My husband is a moocher. He makes me dinner and washes the dishes, but that is about as far as it goes. I have two jobs and am working my butt off but he doesn't even have one. All he does is play on the computer and look at stuff on ebay. He is always asking me to get him things. He makes me so mad. He complains about everything. He even complains that he is tired of taking me to and from work "he won't let me use his car" and he calls himself my "cabservice". I am carrying all of the weight on my shoulders. I could go on and on about this. It is almost like I am supporting and taking care of him and he is my child. I am sick of it!
2006-11-13 16:54:04 · 23 answers · asked by Emmie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go to counseling maybe it will help or if you dont have kids you can always leave him but if you have kids work it out
2006-11-13 16:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him how you feel. If he is a man he would want to help out the family. he may be way to comfortable with you bringing home the beacon....Tell him if he wants things than get his lazy a$$ to work he can have anything he wants. You should not buy him anything anymore. The more you do it the more he will take advantage of you. Remember he is your husband not your child. He should help you financially with the house,food, and so on. He sounds pathatic..You are wasting your time with him. Give him some time to change if he doesn't than kick him out. I know how you feel. My sister is in the same situation as you. She have a loser husband who doesn't work and bumms after her. She's working 2 job supporting the 2 kids and him....She didn't want to divorce him b/c she believe he will change. Yrs after yrs he is still the same. She finally realized that he will never change and ended the relationship. It's sad for the kids that the parents are divorce. She is much happier now. She raised the kids by herself. But at least she doesn't have to support that bum.
2006-11-13 17:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's only sponging off you with out any actual reason, and is not a minimum of doing the homestead artwork, then sure you have each and every good to be envious. it's time to shelter it. stress the issue, make him the two get a job or do each and all of the home commonplace jobs. even though will truthfully make you experience such as you're in an equitable relationship. yet, do not make any threats which you're actually not keen to grant on. do not tell him you will go away him except you certainly will.
2016-10-22 01:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like it's time for tough love. Get a job or get out should be your new catch phrase.
Most people get married with the thought that they are forming a partnership, wherein both people will contribute equally to the success of the marriage. From your description, this is not the way it is for you, and as long as you allow this to continue on it's currnt path, you'll be handling the same problems you've described.
Best of luck.
2006-11-13 17:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly sick of it, KICK HIM TO THE CURB! You say the only thing he does is make your dinner and wash the dishes. More that likely you could hire a maid AND a cook and still come out ahead money wise if you are supporting him.
2006-11-13 17:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by rosey 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had one like that, even found out he was out with other women while I was working 2 jobs and going to school. He wouldn't even watch the kids, so off to day care they went. That only lasted a few months.
I put his crap on the lawn and said "see ya mooch". Haven't seen or heard from him since.
2006-11-13 16:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by prairie_babe74 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first, why doesnt he work, is he disabled or going to school? second, if you are working 2 jobs and he is not, then its his job to do the house, you should buy your car, i assume you are paying for the internet.....SHUT IT OFF, tell him to get a job or leave....PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN cause he will keep doing it...mine did for 4 years......if this has gone on for awhile, and yu dont have kids, i would tell him, take off for a few days and let him think about it.
2006-11-13 16:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by hamhead 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same way guys should deal with gold diggers. Kick him/her out or force them to get a job.
2006-11-13 17:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you from england?
how do u tell when a plane load of english tourists lands at the airport?
the whining keeps going long after the engines are shut down.
stop ya whining, if ya dont like it, leave. jesus you are lucky getting the dinner and washing done.
2006-11-13 17:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
WHY is he even still living under your roof? Send him back to his mommy and find a real man.
2006-11-13 17:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by slick chik 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋