Marriage & Divorce - 13 November 2006

Give me 5 reasons why co-habitation (Living with the opposite sex) before marriage is bad? Best answer gets 10 points!! thanx n advance!

2006-11-13 17:49:49 · 18 answers · asked by babyphatangel20 2

2006-11-13 17:47:59 · 8 answers · asked by bobby.k 1

One marriage proposal came to me, he saw me & said ok,
one day his parents came to see me, they also said ok while going they asked my dte o b my unty told 1 yr less, they got angry, they went off, till now no reply, but he is nice guy, how to convert his parents mind, shall i met him or not, what should i do........
(my frds r telling i should not met him, if he likes me let him convince his parents, )pls help me.

2006-11-13 17:47:52 · 14 answers · asked by ani123 1

I am a 27 yo. male from india; and i care for my parents more then anybody else. The issues in my life started a year and a half ago, when i left my 5 year long relation with my ex-girlfriend to marry a complete stranger whome my parents had choosen for me. I did that just to make my parents happy and to make their wish a reality, i did that to keep my family under one roof. However, now after 1.5 years my wife is not feeling comfortable staying with my parents and in the meanwhile we've now got a kid too.

I now find that the sole purpose of marrying my present wife is no more valid. the lady whome i married for my parents, herself is not willing to keep the house together. I wonder, if i should still continue with this marriage or should i rollback my mistake in life and leave her to marry my love of life (my ex-girlfriend)?

Your advice/help would be much appreciated...

2006-11-13 17:45:20 · 6 answers · asked by RN 1

2006-11-13 17:43:03 · 17 answers · asked by sad_but_pretty 2

Last night I had a conversation with my husband, where I asked him if he can be honest with his family and tell them that he married me. If he can imagine having a real family with me, with children and all. He replied that he has been thinking about it and he knows me, and thinks that I am nice, and so why shouldn't he? But not now, and also that I need a whack sometimes to put me in shape. I lost my breath. I asked him what a whack is. "Whatever it takes, it depends on the situation." he said. He says that sometimes I sound irrational or too emotional. "Is a whack to scream at me or literally whack me?" I asked. "It is whatever the circumstances needs" he replied. I need some good, serious, sound advice here. Bear in mind that he has been a husband and a stepfather for three years now.

2006-11-13 17:41:14 · 14 answers · asked by ms_moonlight1977 2

2006-11-13 17:31:46 · 7 answers · asked by Y 2

He loves me very much too. Should we get married, will our marriage last?

2006-11-13 17:29:39 · 9 answers · asked by S&D 2

I have a wonderful husband, he doesn't have any problem with me neither do I have any with him. Being brought up in a partially disfunctional family, I'm pretty resistant and argumentative and sometimes feel very disturbed emotionally. I'm very direct and yes, sometimes rude. I'm very reactive and react suddenly. I just find out a reason to argue with my husband and try hurting him for any minor mistake, and after that I usually say I'm not gonna stay with you any longer because you are not suitable for me etc". Then the next day I feel guilty of hurting him (even if he's hurt me in return) and I apologize and we start a normal life again.
My concern is, will he take me seriously, if I continue doing this? How can I maintain a more balanced behavior?
This is happening quiet often, we're fighting for no reason, which is affecting our marriage. We have no kids. But I love him and fight with him bothers me more than anything in the world.
How can I have more control over my behavior?

2006-11-13 17:25:14 · 16 answers · asked by Just4YA 2

We married for couple months and we never have sex, yes. We married in America, we come from Romania. We sit and talk lots, playing board game, watch tv only sometime. New and old friends say to us "How is married sex?" and I say "No, no sex. We not have the sex." and they say why. Why should we? I cannot have kids. My womb cannot have them. Why we need to have it then? We see no reason. Husband is content with just being with me, he no like to leave me, rarely he and I ever apart, so he does not do cheats. Why people so mad and think we are upsetting? We did nothing wrong. We both never did the sex. You think we should have it? Why and why not we should?

2006-11-13 17:19:53 · 26 answers · asked by Wetawd!!NRR! 2

My boyfriend and I know many couples that say that they lost their sex lives after they got married. Is this true? If so, why wouldn't they want to have sex with each other anymore? Our understanding is that it's mostly the woman's decision to stop having sex... so ladies, why?

2006-11-13 17:14:19 · 27 answers · asked by Stephanie S 6

His excuse was that there was not a condom for him to use, although this has never been an issue in the past.

2006-11-13 17:07:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is a moocher. He makes me dinner and washes the dishes, but that is about as far as it goes. I have two jobs and am working my butt off but he doesn't even have one. All he does is play on the computer and look at stuff on ebay. He is always asking me to get him things. He makes me so mad. He complains about everything. He even complains that he is tired of taking me to and from work "he won't let me use his car" and he calls himself my "cabservice". I am carrying all of the weight on my shoulders. I could go on and on about this. It is almost like I am supporting and taking care of him and he is my child. I am sick of it!

2006-11-13 16:54:04 · 23 answers · asked by Emmie S 1

Ok, so my bf and I have been dating for 4yrs and I have known for 2 of those years that he he wants to wait to get married until he is around 28yrs old, which would put us at 10yrs of dating. I finally asked him why he wanted to wait so long, and he said he wants to save up as much as possible, eventually move out (within the next 3yrs), and save until he can afford or at least put an incredible amount down on a townhouse. Now that seems logical to me, and I love him to death and support him all the way. My question is, why does he want to wait so long to marry me? If your b/f told you the same thing, would you wait for them?

2006-11-13 16:51:20 · 22 answers · asked by ridingis4life 3

I'm married to Korean.We have 1 child but she has microcephaly & cerebral palsy.She is so pretty,sweet & friendly child.Some people said;she looks an angel,she looks so gorgeous and friendly.But my in-laws,they're not proud of her.When we went to the hospital,some patients asked her if she is her grandaughter.She replied "anyo"it means No.I pretend that i didn't heard her answer,i smile but deep inside my heart i felt too pain.Second time,when my in laws visit us here in overseas.She asked me to go shopping with her and my husband.My husband said bring our daughter but my in law said:No,just leave her to our friend.Her face seems not happy if we bring my daughter..I tried to understand my in laws because i know where they came from,they grew up in a country where too much pressure of the society..They are worried if their friends knows that they have disabled grandaughter..Why they worried?if they are true friends they should accept,support and help?Why they feel embarrased..It hurts

2006-11-13 16:50:31 · 8 answers · asked by Belle 2

My husband works for three to four weeks at a time on offshore oil rigs. We have been together for two and a half years, but he has only had this job for six months. We have been married less than a month, and I really miss him alot. We have a 3yr old daughter and she misses having him around when he is gone. He stays onshore for about two to three weeks, so the time we have is precious.
Has anyone had any experience with this? I am not worried about our relationship right now, but I don't want us to grow apart or lose what we are to each other over time. How do I keep the love alive and keep from missing him so badly?

2006-11-13 16:46:49 · 7 answers · asked by toothfairy 3

Did it affect your sex life because
a) she was not proud of her body
b) you were turned off by her body
c) both

2006-11-13 16:42:24 · 16 answers · asked by Stephanie S 6

ok my husband and I are divorcing. We have a 4 year old daughter. The father moved to GA and I live in VA. The father gets her everyother weekend from Friday till Sunday everyother Thanksgiving for 4 days every Christmas day till January 1st then a week in June and a week in July. I only agreed to one week for Christmas everyother year but he gets her every year. I told my lawyer I would let him make up his lost week in a different month but she didn't change it. How can I change this and if I do change it do you think the judge will look at me bad? My daughter hates going now and dreads everyother weekend with him....His parents come and get our daughter and over half the time he does not spend with her. Help me please!!!!

2006-11-13 16:41:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked my boyfriend who was at his house last night and he said none of my business. Then we were watching tv and a woman knocked on his door a 11 pm at night and he opened the door and told her he was busy. So she just left. Is he cheating on me. If I asked him do you think he would tell me? P.S he has not called me all day either.

2006-11-13 16:39:27 · 23 answers · asked by Miss Tasia 1

My mother in law came over my house being sarcastic and disrespectful. I told him about the incident when he got home from work, he agreed she was totally out of line. Now he's saying it dont bother him.

2006-11-13 16:36:05 · 6 answers · asked by Got Curves? 6

i was just divoriced in aug of this year i move to a new state and meet someone before they were final. now i am missing my X thinking about the things he said it wasall my idea to leave him and all i think abot now is him and what we would be doing togeter we were married 4 years and dated 3 so that is a long time to be with someone that person really knows you and you are comfortable and you have a past with them we had are problems most of them my fault but all i can think about is when we used to sleep late on saterdays and just lye in bed talking or when we would watch tv and get drunk watching movies and the way he held me at night that safe warm feeling i had been friends with that man since i was 11 and he is gone and i feel like i am jumping to the next stable rock to keep myself above water so that i dont sikn in to my own thought of why did i leave and is this a growing expeience or my selfishness to try new things does that mean i lost the love of life

2006-11-13 16:29:54 · 8 answers · asked by bett joe 1

2006-11-13 16:20:17 · 17 answers · asked by PWQ 1

2006-11-13 16:18:28 · 20 answers · asked by Ms. Inquisitive 2

hello everyone.i need some good advice from you all.
me and my husband has been married 2yrs and things were a little rocky at first but things have gotten better so far.i was a high school drop out,but i managed to get back in school and now next year i'm going to school to be a veterinarian assistant.but in between all that my husband wants me to stay at home while i'm in school and start working on having babies.i don't wanna mess things up for me that i have going good.i don't know how i would be able to go to school and deal with being pregnant and taking care of the baby by myself while he works 12 or 14 hours a day.he says i'm being mean because i don't wanna give him what he wants.i've been threw alot growing up and now i wanna make things better for me and my husband,but am i being mean by saying that we should wait till i finish school? i think it would be a great ideal if we wait even though we are finacially fit to have one.what do you think would be best?

2006-11-13 16:17:38 · 23 answers · asked by Meow4Moe 5

2006-11-13 16:10:07 · 2 answers · asked by mks2221 1

I talk to my husband about Arizona everyday, how much Id like to move back there. I moved out of AZ 4 years ago for a private reason. I miss AZ so much. Now I wanna go back. But husband doesnt say much about it. I guess Im alone in going back huh?

2006-11-13 16:09:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

We just got back from the wedding and my wife came out of the hotel bathroom all naked. I dont know what she wants? I have never been with a female before and I dont understand why she took her cloth off? Does she want me to wash them? Is she just showing me what she bought from the store?

I just want to drink some beer and go to sleep and I have no time to figure out why my new wife took her cloth off. Has this ever happened to anyone before?

2006-11-13 16:07:46 · 17 answers · asked by ast5792 1

its been 15mo since my ex and i broke up we were married 28yrs. my whole world has changed. he seems to be doing so much better than me. why , cant i leave it at that? he does not date and said he misses someone to hold at night and the sound of me cleaning. he claims he dont love me however, from time to time he will help me. he does not call me, i call him.my heart hurts. any suggestions? he knows i will always love him. how do i get past this?

2006-11-13 16:00:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you have been through couples counseling, what was your take on it? What exercises did you have to do between sessions? I am doing it now and have only been to one session. I just don't know exactly how much to share with my counseler and what I am supposed to do on my own, with my spouse? What types of questions did your counseler ask?

2006-11-13 15:51:19 · 4 answers · asked by bcooper1975 3

2006-11-13 15:49:43 · 14 answers · asked by g007thomas 1