We married for couple months and we never have sex, yes. We married in America, we come from Romania. We sit and talk lots, playing board game, watch tv only sometime. New and old friends say to us "How is married sex?" and I say "No, no sex. We not have the sex." and they say why. Why should we? I cannot have kids. My womb cannot have them. Why we need to have it then? We see no reason. Husband is content with just being with me, he no like to leave me, rarely he and I ever apart, so he does not do cheats. Why people so mad and think we are upsetting? We did nothing wrong. We both never did the sex. You think we should have it? Why and why not we should?
2006-11-13 17:19:53 · 26 answers · asked by Wetawd!!NRR! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
2006-11-13 18:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by babyphatangel20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very lucky person to have a husband like that and your husband is very lucky to have met you. You are truly blessed in the eyes of God. Don't confuse sticky beaks with friends. A true friend is somebody who is there to help you when you need him. You don't have to give answers to anybody. Many people would be envious. They are a cancer to your marriage.
I respect you and your husband.
But please tell people who ask that you are OK with your marriage. Don't tell them anything else.They are wolves in sheep's clothing. The keyword here is 'content'. Never strive to be happy. It is next to impossible. You may be happy for a few hours if something good happens. But inevitably it is followed by something which is not so good and the two cancel each other. You and your husband are blessed.
2006-11-13 17:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think sex is only for reproduction, then you're quite wrong. Most of the time its not about having kids at all. A married ycouple may have intercourse not only to experience sexual pleasure (recreational), but also as a means of emotional intimacy (relational), thus making the marriage more stable. This same couple may emphasize different aspects of intercourse on different occasions, being playful during one episode of intercourse (recreational), experiencing deep emotional connection on another occasion (relational). The urge of adult humans to have sexual intercourse is seen as being part of the biological need for social bonds. So its not about having kids, its about sharing something incredibly personal and stimulating and intensely satisfying with the one that you are spending the rest of your life with. Its called "lovemaking" for this reason.
2006-11-13 17:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, who cares what your friends think?
if you and your hubby are content being with each other and not having sex, then so be it.
what a big problem in most marriages that you will never have an argument about, complain about or worry about.
Thedownside is that there is a bond after two people make love that you can feel no other way.
Your choice, it's your life, do it your way
2006-11-13 17:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by jawtar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a healthy aspect to your marriage. Just because u cant have children doesnt mean you cant enjoy the pleasure. Im sorry that you cannot have children, ever thought of adopting? And if you two are truly happy not having sex then dont, who cares what others say.
2006-11-13 17:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by minz_8104 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was newly married, I sure would not be content just sitting around by my wife. Sex is a good thing, it bonds a couple and is pleasurable. Fertility issues don't mean that you don't have sex.
2006-11-13 17:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
although it is 99% true that sex forms an integral part of marriage, which incidentally legalize intercourse between a man and a woman, yours happen to be the 1% when neither of you want sex. although it may be strange my answer is that it is your choice and no one should question you. however, I am a bit worried that your husband may one day choose to have sex with another woman if he wants to release his desire but you are in no mood to satisfy him. that will certainly hurt your relationship and trust. i think having no sex at all is strange. i would suggest you do have it occasionally because it is after all very nice and enjoyable. try it.
2006-11-13 17:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by jazzylips 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of a kick are you getting out of asking this? I want you to tell because I think some people can benefit in changing from sex to the kick you get out of asking. You know it's really non of our business, none of us care about your sex life, and some of us may be living the same way you are what makes you think you live in a world of your own? Then again, maybe, you do!
2006-11-13 17:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only reason is to express the love and passion you have for each other. Sex is not just for making babies. It is very pleasurable and fun. Try it. You may enjoy it!
And don't worry about other people not understanding.
2006-11-13 17:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can stay happy in your relationship without having sex then that's great. I'm wondering what's wrong with you two though? Don't you or your husband ever get horny? I mean really, men are sex freaks. What's really going on?
2006-11-13 17:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋