Husband works offshore?

Question

My husband works for three to four weeks at a time on offshore oil rigs. We have been together for two and a half years, but he has only had this job for six months. We have been married less than a month, and I really miss him alot. We have a 3yr old daughter and she misses having him around when he is gone. He stays onshore for about two to three weeks, so the time we have is precious.
Has anyone had any experience with this? I am not worried about our relationship right now, but I don't want us to grow apart or lose what we are to each other over time. How do I keep the love alive and keep from missing him so badly?

I am not complaining that he is gone. He makes good money and I enjoy being alone sometimes. I am just seeking advice from people who know what this is like. It is more preventative than anything. (I like to think ahead)

Answer 1

Hi,

I know what you're going thru, ,my husband's in the military and sometimes he's gone for 6 months straight, so I know how it feels to miss him terribly and the "fears" that come from being apart from each other. I have to agree with the first response and that is communication is the most important thing when you're away from each other. In my case, my husband works in a submarine and we can't have any type of communication until he gets to port and sometimes he doesn't get there until 3 months after. So yeah, I know exactly how it is.

Unfortunately, there's no easy way to keep from missing him. It is something that you learn to get used to overtime. When I married my husband, he was already in the Navy and at first, it was extremely hard having to get used to him being away but overtime, I've learned how to deal with it. I work full time and I busy myself with my activities and friends. In that way, it makes it easier to deal with but doesn't completely make it go away either.
I would suggest expressing to your husband how you feel. Maybe he's feeling the same thing. Communicate when possible and keep the connection with him going.

Answer 2

When he is around, spend as much time as possible (as a family and a couple). Cherish every moment. When he is away and you are able to communicate with him (by phone, email or letter) do so. Communication is the most important thing when you two are apart.
At the same time, don't neglect yourself in the process. Find activities and hobbies you can enjoy and pursue so you won't be so bored and it will make it easier on you while he's away from home.

Answer 3

You are a very lucky woman. You have time of your own and time together with your hubby. Why complaining and missing somebody who will be back soon? Enjoy your life as it is. Married life is not always fun and you have the opportunity to organize your life as you wish when he is away. Do not be so dependent on other people, especially a hubby.

Answer 4

His absence gives you time to finish other chores and to do up thew house. Dont waste time doing things which could have been done in his absence when he is around. Spend as much time as u can together. Do things that both of you enjoy even if it means just lying in bed !!!!!!!!!

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the love between you guys makes u miss him. mk the best when he is around and also teh best when he is not. you can do a lot of things so that you distract yourself from missing him. like being close to your daughter,letting her to what she wants, indulging in some activities of your personal interets etc.

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