Marriage & Divorce - 13 November 2006

If I tell my hubby's bro I was in love with him but am not anymore...

2006-11-13 23:59:49 · 14 answers · asked by Direktor 5

My boyfriend and l have fallen out after a drunken nightout,l don't think either of us can remember what happened but when we came home we had an arguement which resulted in him packing some things and went running home to his parents house,this has happened before but we always sort things out and he comes home to me.The thing is we have lived together for nearly 6 years and l have 2 children(12 year old twins) that are not his that miss him,he is the type of person that just needs to be left alone for a couple of weeks before he feels that he can talk to me but l can't handle the wait,l believe leaving things too long makes it harder,l'm in bits and am missing him so much!!! What should l do???

2006-11-13 23:57:57 · 27 answers · asked by Jacqui 2

2006-11-13 23:43:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a perscription of clonipin that he will not even let me take as perscribed because it is too strong for him. but i take them and it just makes me keep my cool.i dont scream and yell or get upset but at the same time im not a zombie.i get more things accomplished. my husband is completely against it but can ALWAYS!!!!! can haveaBAG OF WEED!!!! and thats ok. I LOVEhim even though he is abusive mentally and phisically.I have two young girls and just bought it. this will be the second house we bought.hopefullythis time i wont leave because of the abuse. it is never done in front of the kids always upstairs or in the utility room.I do not want to break up the family but im at my witts end if i were to do everything to his specifications would it be enough? i think it would be, but his list of demands is exhasting. and i dont know if i can do it

2006-11-13 23:28:34 · 19 answers · asked by whiffany 2

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and lived together for 2. He cheated on me after our first year with another girl. (I cheated on him too the first MONTH we were together so I guess he was cheating on me for revenge or something). Anyway, he took me back, so it seemed right to take him back too. We started fresh and made it work. Im glad because I was really happy and everything was great. Then we got into a bad fight the other day and he went to her house (she lives down the street). Nothing happened according to everyone there (I trust them), he just came over to hang out. (I doubt he's done this before, we have a tight group of friends and I would've found out.) He admited he was wrong and apologized...
BUT now everytime we fight I will think he's going there, or when I go to school I will think he's over there, and I keep wondering why after 4 years he went there - its so random...
What's your advice?
Please dont just say "dump him", I'd love some real answers!

2006-11-13 23:25:59 · 18 answers · asked by plenymo 2

We lost contact and only met each other this year after a period 13 years. Now we both can't stay each day without talking to each other. The passion is very strong. Do I allow this communication continue as it may lead to a relationship or do I just back out? Backing out will be tough on me.

2006-11-13 23:23:12 · 11 answers · asked by Foxxie 1

is it possible to still be in love with someone even after a long time not being together (divorced for a while,years)if so why can't you let go of it ????

2006-11-13 23:11:42 · 9 answers · asked by sptech1994 2

5 years ago my marriage of 14 years ended and I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and left with 3 kids. Around the time of my divorce I started to sleep with my driving instructor who later told me that he was living with his girlfriend.

2 years after this I started work and was approached by a 24 year old to have a friends with benefits relationship i'm 35. This was after being friends with him for about 3 months, he knew about my other man but we still had sex. A year on I experienced a manic episode after stopping my meds for a few weeks, I slept with another man I had met in a nightclub a couple of times and told the 24 year old about this but not the driving instructor as I didn't want to lose him. The 24 year old went off the handle and got really upset especially when I said I had unprotected sex, not sure if he is jealous or is concerned about my behaviour.

He is threatening to inform driving instructor and its his fault i am in mess. What should i do?

2006-11-13 23:04:50 · 10 answers · asked by bob n 1

My wife and I have been married for almost 6 years now . Before we were married , we had a great sex life . Now that we're married , I'm afraid to say , IT SUCKS !!! . I constantly have to persue the issue with her and when she does decide to have sex it's kind of " Just hurry up and get it over with " type of stuff . It's not like I'm not trying . I've tried buying flowers , sensual massages etc but this does not improve matters much if at all . It's also not like I want sex every day or something . When I confront her about this , she just tells me that she doesn't feel comfortable with herself or she's tired or not in the mood etc . What the hell does that mean ?? Why did she not have these issues before we got married ?? We had sex twice on our 3 week honeymoon . How pathetic is that ?? She says I must take her away for a weekend . Must I now do this everytime I want to make love to my wife ?? HELP ME PLEASE !!!!

2006-11-13 23:01:04 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2

2006-11-13 22:49:02 · 14 answers · asked by mmarria 1

We all understand the importance of foreplay, however after a certain while the same method becomes monotonous with the same partner.

I am looking for newer ideas - Any suggestions ?

2006-11-13 22:46:29 · 7 answers · asked by HRN 1

........don't act or think like an equal to men?
Understand that I know this doesn't apply to all women; so, if this doesn't apply to you, and you feel so strongly towards me for pointing this out, I ask you why do you want to defend this behavior or deny its existence? It's not helping anyone to do so.

So many ladies want (demand) equality but they:
-Want to be taken care of, financially and in many other ways
-Want to waste 5 - 10 years with bad boys (maybe have a kid or two), then treat nicer men like crap
-Are unwilling to work on their passive-aggressive, deficient communcation methods with their man in the home

Trust me, these are the main 3.

2006-11-13 22:41:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for over 4 years now. We dated for a year and the sex was INSANE! We did it a couple times a day EVERYDAY! When I became pregnant with my daughter my sex level plummeted! I found myself feeling repulsed by my husband and came up with every excuse why I "couldnt" or "didnt want to" have sex with him. After my daughter was born, my sex level stayed the same. A year and a half went by and after my son was born I thought maybe I was getting some of that arousal back, but things STILL have not changed! Is it normal that I HATE sex now? Why do I like masterbating so much but hate the fact of having to have sex? What are some things I can do to make myself WANT to have sex with my husband? And, why is it that the thought of him even touching me grosses me out? It was never like that until I became pregnant with my daughter, and now she is 3 and things still havent changed! Im frustrated! Any advice?

2006-11-13 22:39:34 · 27 answers · asked by Heather K 1

he hits me swears at me drinks alkahol too much and i cant be without him am i crazy

2006-11-13 22:33:08 · 15 answers · asked by goodheart girl 1

Conversely, would women want two or more husbands? How would you deal with this kind of homelife?

2006-11-13 22:31:36 · 6 answers · asked by redcoat7121 4

and then have not one but several children and stay at home. It is a very conservative town and this is honestly what people, especially young women around here, think. There is a big rush to get married by age twenty and girls start their families in their teens. Now I am fine with it if it's what you want, but isn't that kind of standard and pressure on the average person causing some people to jump the gun at a young age before they're ready? Is someone really a loser for not getting married if it's the wrong time? I have noticed there are a lot of people on their third marriage and there are these young girls who complain that after they tried to force a guy to be a father by going off the pill and getting pregnant, he left them and the child.

2006-11-13 22:30:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-13 22:29:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Because she wasn't ready and she firmly believed that she would have left them men if she had walked down the aisle with them. It isn't that she doesn't want to get married but they were not right for a number of various reasons. Anyway, she gets a lot of questions from people, especially women, who criticize her for not snagging a guy 'when she got a free one and got the chance'. How do you deal with these people? Isn't this personal? I mean, why would people tell you you're lucky to have anyone to marry at all? Should anyone be that desperate about marriage?

2006-11-13 22:26:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's the thing it was a drunken booze filled night and she happened to shag one of our mates while he was passed out.Now the odd thing is it wasn't the first time this has happened.But it was the same guy. Figures the guy she is shagging is an old flame thats not willing to be put out as he tells us.Anyway my buddy is ignorant of this matter.What should i do? My conscience is unable to rest when i'm with all of them?

2006-11-13 22:23:00 · 11 answers · asked by Cube 2

Have 2 children ages 5 and 2 since birth of 2 year old my sex drive has gone completely I cannot stand the thought of sex and am becoming very cold and distant to my partner any ideas?

2006-11-13 22:16:16 · 23 answers · asked by currynut 2

2006-11-13 22:02:56 · 13 answers · asked by HUMA 1

2006-11-13 21:59:25 · 10 answers · asked by Mark 2

2006-11-13 21:57:47 · 12 answers · asked by loves2wkout 1

Who can come up with the most creative/exciting/romantic ideas for a marriage proposal?

2006-11-13 21:48:38 · 9 answers · asked by Motti _Shish 6

I am from north india and believe that noth indians will be able to suggest me better answers as they understand the in-laws thing here. I am a baniya and married in a baniya family. settled in US with husband. got married this year and just came back to visit both parents as they both put up in same city. My mother-in-law wants me to give all my gold that i got in marriage to her. She otherwise has all the things i got in my marriage. But i don't want to give my gold to her. Parents-in-laws from a village and very conservative. They call names for my family. but my hubby is very nice. looking at him i can't answer them back but i don't want to kill my self respect either...will u be able to suggest a solution to this situation? how do i make my in-laws respect my parents too nad not push me for things and ask my gold back?

2006-11-13 21:36:07 · 5 answers · asked by priya 1

Hi, we've been married since past 1.5 years. It was an arranged marriage, for which i gave up on a long relationship. All things kept aside, i married her for the sake of keeping my parent's wish and to see them happy. Anyways, Soon we had a kid too.

All was fine until now, however soon after we had the kid. I find some behavorial changes in my wife. She now get angry frequently and has developed a tendency of interpreting conversations wrongly. She always thinks that my family is conspiring against her or is saying things to hurt her. Which is not true, as i've myself noticed her misinterpreting things. This is spoiling relations in the house, as well as between us.

Is this some hormonal change that she is going through after pregnency, which will subdue with time or its something else? I wonder what should i do???

your advice/help would be much appreciated...

2006-11-13 21:34:50 · 15 answers · asked by RN 1

2006-11-13 21:33:20 · 8 answers · asked by meshack m 1

My dh and i have been seperated for over a month (our third time), we have two young children.

My experience is that he is just like a teenager; and just like a teenager you can't ask him to plan for the future, he can't forsee the consequences of hisr actions, he is impulsive undisciplined and selfish, he is unpredictble and at times untrustworthy and unreliable, he wants to spend all his time with friends yet have the safety of his family to come home too. And he just does not do well with responsibility at all. He just doesn't get my above concerns

Now given all that i know i have made the right desicion to seperate, but has anyone else had to make a desicion like this even though they still loved the person. Like you knew that if you where to be truly honest with your self you accepted that your husband was not marriage material and could never provide emotionaly, physically or spiritualy for his family yet it hurt because it was like loosing a best friend?
Make sence?

2006-11-13 21:30:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do you all believe such bull crap???
I live in Utah, I'm Mormon, I know all the rules, regulations, laws, commandments, living standards, principles, guidelines, etc., etc., that this church has and being married to more than one person IS WRONG, DISGUSTING, AGAINST THE LAW AND NOT PROHIBITED. Especially in my church!

You guys have A LOT of searching to do!
come to Utah and see for yourself, idiots.

2006-11-13 21:27:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

The Reason I Ask This......Is Because I Love Two People And We Were Wondering If We(All 3) Could Get Married Together........

2006-11-13 21:09:24 · 20 answers · asked by krystal_loves_you88 3