2006-11-13 16:18:28 · 20 answers · asked by Ms. Inquisitive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They both trust and believe in each other. They also stand by each other by all reasonable means necessary.
2006-11-13 16:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Background: I was widowed after 28 years of Ozzie & Harriot..
What makes it work?
1) It doesn't have to work but you did make a commitment back there and you did care a lot for each other at some point in the past..
2) Those are the feelings (the love, attractions, etc) that you must hold onto for success..
- The guy has to understand that the lady needs to be courted and spoiled once in a while. And he needs to understand that this is not his nature nor is it intuitive to him. i.e. you gals are emotional, us guys are analytical.
3) There will always be bumps in the road but open honest caring communication is what makes it work in the long haul..
4) In my case, there was one bump on both our sides where we were willing to quit if the issue was not resolved.. It could have gone either way, fortunately it went good.
5) you must both be happy in life together and if you are not then you must define and resolve whatever issues exist. There can be no issues that are not out in the open and on the table for resolution.
6) you can't just "have it"; it changes over time as you each change over time.. Awareness of each other, caring, communication, and the willingness to let it go if it comes to that really are the keys to success..
- good luck
2006-11-14 00:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite my reoccurring dissatisfaction with my wife, we have what I would call a very successful marriage. SEX is what makes it work. Lots and lots of sex. And when you're not having it, playing around and talking about the next time we're going to do it makes things interesting.
2006-11-14 01:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like you need to know that your guy is happy with you? Ask him. If he's not good at communicating, you need to find out what really gets him thinking. Marriage is easier than people say. The bad times never last, so ride them out and try to forget.
Basicly, men need space. So don't be mad at him for looking at other women, because in his mind, all women translate to his plans for you. Love is when you know in your heart of hearts that you wouldn't be whole if he was gone.
2006-11-14 00:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by neff_crystal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ITS EASY! You just need to follow the rainbow to one of its ends and dig out the pot of gold. Then you mount on your flying unicorn and enter Narnia by the door in the closet upstairs. LOL
There is no sucessful marriage because there is no perfect person. You find the person that gives you the least amount of crap and marry her. Then life just sucks a little less, but still sucks.
2006-11-14 00:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
trust, companionship, love, honor. those all help
I admit its hard being married but i love him so much and he loves me if your having problems try and compromise like our first problem was his gaming and taking away my t.v. i know this sounds funny but my hubby loves the x box and the x box 360 and i hate them so much but i put up with it until finally i blew up. so now we have two televisions so he can play and i can watch t.v. that was like the first thing we successfully did together was compromising. so i would say when you have compromised you have succedded in the marriage.
2006-11-14 00:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of compromise, apologies even if you don't mean and lots of understanding.
Flexibility is the key
2006-11-14 01:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by Just4YA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Repeating these words at the right time
a) I love you
b) I need you
c) I am sorry
2006-11-14 00:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by rvsasi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mutual respect, love, communication and having the same interest in life. Speak when you NEED to speak and listen when you NEED to listen!!!!!
2006-11-14 00:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Neetaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love makes it work.
2006-11-14 00:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by R S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋