Give me 5 reasons why co-habitation (Living with the opposite sex) before marriage is bad?

Question

Give me 5 reasons why co-habitation (Living with the opposite sex) before marriage is bad? Best answer gets 10 points!! thanx n advance!

Answer 1

1. Against the Bible itself....flat up says that no man or woman shall lay with the other prior to wedlock. That means under same roof as well not just sleeping together.

2. You learn everything about the person and you now have lost one of the very basics of what marriage is all about....learning about the person.

3. Its too easy to get into fights, not see eye to eye, not get along or even end it all cause there is no real binding between you. You both know you can run away if need be meaning you'll never put 110% into it the relationship to begin with. This alone will cause issues and breaks in the relationship over time.

4. You learn to see the person as your live in gf more than your wife. Once you get married your vision of her (and hers back) never really changes.....actually the paper causes arugments between bf and gf...but rarely between husbands and wives.

5. Marriage is the one true thing we get in life....you get happiness, belonging, self worth, love, etc from it. WHY in the world would you want to risk any of that just to start early or to nibble on your meal before dinner time?

6. Living together prior to marriage is a society issue due to the masses wanting everything now, instantly. Love is the only true drug we have, why rush it? Savor it, bath in it.

7. Most that move in together prior to marriage never get married when they say they will or other issues come up, or they are too busy working, or something. To be married is to be married....not just a room mate that helps with the rent and bills.

8. Most that want to move in together instead of getting married are actually showing signs of cold feet or doubt on the idea itself. Otherwise why are they trying to dodge the idea by only doing it half way? Do you drive half way to work? Do you only wash half your hair? Isn't marriage way more important than driving to work or washing your hair?

Answer 2

in all honesty, i don't believe its bad. i only think it is bad when you have no intentions or have no idea whether or not you are going to marry the person you are staying with. it is very good for newly engaged people if they aren't already living together. it allows them to get a full sense of each other before they get married. one reason that i can think of that would make it a bad idea to live with the opposite sex before marriage is if you haven't discussed marriage. after some time, one or the other could want marriage and the other doesn't and it could put pressure on the relationship and cause it to end in a not so happy ending. it is also tempting as far as sex. sex leads to children that you may not be ready to have, let alone with someone you still don't know if you want to be with the rest of your life and children are a life time commiment. another reason is one of you could become over bearing, always questioning where the next is at, keeping tabs on them, and stirring thoughts in the mind that are unnecessary, thus putting pressure on the relationship and causing it to end prematurely. when you don't live together, you don't have that problem. another reason is one person could have their stuff together and the other doesn't making it hard for the one to keep their stuff together (stuff being financial matters not personal belongings). that can definitely be a burden on someone's mind and once again, cause the relationship to end early. and a last reason is of course habits. one may have good habits and the other has bad, and that could be very clashing. co-habitation is really good for a relationship, but one that has already been properly established, like you are engaged and going to be married in a few months. you would have already discussed the issues that i mentioned, letting you know quite some time ago whether or not you wanted to marry that person. it is not good when you rush into it and you don't know where your relationship is headed.

Answer 3

I don't really think that it's bad, but here goes:
1. It gets the rumors starting
2. Some states, although a limited number, have common marriage laws, and you may find yourselves married if you live together for too long
3. It gets really weird when you both start bringing boyfriends/girlfriends home
4. Things may get intense between the two of you (eitehr sexually or in a negative emotional sense).
5. Lack of connection and understanding. When you are married, you give allowances to sch things, but in this case, you might not be willing to.
6. It leaves nothing for the marriage later on if you plan to get married, although this can also be a good thing.. test things first...
7. You have you be careful what you show your roommate: you can't really both go around naked or even half-naked all the time
8. Your parents won't like it
9. Cleaning after one another (learning bad habits) without love/marriage.
10. Paying for everything and sexist ideas.

Haha. I dunno why I wrote ten.

Answer 4

I don;t think it is bad. I think it's smart.

I *could* split this out into five reasons, but basically you know whether you're compatible before you make a legal commitment. Youalso will have time to adjust to living with someone, not everything at once-- the stress of a wedding, plus suddenly having to shift from living alone or with roommates or family to having a intimate living situation.


We lived togather for four years and got married when our son was on the way. Still together and loving the empty nest!

Answer 5

"Co-habitation" of any kind involves risks--married or not. The risks heighten when the couple share financial burdens of property ownership....and such risks increase when they parent children. With such risks comes complicated legal issues.

The Bible says marriage is an institution worthy of moral respect---but it DOESN'T say un-wedded couples will go to Hell if they share a life together. WE as society interjected moral beliefs that it's the honorable/civil thing for a couple to marry, bear children and live out life as one; a beautiful concept---but is it realistic???

Yes and no: just as there are married couples celebrating their 50th year together, there are just as many bemoaning their 50th day together--with eyes on divorcing!!

This is NOT to say "co-habitation" isn't for everybody, because it is IF--and this is a very big "IF".......maybe more realistic to say WHEN you find that right person. If you're more comfortable basing such a relationship on a moral foundation, then that is your choice: perfectly OK; it's really an issue NOT for us to offer to you.

Answer 6

1. Against God (if you even care about that)
2.Easy access booty for your man
3. Man may give excuses as to why you should wait even longer to get married.
4. why settle for less?
5. Just an excuse to test the waters? (lame) why live together? just get married and do it the right way.
6. More people these days live together instead of getting married...No one has integrity or strong morals these days, anything goes!
7. If your asking this question maybe you shouldnt do it. (Maybe you know it isn't right!)

Goodness the world is full of excuses... If anyone paid attention to marital history more families stuck together in the past then they do now... I wonder why??

Answer 7

1. Sex before marriage makes sex after marriage quite pointless.
2. Living with them before marriage makes living with them after marriage not much difference.
3. Can end up having bastards.
4. The man may decide that he's not "ready to commit" to marriage and postpone it indefinitely (why shouldn't he, he's getting sex and kids anyway so what will a ring do?!)
5. No discovering of each other, no new compromises, no surprises...life after marriage is utterly boring, its just like doing what you did before you got married except now you have a ring on your finger and are in debt because of the wedding ceremony. Yipee.
Solution = find the love of your life, marry them, then have sex and babies in that order, not the reverse order that most people are nowadays headed for.

Answer 8

Depending on the situation....

Loss of Independence

Religious beliefs and the morals that go with some of them.

Some get trapped in a world of co-habitation and the marriage never happens, get him to buy the cow before moving it into the barn. (No pun of the cow intended)

Answer 9

The post marriage problems which take time for coming, start coming almost immediately after marriage in these cases. In marriages without pre-marriage relationship, lot of things are ignored on account of common interest activity i.e. sex.

Answer 10

Well, i don't have any, i think it's better to co-habitate before trying to spend your life in a miserable way, causing troubles to yourself and to your children, they indeed could possibly ask in the Future "Why didn't you give it a second thought"