter needs him, etc. Find a good time to just talk in private, maybe after your daughter is in bed. Good luck.
2006-11-14 09:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something happened at work? Give him some space and hopefully he will come around. Don't use your daughter as an excuse to make him open up. That might throw him into a deeper funk.
2006-11-14 08:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by busymomof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through the same thing, in my case he was a cheating dog and our daughter is only 2. He never spent anytime with her or me and always said that everything was okay. Yeah it was when he was with the other woman.
I would confront him and tell him that your tired of the s**t.
2006-11-14 08:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by sherbear1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a lame answer, but try counseling?
tell him point blank he needs to give his daughter more time?
plan a fun night out on a Saturday so that he can't stay out without you?
2006-11-14 08:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to hire a private investigator or something and find out what he is doing behind your back. He may be cheating. You can't talk to someone that want talk back, but you put proof out there and they have to talk about it.
2006-11-14 08:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what he's doing on Saturdays. Then take it from there.
2006-11-14 08:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you suspect that he is cheating on you? Are there financial problems that you may not be aware of?
2006-11-14 08:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Onecolegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋